I love looking through images of beautiful spaces for inspiration, encouragement and motivation, but sometimes all the ideas start to clog up my brain, and I'm filled with a deep sense of lassitude. In other words, I start comparing my home to picture-perfect, stylist-cultured, magazine-ready spaces, and I feel discontent about the walls I have to look at every day.
I call it catalog burn-out — also known as Pinterest fatigue and magazine exhaustion. To combat this syndrome, I think it's important to reassess our homes for what they should be — a place to thrive, to create memories, to have a shelter away from the world; I have to ask myself sometimes if I am striving to create a space that looks impressive or a space that represents me and feels… well, just right. To get back on track, I like to step away from the computer, amend my goals, and make some changes.
Here are a few things you can do to refresh your perspective and gently nudge your home or apartment into a more graceful, creative space that is unique to you. And all it really takes is patience, time, and a little hard work.
• Organize what you have; a clean, organized home is halfway there. Clutter is the first enemy of a peaceful, inspiring space. I have to remind myself of this rule often if I am feeling discouraged or overwhelmed about a room—simply de-cluttering a space is an instant energizer!
• Donate or recycle extra items. An important part of de-cluttering is paring down what you have to the essentials. I sometimes find myself moving or handling things that I never, ever use—I recently realized a drawer in my kitchen held about fifteen different rectangular pot holders that I don't even like. Reducing "copies" of things is a good way to pare down.
• Bring out things you love. Once you realize how much space you've freed up with the clutter gone, you can choose several things that represent you to use in your space. I love hand-thrown pottery, and have bought several pieces over the years that I really love. I never used the pieces in my décor until recently—I didn't have a place to put them, and was always saving them for "something special." I finally realized a very special way to use them was to bring them out for everyday use in my home.
• Carefully collect new things to love. I am what some would (lovingly, of course) call a tight-wad. I almost never buy an item on impulse, even if I love it. But I've learned—especially at garage sales or thrift stores—that if I love a piece, and it's in the budget, to go ahead and get it. Slowly collecting things that I love over the years will really help make my home feel unique and personal.
• Reconsider existing wall art. Imagine taking down everything currently hanging on your walls and looking at them in a fresh way. Are there things that are too small—or too big—for your wall space? Do you have photos or art that could be changed out for something new? Do you have art hanging up that you aren't really that fond of? I have a few paintings my grandfather brought my grandmother back from Korea when he was stationed there during the Korean War, and I treasure them—but I don't like the way I have them framed. Changing out the frames or mats will go a long way toward helping me love the space they are in.
• Make some new art! I frequently paint over old paintings that I'm ready to say goodbye to. If you're not the painting type, create some easy art with magazine cuttings, paint chips, or cardstock. Or try something new—recently I bought a few things at a craft store to make linocut prints. I made a few simple printings on some cardstock, slipped them in a simple frame—and I love them!
• Rearrange furniture. I love rearranging a room and giving it a new feel and fresh perspective. In fact, one of my favorite things to do is to move our furniture around and see if I can improve on a room. It's also a good excuse to vacuum those never-seen parts of your rugs and floor—nothing beats knowing there aren't any secret dust collections hiding in nooks and crannies. A new furniture layout means you get to rethink your space—changing the position of indirect lighting and art can do a lot for making a room feel new.
• Switch rooms. Almost every bedroom in my house has once been an office, a guest room, or my bedroom. It almost gives you that just-moved-in feeling when you get to decide where everything will go in a new space. Sometimes I wonder what I would do with my office if it were in the current nursery. So I find out!
• Bring in some fresh foliage. Even in the winter, you can bring in evergreens or bare branches. I realized this summer that if I cut fresh flowers from my gardens and brought them indoors, it instantly perked up the room. Sounds obvious, but I had never done it before because I was hesitant to cut anything blooming in my garden. But I've gotten braver, and it has paid off; bring in what you are drawn to in nature.
• Try to ignore trends and imagine what you like. Sure, I've picked up many ideas on the internet or in magazines, but the things that have lasted in my home have been things that I was drawn to just because they spoke to me. Don't be afraid to try something that you've never seen anyone do in their home—all great ideas were at some point done for the first time!
