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I didn't know that this really happened outside of the movies... and nursing mommies.

X I've lived with a partner and never had to do this.

I live with a partner and I've never had to do this.
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I've had to sleep on the couch (near the back door) when I had a sick dog... Does that count? P.S. - the couch is super comfy to sleep on!

I've had to sleep on the couch before, but the cool thing is, I don't mind it. In fact, I like sleeping on the couch, I do it almost every saturday... don't tell her.

Live with a partner and never had to do this.

Lol, I have slept ONCE on my bed since the new year started. I took down my curtain to wash them and never put them back up. Then when I tried going back, I saw that the cover was covered in tape worm carcass from a cat I just adopted. My room is clean and curtained... but I still can't bring myself to leave the couch.

Spats, people hogging the blankets and people who snore(you know who you are, even if you won't admit it) are all valid reasons for sleeping on the couch. Or in my case the daybed.

It's not letting me answer the survey either. I banish my boyfriend to the couch after fights all the time. Or when he's snoring too loudly I head to the couch myself.

Usually, I sleep on the couch or guest bed because he snores too loud :)

I don't think my husband or I have ever spent the night on the couch.
However, a friend kicked her husband out of the house after a fight and he slept on a piece of carboard in the garage, and used his coveralls as a blanket.
Totally overboard, but they do not know how to fight.

I'm always the one to sleep (fighting or snoring) on the couch because my husband is too tall for it.

been married 7 years and have never done this

I'd always heard 'don't go to bed angry' but I've found it's not always possible, albeit desireable, and in those rare times, how wonderful to have a couch/bed to take space in. We both appreciate it--although usually we do it if one of us is feverish and we're trying to stay healthy.

When he farts especially excitingly, he self-banishes to the couch. I'll go to the couch when I'm having trouble sleeping and worry that my tossing and turning will wake him.

Only when I'm hungover. I tend to wake up at the crack of dawn with a splitting headache and any sound including his breathing makes me naseous. I usually grab some blankets and lay on the couch.

I only sleep on the couch when I'm sick and/or hungover, because he tosses & turns so much at night that I sleep better somewhere quiet and cool like the den. Even when we fight, we usually make up before bed, because we both like to cuddle. It's hard to stay angry when you're pressed against each other for warmth!

It's not a fight situation, but I can never sleep the first few times I stay over with someone, especially if their bedroom is really silent (I like white noise like a fan, etc.) so I often go out to the sofa after playtime is over (and he's fallen asleep) so my tossing and turning won't wake him up. One time, though, the first time I crashed at a new guy's house I went out to the living room and fell asleep (and I pretty much took up the whole length of the sofa), and when I woke up a few hours later he was curled up at the other end. It was one of the sweetest things ever and I ended up falling totally in love with that guy ... and then he aptly broke my heart ;-)

I've actually done it a few times, but only once because of a drunken spat on New Year's Eve! I made a bed for myself on the floor because I had out-of-town guests sleeping in the living room.

Sometimes my boyfriend sleeps on the couch in the summer because my apartment doesn't have A/C so it's not very comfortable to sleep next to someone on a hot summer night.

Sciencegeek ... you just made me laugh out loud ;-)

I count myself lucky and am very thankful that we "find our way back" out of painful and raw territory by shutting up and going to sleep with our arms around each other. In the morning it's always better.

Once my husband puked in the bed (gross, I know!) so I slept on the couch that night, and got up reeeeeal early to make him clean it. I have emetophobia so I had to get out of there!

I slept part of the night on the couch when I was nursing, but never because of a fight. I can't even imagine how that would work. I like my bed! When I'm mad at my husband I'm not going to leave MY bed, but at the same time, he's never going to let me "kick him out." If I tried, he would say, "No, you go sleep on the couch," and of course I'd be too stubborn to do that. So, we'd both stay in bed.

Our couch is dinky. So we resolve our conflicts before bed. Actually if we get in an argument near bedtime, he starts wanting to make up so we can have sex. (I have swatted that down a time or two.)

