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Today's Assignment
Here is wee short video. It's all about one of the toughest things people struggle with in their homes: letting go.
Today we're all going to take one thing from our home that we've been holding onto for a long time, but no longer really need, and give it away. If, like me, you live in a big city with people who pass by in front of your building, you can simply leave it in front of your building for someone else to take home. It's simple urban recycling. If this is not possible, try taking the item in question to work or put it in or near the garbage or recycling outside.
Just let one thing go and see how it feels to open up one brand new space in your home.
And while you're at it, set a space aside for your Outbox, which will help you with all the other letting go and clearing out that you do this month. For more on the Outbox check out this post:
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Well good morning to you! Good afternoon to the rest of Europe. For some reason today's video shook me a bit, because even though it wasn't me giving that iPod away, it still felt like that for some strange reason.
I started the process of getting rid of some items last weekend when I finally was ready to chuck a lot of unused and/or old cosmetics out. Our garbage bin in the bathroom isn't big, but I filled a considerable part of its volume. And since it got mixed with kitty poo (inside other plastic bag but still) I couldn't have fished it out if having second thoughts. Relief.
Thanks once again for this cure thing that you've developed, it means so much to me.
I started a outbox of sorts last week when I got my new television but it is only a pile blocking the entrance to the kitchen.
My 20 minute task today will be formalizing my outbox on my landing. Granted I will see every time I come and go from the apartment but I will get to really feel what it is like without the items INSIDE the house.
And maybe the I will throw in during my 20 minutes contacting some people who may want the stuff.
I think my outbox is going to need to be about 10 times the size of yours, Maxwell! Such a good idea. I have so many things that I've been *wanting* to part with, but with a one year old trailing after me all day (<3), it's hard to devote a block of time to collecting all those things at once. The outbox concept is a great one, because I can put items in to it as I go through my week, and bring things to Savers on Fridays!
Ninakk, thank goodness you mentioned makeup! I need to get rid of some cosmetics I've owned and never used for 6+ years. I started outboxing things earlier in the week that I just couldn't stand to have cluttering my closet anymore. It will be awesome to finally have an organized bathroom!
Love the idea of the outbox. I've stuff that I think I want to let go of but aren't sure if I do and the outbox gives me the perfect way to let it go and being able to change my mind.
hi, couldn't stop at just one thing, I'm on box #4 and hoping to drop it off to the charity shop before the day is over! thanks for the inspiration!
I'm with you, Activate! After posting my first comment, I decided to designate an outbox for each room in my apartment, rather than just one large one. I've already filled two.
First of all, I must say I love the videos you are making. I'm also reading the book, which is great because it explains the process more in depth, but watching you on the videos motivates me even more as it feels more personal.
I actually started the therapy through the book a month ago but had to stop due to very serious problems at work, so I was happy to see that the therapy was online for everyone to follow and participate! It feels less lonely. So I did do the giving away something, and it was books, lots of books. It was the hardest things as I love my library and I had never let go of a book before (and I have tons), but it felt really good and my study room now is much lighter!
Thanks!
I thought it might be 'cheating' since they were already designated for removal, but I took the pile of donation clothes out to the box on my way to work this morning. Some of them even still had tags - impulse purchases that were not returned in time! It was nice to reclaim a square foot of space on the floor of the bedroom.
Freecycle is a great way to get rid of things: http://freecycle.com/
Go to the website and find your city and sign up (I think they all work a little differently). When you have something you want to get rid of, post it to the group. Pretty quickly you'll get responses from people who want what you're giving away.
I especially like it for large items that are difficult to move or still useful things that I just can't bear to think might languish in a thrift store back room. I've given away a sewing machine, a trampoline, a high-end scanner, an old computer, and a bed frame.
And you can also request items that you're looking for, and if you're lucky, you'll find someone who has it and is wanting to part with it.
I'm bringing home a box from work today to put in the garage for an "outbox" Consider it done. I will easily fill it and I need to find my old blackberry and wipe it out and get rid of it.
But is Max really getting rid of an old ipod? It looked like an iphone 4 to me.
Whew! I bet you're just dreaming about all that space you have now that you've gotten rid of that bulky I-Pod. ;)
labchick, for a second I thought the iPhone 4 as well. The edge of it reads hard in the video but then the front face was flashed.
Nothing like creating a little buzz with a sensational give-a-way. I imagine that most will question more items than usual from this example.
Everyone! Please recycle your electronics if you're trashing them. For US folks, finding free electronic recycling can be difficult. Best Buy is one retailer that recycles electronics and batteries without requiring a purchase. There are stores in much of the US, a few in the UK, Mexico, and China. Please don't put them in the trash. In addition to the obvious electronics, others include irons, power cords, toasters, coffee makers, phone and calculators. Their website has guidelines for any potential expenses and what isn't accepted.