Remember that what makes your home special to you is the extension of you and your family's personalities. If your home is clean, comfortable, and represents you, it's special. Sometimes when I start feeling discouraged about my home, I remember that my family, my kids, and even my guests won't remember how stylish or trendy my space was years down the road. What they will remember is the feeling of being cared for, sheltered, and maybe even inspired by the little place we call home.
What about you? Do you sometimes need a break from all the pinning—I mean, pining—on the internet? What are your tips for making your home special to you?
Image : Jen Siska from Erin & Danny's House Tour on Apartment Therapy


Shaw's Original Fir...
On some days where I blitz through all of the material I collect on pinterest and catalogs, I feel that burn out settle in, only because I realize I don't have some of the things that make up those inspirational settings. Then I usually take days to weeks worth of breaks from these materials before looking at them again. But in the meantime, I get to look around and remember what I saw, and see if I can apply what I learned to my space and with what I already have on hand.
I definitely agree with getting rid of clutter, and most of the time when I buy items, I'm always thinking of how often might I use it and if I already have an item that is exactly the same or very similar. It helps me avoid buying too much stuff at once and ultimately spending more time on editing my household goods.
Spending time in my home is definitely something that makes my home special to me. The hubby and I are out often on business and personal trips and since we just moved, making the new space a home is going to take a long while!
...I've been feeling it but never related it to Pinterest {etc.} until last night...My BF said "That's not helping you know..." as I poured over the travel and decor photos on Pinterest...
We've been renovating the kitchen and I run to Pinterest every time there's a bump in the road/wall. I'm an addict! :) I guess I'll have to break open the Dew next bump...
Excellent post!
AnDee
Brilliant. In my book, getting rid of clutter so you can bring out your nicest pieces = better than a gift certificate to my favorite catalog store. (Well, a small gift certificate, at least!)
We totally have this problem, and being a blogger somewhat compounds things!
I was just thinking exactly this today, so thank you for this post!
We need to be more thankful for what we do have rather than living a malcontented life, lusting after what we don't have.
Thank you!
As Maxwell so wisely noted recently, blogging changed everything. In ye olde tymes of yore, the people's houses you saw were yours and those of your friends and families. Now, everybody and their crafty sister/woodworking husband has a blog about how they've fixed up their houses, and it can start to seem like I'm the only one in the world whose house isn't camera-ready at all times, with chevron curtains and no electrical cords showing anywhere. I definitely have to take a break every once in a while.
GREAT post! Thanks!!
I'm a designer, and it has always been hard for me to "choose a style" for my own space, because I love elements of EVERY style! I am equally drawn to modern, clean, minimalist spaces and opulent, broken-in, traditional ones... Do I love something a bit earthy and eclectic, or something slick and techy? Roller shades or swagged velvet??
I have finally gotten some guts at home, and begun to incorporate ALL those elements into a unique and quirky space that truly represents my hubby and I. I discovered there ARE ways for my books, alpaca wool throws, and eames chairs to play off against his dutch family heirlooms, action figures, and home-made tv stand (yes, those are all ACTUAL things in our living room right now) in a way that is both visually appealing and makes us both feel at home in our space!
I agree wholeheartedly with the advice to use magazines, Pinterest, and AT to gather ideas and inspiration, but then to suck up the courage to step back and "forget" all that you've learned, and just honour all the things in your life that you love and that make you feel like YOU!
Great post! As a Foreign Service Officer I moved every 2 to 5 years, often to a new continent, always to a new country, culture, and housing: house, modern apartment, old fashioned apartment. I'm now retired in a condo. Each move, if done well, involved all of those steps plus re-purposing furniture. An old armoire bought in Mexico was just made for my bedroom there. In other moves served in bedroom, guest room and living room. Biggest surprise: it's in my kitchen now. Wood has mellowed to same tone/color as original wood cabinets. I want to have a Mediterranean feeling kitchen using ceramics from North Africa and Southern Europe and a furniture feel. Still a work in progress, but what a happy memory filled place.
