Alice, My Roommate Forgets to Flush!

Alice, My Roommate Forgets to Flush!

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Jan 20, 2015
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Dear Alice,

My roommate seems to have some kind of mental block about flushing the toilet. She uses the restroom right before getting in the shower, doesn't flush, and then forgets(!?!) to flush after her shower. Talk about TMI! This is so awkward I don't even know how to bring it up. Help!

Sincerely,

Busted in the Bathroom

Dear Busted in the Bathroom,

Eek! Kinda makes you wish for a good old-fashioned shower-pee, amiright? That would almost be preferable to a shocking surprise the next time you need the loo. I'm guessing your roommate may have grown up in a extremely water-conscious family. You know, the "if it's yellow let it mellow" crowd? Some families are simply more comfortable sharing certain...err...facts of life than others. Maybe she doesn't even realize this is bothering you.

But the fact is that you guys are now sharing a space so you need to set up conditions that work for both of you. You're right, this is pretty awkward and sometimes the only way to deal with major awkwardness is to address it face on and be done with it. It may be tempting to leave some kind of passive-aggressive note on the mirror but please, resist that urge. The next time it happens, simply say, "Hey, don't forget to flush!" and see if that fixes the situation right there. At the very least it will point out to her that you notice (and don't appreciate) this little habit.

Love,

Alice

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