How close do you live to your parents? Your kids? A friend of ours just moved back to LA due to a job offer, but is wary about being only ten minutes away from his mother who has a tendency to hover. "My passive-aggressive mother operates on guilt trips and unannounced drop-ins," he said wryly. "Why do you think I moved from Maine and trying to find my old therapist in LA?!"
We definitely have our fair share of family gripes (Mom and Dad also live a few minutes away; but thankfully, they are quite good at staying within set boundaries), but we can also empathize with parents who are suffering from empty nest syndrome. One thing that worked fairly well for us was to firmly tell our parents to call ahead of time before dropping by, and to set aside an afternoon or weekend time to hang out together.
If you've been in a similar situation, how do you deal? What's the best way to lay down the laws without offending either side?