There is indeed a point where getting an education from images evolves into a waste of time. I've had to make strict rules, if you can believe it! My rules are:
- No saving images or buying shelter magazines
- Only look at decor photos right before a real-life project for a set period, then quarantine the images and let a direction evolve organically from there.
- No images of rooms with ten-foot ceilings, white or black floors, or architectural details, period. Ever. These are like Gisele Bundchen; they make anything look good!
I don't know if everyone has to be that strict about limiting 'inspiration', but it's definitely resulted in a house that feels more genuine and less imitative, and that reflects what is available in my own community better.
I agree with mrs. mouse! I am a designer and often experience paralysis in my own home because I see so many things and want all of them. It's really hard to commit when you know you are going the find the NEXT BIG THING at an upcoming market. The result is that I put off making any decision and then am living with a stuff/rooms that I don't really feel connected to. Only some outside force, like an insurance claim or a big event coming up snaps me out of it. I didn't even have draperies until last year, and only put them up because I was hosting a meeting of other designers. I love them and don't know how I lived without them for so long.
hunh...my mom was big on changing bedrooms when i was a kid. loved to have everyone pack up and switch. when i went to college, i tried to swap with my brother who's room was smaller. she wouldn't hear of it.
this is a timely post for me. i am in the middle of a huge re-organizing project so my apartment is a mess of boxes full papers to be sorted and filed/shredded, sentimental items to be cherished, clothing and clutter to be donated/recycled and more. it's a huge, awful - but necessary - mess. anyway, as i was sorting through stuff last night, i looked around and silently griped about things i don't like about this place (the awkward layout of the bathroom and the creepy, crepe-y varnish on the dark window trim) and promised myself that i will find a new place to live in 2012. and i will. but by the time i lay down in bed, i was mad at myself. all i could do was think of the many blessings and good things in my apartment and in my life (family and friends who visit because they love me, safety, warmth, cleanliness ...) compared to so many people around the world who have much less or nothing secure and loving at all. may they all be blessed and may i show gratitude for all that i've been given.
thank you.
k
love this post! our first house was decorated to the nines with magazine flair. but it wasn't us. we gave away/sold most of those things and moved only our prized possessions to the other side of the continent and started over. we've both said a hundred times how much more this house reflects our personalities and is comfortable, despite it's rather raggedy look.
yes its true, value what you have, dust it off, i've been humming and hoe-ing over what colour to paint my living room for more than a year now, I know thats bad but Im a busy mom and a grad school student married to a seasonal worker, so time is just never there.. this winter we will paint a neutral colour(boring) only because i've inserted some punches of colour and want to stick on the safe side, ive taken down a lot of the art that i felt i liked in the past, and have one diego painting left up which will become my accent, and maybe pulling a colour from there for more accent, anyway, i surf and surf home decorating.. yes it helps but these words help more.. thank you!
Switching around furniture in my room became a once yearly ritual in high school. I didn't know anything about home decor and had never even heard of a "shelter magazine", but I did know that it made the room feel alive again. I had the most ridiculous magazine cutouts on my wall and nothing matched anything else, but it was such a thrill just to make my room entirely different and my own. :)
Timely post; I feel this way often (morese with clothing catalogs than decorating), but it is definitely more intense as we head into the holiday season.
I have to go cold turkey and just read books or hit the gym. Otherwise, I would spend hours leaving through catalogs or looking at design images online.
@ p_capucine, you are totally right about the Gisele Bundchen effect. i wrote about that the other day on my (everyone-and-their-mom-has-a-blog) blog, http://theyellowcottage.wordpress.com/2011/11/23/house-tours
thanks for this inspiring post! i often feel bad when the time i can spend in my pad is limited (not only to clean, declutter and maintain it). i get angy and every pic i see in the shelter mags make me sad. i really need to reconnect with my pad from time to time.
Great post! I find myself frustrated mostly because I'm in a rental - one where I can't put nails in the wall (not supposed to - so all our pictures are hung with that weird velcro/sticky stuff. not easy to change around), we can't paint, the carpet and floors are very retro and the space is small. I also have a fairly tight-wad husband that isn't big on me buying furniture or things for the house. It's hard because I know we won't be here forever and I'd rather save money to spend it on bigger and better things (kitchen renovations? flooring changes? new furniture) when we buy a house. For me it's really about decluttering and rearranging furniture or re-purposing what we already have.
