I Asked People What They Regret Not Doing More, and This Is What They Said

I Asked People What They Regret Not Doing More, and This Is What They Said

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Adrienne Breaux
Apr 21, 2017
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I'm a huge fan of interviewing people with admirable lives for their secrets to living...to being successful...to even keeping their homes clean. Good wisdom from smart people is invaluable. I want to take advice from people in hopes that I can skip over more of the "making mistakes" part of life.

Recently I reached out to people I found compelling from our house tours and asked their opinion on what the most important thing about making a home is and the things in their home they felt were worth the money when it came to happiness. (Glad to see that rugs, books and art made the "worth it" list, considering my apartment is 99.9% of those three things).

It's fitting then, that in this last post of the series, the advice shared is something I'm stubborn about. Wisdom I need to hear over (and over) again. And since several people responded with the same answer, maybe it's something you need to hear again, too. This was my question: what do you wish you did more often at home?

Their unanimous answer:

Entertain.

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"Entertaining is something we love to do but simply don't do enough. The last dinner party we held had us glowing for days. It's such a joy to have a meeting of creative minds over a lovingly prepared meal. Entertaining fills a home with vitality, then later with memories that sustain."

Carol Stall is an artist and jewelry designer, and we toured her and her husband Phil's charming 1930s Austin home.

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"There is one thing that I wish I'd done more of, and that's entertain. I've got the perfect space for it, and I should do it more. I was reminded of that recently when I left my job to take up another position. See, I've developed a tradition of hosting a Christmas party at my place for my coworkers. It's a potluck, but I take the day off and stay home to cook a turkey. It's a laid back, and, well, comfortable event — sort of self-organizing, so less pressure on me.

The past couple of years I've invited the whole department, about 90 people — luckily only about half ever make it! So, when I was letting people know that I was leaving the organization, the responses were almost uniform — first, happiness for me, second, sadness that I was leaving, and third, what are we gonna do for a Christmas party??? So, at least it's not too late for me to address my desire to entertain more. And I suppose there's no reason I couldn't hold multiple Christmas parties!"

Tim Tripp has a passion for the history of decor and design that's present throughout his Toronto loft.

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"We are very conscious of how blessed we are to live in such a comfortable home with the room and the means to entertain. I would love to do more of this — to share our blessing with others. Unfortunately that also takes energy, and energy can tend to be in short supply with six busy kids in the house. It's definitely something we aim to do more of, though!"

Ruth de Vos (find her on Facebook and Instagram) is a textile artist living in Western Australia with her husband and six kids. We toured their beautiful family home.