One time I used the other bed at a hotel. He was being a sh*t because he was having a migraine and didn't tell me he was having it. Figured it was better not to disturb him anyway... but we woke up in the same bed next morning.

old partner, yes.
new partner, never.

i never banish my boyfriend to the couch but i sleep there sometimes, mostly due to life-long insomnia (on occasion aggravated by an argument). our couch is very comfortable and the change of scenery sometimes helps me to fall asleep.

i sleep on the couch when i can't sleep. some nights if i stay in bed i'll spend 3 or 4 hours just tossing around and keeping my partner awake while he is trying to sleep.

i wish we had a bigger couch though. or one with nice soft arms.

We split up if one of us is sick - sick person gets the bedroom, other person gets the couch.

My boyfriend self-banishes himself to the couch when he acts like an ass. Once or twice I have sent him there or offered to go myself. Sometimes we just need to take space.

My parents race every night. The person who falls asleep first gets the bed. The loser gets the couch, one of several spare beds, the futon (or even the floor sometimes). They both snore horribly... Really really horrible. I fear it is hereditary.

My husband will threaten to sleep on the couch when we have arguments, it gets me very upset and he knows this....

I slept on the couch for a few days after a foot operation because of the pain, nausea, and large plastic foot cover

I will move to the couch if I just. can't. fall. asleep. but try not to move there in anger. Never tried to banish my SO to the couch, really doubt that would work.

Sometimes I would sleep on the futon with the baby, but neither of us have ever kicked the other out of bed. But we're pretty laid back, we don't "go to bed mad", bedtime is truce time- and sometimes a good night's sleep is just the thing to clear the air, and make it easier to work things out.

I thought that this only happened in the movies and TV?

Couples in studios have Ambien prescriptions.

I don't know how anyone could ever call a truce and sleep when in the middle of a spat. I would just lay there and huff. I admire the ability, I just know it would make for a horrible nights sleep at my house.

while we lived in a 1BR with a baby she made us move to the couch in the LR. She could not sleep in the same room with her daddy - he snores. So, we slept on that couch for a few months before moving into a new house.

We've never had to do this about a fight - but if one of us gets a cold and doesn't want to pass it on, the sick one tends to move into the guest room on the twin bed. The couch probably is more comfy though.

I made one early rule with my boyfriend... we have agreed to never go to bed angry.

I think that is a key relationship-strengthener.

Well, that, and two bathrooms. :)

Anyone who says they don't fight and have to sleep on the couch (or guest room) is totally lying! Just kidding...
I've slept in the guest room and on the couch for many reasons including:
Fights
Snores
Farts
Insomnia
Etc...

When my live-in SO and I split up, he took the couch. It's my bed, after all. It's rather tricky to move on from an ended relationship if still sharing a bed with him.

In the tub. Really.

I adore sleeping on the couch, so if the snoring's too bad I'll retreat there.

My husband snores so loudly that bed vibrates. If I can get to sleep first (Ambien) he can stay.

There have been times when he has slept on the couch. Both of us love our bed so we usually stay in bed but sleep as far apart as possible. I tend to fall asleep sooner than he does but I wake up in the middle of the night to his snoring and am able to give him a good kick, which helps me feel better. (I know it sounds mean but most nights I am rubbing his back before we go to sleep.)

clgoggans - I have to do that with the fiance, but usually after the first kick he rolls over and stops. He says later he'd rather me kick him than me not get any sleep.

I grew up in a family with eight kids. We had a sort of "musical beds" game at night. As in, youngest kid gets scared, goes to Mom & Dad's bed. Second-youngest kid wakes up in a room by himself, gets scared, and follows youngest kid to Mom & Dad's bed. 3rd-youngest kid is sick/wets the bed/gets scared. This is one too many for Mom & Dad's bed, so Mom or Dad puts that kid in their bed and heads for the couch, or one of the vacated beds (middle of the night decisions being what they are). This could continue until three-quarters of the family were involved. The long and short of it is that in the morning, I would wander all over the house trying to figure out where my mom was!

matchbook - too funny though I see it happening with a lot of kids