A refreshing read! It is really an interesting process to challenge your assumptions about what you think you need in a space. Because you're right, you don't really need 15 pot holders.
Very good perspective. I too sometimes get Pinterest fatigue. And it's refreshing to be reminded that we always need to work with what we have in life. Occasionally I even feel that if only I have a woodworking husband that can build things.... It's getting silly.
I agree that de-cluttering the house can change a lot in a space. This is something I try to keep in mind since my boyfriend and I moved in to this new house. I try not to buy useless junks that are cute but really just a waste of space. I'm constantly purging stuff, and making sure that our storage spaces aren't filled to the brim.
We're slowly curating things that we love. It's a slow process, and it really tests my patience sometimes. It's hard to not want to make my home instantly like those shown in the magazines or blogs. I just need to keep reminding myself that it's the process that counts, and we're going to be living in a home that reflects us.
INDEED-- are we spending our moments on earth living in our homes or pursuing a perfectly designed home? Hus and I bought a fixer so have been in project hell and a challenging design process for a year. This post reminds me that, when the necessary things are done, I will have a decision to make-- keep obsessing, or start living? THANKS!! xxoo
And yes, I have tried to enjoy "the process" itself, but I don't think I'm quite there yet. :D
This is exactly how I've been feeling. For the last couple of weeks I've dreaded going into my bedroom because whenever I do I start pulling it to pieces. You gave me some great advice though and now I'm going to sort it out. Thanks so much for this :)
It's only been a couple months since I started on Pinterest and reading design blogs. I started because I bought a 1920 house recently and I'm only moving in a couple months, so that's 6 months waiting all together. I needed inspiration but mostly I think I needed to project my creativity somewhere in the meantime. I was thinking just recently how creative I used to be and how I used to have great ideas of my own before and also that I should have written my own blog a long time ago because I already had some of the same ideas long before I started reading the blogs. Now, I'm not sure what is mine or how much I've been influenced. Or like you, how much I'm trying to impress. We're all around the world and we're going to all end up with the same decor lol Like you I started reorganizing things around a bit and it does help. Inspired by Nate Berkus and the blogs, I tested things out by creating new vignettes on side tables, piling up a couple of books, rearranging things and taking objects from other rooms, even from my drawers and placing them somewhere else, more in sight. So thank you for this post, most excellent and now I feel a bit more normal ;)
This is a great post...I love AT, and have many saved issues of Domino (which I refer to) but the Cure step I couldn't do (and have always avoided) was the inspiration board for exactly this reason---I don't really want to clip images; I think it would add to the overload feeling. I couldn't bring myself to do it for my wedding either, another time people tell you it's helpful. I bet it is, but I lurk online and sort of remember things and bookmark here and there and then just do some stuff. My current apartment in need of therapy is my and my husband's first together and we're still editing our belongings. Sometimes we get frustrated, but really--patiently managing the clutter and keeping things as clean as you can as you figure out your space is a huge help in this regard. It's a marathon, not a sprint, but the incremental rewards are great.
These are great tips. I was just thinking along these lines this weekend when we brought home our Christmas tree. It was too big (!) for our "usual" spot in a far corner, so we moved some furniture and put it alongside an open staircase that splits the room from the dining room. It kind of blocks the view of our (I think attractive) living room for visitors, but looks fabulous from within the room itself. And we discussed out loud whether we were decorating to benefit visitors standing in the hallway or to benefit ourselves in the space we live. (Consensus: "Screw them!") It now looks like we live in a forest and I LOVE it. And it will feel fresh again when we switch back in January.
I used to love that TV show where the lady freshens up a room by going into people's garages and other rooms and reallocates furniture and rugs. Fun and frugal, my favorite combination.
Take pictures of your own home for a new perspective. It will help you see what you love about it!
