No one wants to be that bride, the one who gets so stressed out and manic that she manages to ruin her wedding for herself and everyone around her. So how do so many lovely women turn into lunatics the moment they put a ring on it? We're not sure. But we do know that a little reality check and a few gentle rules never hurt anyone. Beautiful brides, when you start to feel stress bubbling up, remember this stuff.
Your wedding day is not a barometer of your marriage
This is ONE day of your (hopefully long) relationship. Sure, it's an important milestone, but more important than everything going off without a hitch, is honoring and celebrating your relationship. If things go wrong at your wedding, it doesn't mean your marriage is doomed. In fact, the way that you handle stress and adversity together will tell you much more about how your marriage will play out.
It's not ALL about you
You are very, very important but you are now part of a duo so it's nuts to imagine that you are the only one who matters on your wedding day. Also, your friends, family and wedding party want to celebrate you (and might have even traveled far to do so) but that doesn't mean that they need to be at your beck and call 24/7 or endure your wrath. In other words, it's your day, but it also belongs to everyone who bothered to support you. Don't make them regret that decision.
Kindness will get you farther than threats
You already know this as a strategy in life, but try try try to remember it when things inevitably go wrong with your wedding plans. Also, when you're the bride, people may be looking for signs of freakout and preemptively get a little snippy (not fair, but true) so try and surprise them with your patience and it might make them try even harder to solve your problem.
Remember, it's a party
At the end of the day, this is supposed to be fun. You may have forgotten that simple fact between all the stress, drama and high heels, but by the time your reception rolls around, you will be married and so ready to relax so let yourself! Let go of some of the pressure to deal with all your guests and be the perfect host; let yourself enjoy the moment.
Brides, tell us, what helped you stay sane during your wedding?