Last week, Sarah Rae Trover wrote a beautiful post entitled 5 Completely Free Ways Make your House a Home. It reminded me about a quote I read last year that really changed my perspective on my home, specifically on taking care of my home. Anyone who knows me well will tell you that cleaning is not something that I enjoy.
I used to procrastinate all household chores until the last possible second. (As in, ten minutes before someone came over.) Then I read this quote from a book called "Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy" that was given to me by my sister-in-law:
Time to dust again. Time to caress my house, to stroke all its surfaces. I want to think of it as a kind of lovemaking ...the chance to appreciate by touch what I live with and cherish.-Gunilla Norris
Reading that quote made me decide that I was going to stop dreading household work. Instead, I was going to try to see it as taking care of my home, taking time to cherish the things that I have, and taking time to be thankful for all of the experiences and memories that are expressed in my home. Lovemaking might be a bit of a stretch, but I began to see taking care of my home in a new light. Folding laundry, cleaning the kitchen counter, and unloading the dishwasher became just as important in caring for my family as tucking my kids in or giving them a much-needed hug.
The quote also reminded me that homes are like precious family members that need to be cared for, loved, and appreciated. It reminded me that homes are not bound by the walls that hold them together, and that they are filled with memories, love, and joy. It reminded me that homes are our sanctuaries, our places of refuge, of solace, and of peace. I took a look around to find some other quotes that evoke the same feelings of love and care for the home.
Here are 10 beautiful quotes to help remind us of the true value of the meaning of the word home.
1. "The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned." - Maya Angelou
I love this definition of the word home. . ."the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned." Our homes take us in at our best, at our worst, and everywhere in between. Even as an adult, I still feel that ache for home. There is nothing better than climbing into your own bed, in your own home when you are physically or mentally exhausted.
2. "Home is where one starts from." -T. S. Eliot
Home is our starting point. Most of our first experiences happen at home. First laugh. First steps. First words. In our homes we build relationships and skills that will deeply affect us for the rest of our lives. Home is the beginning; it is where we start (or re-start.)
3. "There is nothing like staying at home for real comfort." - Jane Austen
When you are tired, run-down, sad, lonely, sick, or just plain burnt out… is there anything better than staying at home? There is something about the walls of your own home; they seem to just reach down and give you a big hug, and tell you that everything is going to be all right.
4. "Where we love is home - home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts." -Oliver Wendell Holmes
I love this quote because it reminds me of all of the homes (not just my own) where I have loved, been loved, and feel at home. My maternal grandparents' apartment. The house I grew up in. The house my grandmother lived in for 50 years but sold to move to Florida. The love in those places was significant and even an image or a brief thought about them makes me feel better.
5. "Home is a name, a word, it is a strong one; stronger than any magician ever spoke, or spirit ever answered to, in the strongest conjuration." -Charles Dickens
There is, I think, something magical about home. Whether you are a kid finding the best places to hide your Star Wars collection, or an adult putting the key into the lock after a long day, there is something about coming home that is somewhat magical. You walk in the door and things feel a little bit lighter. You settle into your favorite chair for the night and your home embraces you; it makes you feel supported, taken care of, and at peace.
6. "Home, the spot of earth supremely blest, A dearer, sweeter spot than all the rest" - Robert Montgomery
"The spot of earth supremely blest". . .what a great description. By gathering with our friends or family, and building up a collection of cherished memories and experiences, we bless the space around our homes. We create a space that is powerful - one that can carry us through anything.
7. "Where is home? Home is where the heart can laugh without shyness. Home is where the heart's tears can dry at their own pace." - Vernon Baker
Home is where we can truly be ourselves. Where we don't have to hide anything about who we are, how we are feeling or what we are thinking. I love the expression of letting the "heart's tears...dry at their own pace." Home is where we can put down the roles that we sometimes play and just let everything go.
8. "We shape our dwellings, and afterwards, our dwellings shape us." - Winston Churchill
I think this quote really sums up the significance of building a home that is healthy and happy, in aesthetics but more importantly, in spirit. A home that is comfortable, beautiful and full of love. When you are surrounded by those things, positive feelings seem to manifest themselves.
9. "Home is the heart of life... Home is where we feel at ease, where we belong, where we can create surroundings that reflect our tastes and pleasures... Making a home is a form of creativity open to everyone." - Terence Conran
The art of making a home. No insignificant task. I love this idea of the art form of making a home. More than making a place that is pleasant to the eye, it is also about making a place that is a representation of who we are and what we love. An art that is open to everyone.
10. "There is room in the smallest cottage for a happy loving pair." - Johann Friedrich Von Schiller
Small in size, but vast in heart. I think we have seen many of these homes on Apartment Therapy over the years. Homes with character and love that emanate from their beautiful photos. Thank you, Apartment Therapy readers, for sharing your homes with us over the years. For by doing so, you have also been brave enough to share your hearts.