Very timely post as I had a minor freakout last night when I was trying to rearrange the house to get out Christmas decorations. Our house is small and my husband is a clutter-bug. Add in a toddler and all his accoutrements and I was feeling like the walls were closing in. Took today to reassess some storage options and will be taking a couple of days of Winter Break to work on some of my clutter (hubby's has to wait until his next business trip--the only way to get rid of it).
Beautiful. This is a hard concept to really get comfortable with when it's so easy to wish and nitpick. Being happy in a space is intentional.
How about you announce one day that as soon as we read it, we take a photo of our home, in the exact state it is when we read the post? Then we send em to you and you could post them together, as a little present to your loyal readers. I could use some home-reality commiseration every now and then.
Thank you for this great post! I've been feeling this big-time this past week... just joined Pinterest and going a bit pin-crazy, recently bought my first home, am getting into re-decorating mode, but have absolutely no extra cash to actually do any of the projects I want to do or buy all the cool things out there...
I keep telling myself that I need to focus on the *experience* of my home and the new husband I'm sharing it with, but your ideas are great reminders of concrete ways to do this. You are helping preserve my sanity. THANK YOU!
Dawnie - that is a spectacular idea!
louly - I completely understand what you're saying about feeling like you used to have so many of your own creative ideas, and now you're not sure which are your own.
Recently I've been thinking I'm having fewer ideas the older I get - maybe just getting into a rut - or maybe it's that my standards for what's "good enough" has been altered by the internet - or I need someone's random blog post to validate a project idea and tell me it's going to "work." Upsetting!
I get overload all the time.We are so bombarded with decor info.It's very hard to be realistic about your own space.My friend sells real estate and she assures me most homes are far from beautifully decorated.I try to be inspired without losing myself.It's not easy.
FOr help de-cluttering, check out Flylady.net DO not get overwhelmed-- set your timer and purge to the curb.
MLS real estate listings are an eye opener about every day decor.I like to check out the higher end listings, just so I can be completely underwhelmed!
I live in a small town in a rural county. I only buy local, new and used. I make my home my own with what is available here. Limiting, but a challenging and fun way to create your world, with change at every new discovery. it evolves over time, with much patience.
I love this post so hard! Especially the part about selecting new things to love. The addition of new and exciting things can cause you to think differently about what you already have and appreciate it in a new way.
Two additional suggestions--
1) Change your lighting. It makes what is already there look so much better. Move a lamp, switch the wattage of a bulb or swap it from white to pink.
2) Give your houseplants a dusting with a wet rag coated with a little olive oil. Clean leaves help with photosynthesis and the olive oil gives them a nice sheen. (Skip the oil with ferns and succulents though).
I love dawnie's idea- oh please please please please let us do it!
Dawnie should start a flickr group ;)
Really, though... it's a lovely post. Real life for most people means a home that has a lot of perfectly good "make do" pieces or things you didn't plan on (inherited furniture, anyone?) and not being able to just picture an ideal and then conjure it into being with unlimited funds and resources.
I also think that as a society we are much more "imaginary audience" focused in general, as a result of internet culture.
It is good to be aspirational about things in your life, but really a home isn't a showpiece for the vast majority of folks; it's a place that has to work for you and be your little nest in the world and contain the pieces of material you acquire by living your life. I've had a good solid dose lately of realizing that even the most drool-worthy spaces to look at aren't necessarily the ones I would want to come home to every day. It's better to aim for a feeling, than to try to constantly imagine what sorts of comments your apartment would engender if photos of it were to appear on apartment therapy :)
Great post and good timing.
My 20 yr old and I just had a discussion, as I want to do a Gallery Wall up the stairs and through the upstairs hall of us, our family, ancestors etc.
She said to me "But no one will see it, no visitors go upstairs" to which I replied without thought "It isn't for visitors, it's for us."
An "AH HA" moment for both of us!
All of the previously stated things are so on point with so many of us today. I also love dawnie's idea on showing the real side of everyone's life in the moment. I have a question for AT readers. Everyone wants there home to be a welcoming place for guest, but how do you handle it when guest & their kids completely disrespect your home and the things you've worked hard to acquire ? I don't have that my home is a shrine mentality. I'm talking common sense and courtesy .
dawnie... great idea!
