A Wedding Guest's Bill of Rights, or How to Avoid Drama if You're Planning or Attending a Wedding

A Wedding Guest's Bill of Rights, or How to Avoid Drama if You're Planning or Attending a Wedding

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Taryn Williford
Jan 8, 2016
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A wedding is, of course, all about celebrating the couple. It's their big day, after all. But that doesn't mean that wedding guests don't have rights, too. If you're planning a wedding, or going to one, here are the unalienable rights we think you should know every guest is entitled to...

It is the right of the guest to RSVP "no" if they're busy, broke or just don't want to go. But guests should RSVP in a timely manner. And if a guest responds "yes," it is their responsibility to attend.

No guest shall be made to feel obligated to bring a gift to the wedding. Etiquette states one has up to a year after the wedding to offer the couple a gift. A guest can also send one ahead of the wedding, or not give a gift at at all. A present is not the price of admission.

The right to shop off the registry shall not be infringed. A couple shouldn't feel as though they need to force feed their registries to their guests (a mention on the wedding website will be enough). Registries aren't sacred, though, and if a guest knows something the couple will love, by all means, they should buy it.

It is the right of the guest to know the dress code. If the vibe of the couple's wedding allows for them to get specific about what guests should wear, they should be forthcoming with that information. Guests appreciate having a heads up that they'll be walking on the sand or outside in crisp fall air for a 20-minute ceremony.

It is the right of the guest to be secure in their dancing. Everyone should cut loose out there without worry about who's watching. It's a wedding.

The right to enjoy an open bar shall not be violated. Especially if the guest has a hotel room upstairs and is spending the evening with their besties from college. By all means, get crazy.

It is the guest's right to be really freakin' excited. So many people act like going to a wedding is a miserable burden, but you know what? Weddings are the best. It's OK to be totally, unabashedly excited about going to one. After all, the wedding will be more fun if you think of it as a party instead of an obligation.

What do you consider to be the rights and responsibilities of a wedding guest?

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