Image: Juan Enriquez/Beatrice & Ramsey's Cultured Echo Park Casa


Shaw's Original Fir...
I would also add Tom Waits' House Where Nobody Lives:
So if you find someone
Someone to have, someone to hold
Don't trade it for silver
Don't trade it for gold
I have all of life's treasures
And they are fine and they are good
They remind me that houses
Are just made of wood
What makes a house grand
Ain't the roof or the doors
If there's love in a house
It's a palace for sure
Without love...
It ain't nothin but a house
A house where nobody lives
Without love it ain't nothin
But a house, a house where
Nobody lives.
Oh!!!!! I LOVE this article! I just got home from a long vacation and have been aching to do some "nesting". This article could not have been timed any better. Thanks so much for sharing!
PS. *ohmeursault- Your comment citing Tom Waits lyrics were delicious icing upon a yummy cake!
these are wonderful - thank you!
my favorite, which i have in a little frame, is:
"If you sweep a house, and tend its fires and fill its stove, and there is love in you all the years you are doing this, then you and that house are married, that house is yours."
-Truman Capote
need rainbow print!
These are all wonderful. Love the Eliot one. So true...
The rainbow print was/is? available from 20x200.
For small home dwellers, that last one is pure gold.
I am just about to start a major renovation. This post and its follow ups could not have come at a better time to confirm to me that I want to live as comfortably in my home as I do in my life, and share the treasures of home with friends. And for poetry, read the full poem from T.S. Eliot called 'Little Gidding' which is all about going out in the world and coming home again. Thank you for the posts!
Laura
What a great list!
Also I like/love: “Home is the girl's prison and the woman's workhouse” -George Bernard Shaw
I've always like an old Irish toast:
"May your home always be too small to hold all your friends."
It's what i remind myself when i'm trying to reconfigure my living room or dining room yet again to try to seat more people comfortably.
Thank you for this great post and all the comments- I always feel happy,safe and secure when I'm home....
I also like "What lives around me that soon lives within me." Friedrich Nietzsche and
"With same sourroundings still everyone lives in a different world." Arthur Schopenhauer
I learned tons about this in Marylin Pauls Book "It's hard to make a difference if you can't find your keys". Thanks for the wonderful post!
Thank you ohmeursault. I love that Tom Waits song too. For the first several years of owning our little 1000 sq ft house felt very small for my family of 4, but thanks to so many creative ideas here on AT, we've really made it our own and I wouldn't trade it.
Glad you all enjoyed the post and thank you so much for all of the awesome additional quotes. I also just ordered up a copy of "It's Hard to Make a Difference when You Can't Find Your Keys" ... a book that sounds like it was written for me...
I grew up with this saying on a plaque which always hung on the wall :
"Home's not merely four square walls. Home is where affection calls."
Jackie,
I think you really nailed this one! What a great post. Very warm and cozy - just like home should be.
Wonderful article! Thank you!
@csaustin - thank you very much!
@CityChik - I love that quote too and love the idea of having it hanging on the wall as a reminder.
It also reminds me of one of my favorite homes (and favorite families) on Squirrel Island in Maine. The house was adorable, tiny and quaint. (As was the island...no phones, no cars.) The family named their house "The Laughing Place" and it was written on sign outside the front door. Just made you want to go in there, hang out with their amazing family, and share some good times...
"Home is where the heart is". 'Home is where, when you go there,they have to take you in". "Everywhere you hang your hat is home". So...When we were traveling for months and our kid was small we decide that as well as the above, home is where we are all together and glad to be so.
Thank you for this post; I'm bookmarking it. We've lived in our house for almost 6 years, but it wasn't until I had my first son 3 years ago and began staying home that I truly fell in love with our home. Now, I'm trying to really show that love by updating things.
What you reap is what you sow, regardless of whether you own it or you don't.
Zen and the art of housework - now go and clean that toilet!
"If I were asked to say what is at once the most important production of Art and the thing most to be longed for, I should answer, A beautiful House; and if I were further asked to name the production next in importance and the thing next to be longed for, I should answer, A beautiful book. To enjoy good houses and good books in self-respect and decent comfort, seems to me to be the pleasurable end towards which all societies of human beings ought now to struggle." William Morris
Rainbow print artist name? anyone?
I have a framed, primitive cross stitch that says Small Home, Great Peace. I love it!
@MackenzieFrames that is exactly what my husband said when he read this post...since you love dusting so much...get back to it!
@mountainhum i LOVE that William Morris quote
thanks all for sharing!
Thank you for these. They are beautifull. I have been quite nomadic for the last 1.25 years, and this just reiterates how I feel. There is no place like home. :)