Thanks for the reminder this post brings... I sometimes moan I don't have the time I want around the house and then realise I have just sent 90 minutes looking at other people's homes! Imagine what I could have done in that time!... umm this time... *sigh* oh well.........
sent = spent!
Great post! I often get overwhelmed trying to make things perfect and my mother in law gave me the best advice-- to be happy with something good, don't try to make it perfect. when you try to make things perfect a lot of times you just make things worse and stress yourself out when it looked fine to begin with
My home has very high ceilings and I am often frustrated trying to keep my rooms in proportion.I made the decision to seek out larger and more ornate fixtures.It made a big difference in how my rooms felt.What i learned from doing this is that most people aren't paying any attention to particular details.They are responding to an overall feel when they enter your house.Best advise I ever got when I bought the home I wanted to raise my child in was from my Aunt...Slow down,live in the house and remember it's not going anywhere.It's your home because you live there.
She was right.Nowadays buying is so costly that many people end up house poor trying to make their house a home.Spend some money living and you'll be much happier living in your house.
YES! thanks for putting my thoughts into words.
I don't worry so much about my furniture choices and arrangement, but I can't stop looking at the artwork choices and assembly and feeling like I will never make mine work.
Agree. I know the site is Apartment *Therapy*, but I would rather have more posts that show how people organise the stuff of everyday life, rather than be told constantly to declutter. I sometimes get the impression that the owners of homes featured on AT have no interests or hobbies other than interior design. When you featured the home of a renowned photographer, so many people commented that he must be a hoarder because his home was dedicated to his work.
Great post, thanks. @sdt43, Since you ask, I'd recommend that you stop inviting them to your home. If they ask why and you like them, then privately and kindly tell them the reasons. If they use your honesty to improve their own behavior, then you'll have done them a big favor. If they don't ask, then there are other places you could socialize with them, maybe in their home. If, on top of how they mistreat you and your home, their behavior in public embarrasses you, then consider whether to minimize the relationship. I did that after socializing with a couple of friendly acquaintances who I'd thought might become friends. They quickly revealed we had little in common.
PS So they remained just friendly acquaintances.
Such a great post - I struggled for a long time thinking I *should* like clean modern, when my taste leans more towards a eclectic mix. I finally figured out what I like about most modern rooms was that they were really well edited. Now I have lots of styles mixed together, but avoid the trap of too much clutter.
The worst thing about not being trendy is only liking one part of a trend - I love the repeating lattice type patterns, but my colors are dark jewel tones; the patterns lean towards traditional.
I have the opposite issue! I don't buy anything new or trendy due to lack of funds and interest. I like to find odd things in vintage stores. Love my house and its rather sparse yet offbeat look, but both of us are piggies, so for us, decorating is tidying up.
I doubt my home would ever look like a catalog - in fact, some infusion of money and catalog goods would elevate this house, but I don't have the means. Oh well.
I think of this every time someone says "make your home a haven of calm; and white is the best way to ensure that"... and then I look around our colour filled house and I smile. Yellow, red, blue, turquoise, pink, orange, splashes of colour, bold swathes of colour. Nope. none of it would win a single design competition. And most of the anti-Ikea folks would sniff and turn up their noses. But it's a happy making house. And every time I'm in it, I am reminded of why I love it so. It brings me peace, joy, and wonder. And that's what matters.
So, so true. I'm trying to remember that our home needs to be really functional for us a the first priority, not house-tour stylish. When we achieved this in the living room of a previous apartment it also looked and felt good - people remarked on it being a "really nice room". That was because it was organised and served all the purposes we needed it to.
I look around and think about how fortunate I am to have a nice place to live in. I call my style "tasteful, clean and comfortable". Would it suit everyone's idea of great decoration? Not really, but it's my personality and I love my home (o.k. apartment). @sdt43 - I don't have the "my place is a shrine" mentality either, but you can bet your bottom dollar if someone was to intentionally disrespect my home and the things I worked hard for, they would not have to worry about seeing the inside of my front again. It's not about things, it's about respect.
oops! I meant to say "they would not have to worry about seeing the inside of my front door again."