Autonomous and Committed: Living Apart Together

Is it possible to have a committed relationship if you and your partner maintain separate addresses? Can you have the togetherness that you want, while also enjoying the solitude you crave at the same time? More and more couples are attempting to make this concept work in a newish trend dubbed living apart together.

LAT, as it is often called for short, is the term used to describe couples who have an intimate relationship, but live at separate addresses. (The New York Times recently featured a couple who took it one step further — with adorable his and hers cottages on the same lot.)

The arrangement is popular among Baby Boomers — some of whom have been married before, or have lived solo their entire life and want to stay that way — but the trend is gaining traction among the younger set, too. According to research, the LAT setup can be seen across a wide range of ages and socioeconomic backgrounds, and is becoming increasingly understood and socially accepted. Couples might enter into this new living form for a variety of reasons: a relationship that is too young for cohabitation or jobs that prevent living in the same place. But for some, it is a choice. A choice to be committed to the relationship, but also to the self.

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