Thanks!
Aren't they going to need to cord that goes with the iPod to charge it and upload music to it...?
Thank you so much for this, I am loving The Cure! My home feels like a sanctuary already, and I feel happy and relaxed just being there.
As for the outbox- I'll be parting with old coats and shoes...and my one item will be my bulky old TV.
I can't wait to fill my Outbox. I really would love to fill it with things my husband thinks should stay. Perhaps this concept of outbox will help him to see that really, that ugly gaming chair, that no one uses has got to go.
Two days ago, I donated 2 boxes of clothes and stuff to a family whose house burned down two months ago. I also gave away books to friends. Yesterday, we put a big piece of furniture on the street, for someone to pick it up; it was pouring down rain, so nobody came but the city recycling truck, but I'm happy to think it's not polluting my home or the environnement.
My house is getting lighter everyday, so am I !
I set the Outbox in our veranda: it is freezing cold in there, since no renovation was made (yet), but I have this huge garden table I can use as an Outbox. And it's not too much in plain sight.
Your outbox is really cute!
i'm always decluttering so this will be easy for me! i love gaining space.
I am a member of Freecycle and love it! It's amazing how many people have a need for items you may may no longer use.
At my local Air Force base, there is a room full of free things for families who have service members on active duty. It includes clothes, baby items, shoes, furniture, holiday items, and electronics! I recently donated a box fan, broom and dustpan, and a pair of crutches. Amazing how much space those were taking up and now they are available to help another Air Force family! It's going to take some time, but I think this cure is actually working for me. I never imagined myself to be a de-clutter-er. :D
I think if I had a teeny tiny basket of an outbox, I wouldn't really get rid of that much.
It started with the inspiring photo challenge. I decided to go through all my inspirational magazines I already had, tear out the pictures I wanted and recycle the rest. 7 hours later and I have two pieces of furniture for sale on craigslist, and two rooms in my house are completely re-arranged and cleaned top to bottom. I'm a bit tired, but more than happy to re-gift the stuff I pulled from the corners yesterday. I'm so excited about where this 20/20 will end.
I have a permanent outbox in my garage (from previous cures). I sorted my CDs and DVDs and placed several in the outbox. I even found two VCR tapes, and I haven't owned a VCR in years!
I'm one of those people who picks up things from the street. We call it the curb-side-shopping-network.
I've picked up a bar (which with the addition of a mirror) I turned into a vanity to make up for the tiny shaving mirror in the bathroom of my place.
A coatrack which is slightly broken but serves me well.
I also found two coffee tables (both of which have gone to friends in need).
And I just recently was trawling ebay, freecycle and gumtree (like craigslist for australia), for armchairs, and what do I find on the street outside of a friends house? an awesome armchair that will need a small amount of TLC
In return for bringing all these new things into my house I've decided to stop procrastinating on getting rid of some of the stuff I've been carting around for years. I think I'll start with the stuff hanging off the back of my bedroom door, I have a few bags, including a rather pricey laptop bag I should get rid of.
I like the idea of the outbox.
I'm usually pretty good about getting rid of stuff I don't want though, so I don't have a lot of stuff that doesn't get used. The outbox will be a good way for me to see if I really want some of that stuff that I'm always on the fence about.
I'm usually really good at the Outbox with clothes and most other stuff, but today I cleaned out under my sink and found an espresso maker my son gave me that I've never used. I just can't seem to put it in the outbox!
Clothes. I need to concentrate on getting rid of clothes I never wear... :(
I packed a box of clothes last week and yesterday I planned to combine these two days and tear out the inspirational photos and then throw away the huuuge pile of mags accumulated over the last few years. I guess I'll also need tomorrow, but that's easy as we're already using eco-friendly cleaners. We have a box were we put things in to sell on ebay or at a fleamarket once each summer, so I think this is a kind of outbox.
I have a rolling desk chair to give away, and it's been so windy, I've been afraid to leave it out in the street - who knows where it would end up!? Maybe it's time to try Freecycle...
Maxwell, having all those shoes in the hallway is a serious fire hazard: if a fireman ever, God forbid, has to climb the stairs up to your apartment, he will not be able to get through with his full gear. My old neighbors stored their bikes in the hall, and when we had a carbon monoxide scare in the building and the NYFD came, our landlord was faced with a fine. And we all got an earful! I'm never storing anything in the hall again.
I love all boxes. The outbox, will go next to the cardboard re-cycling box, I already have a clothes out-box. ( I may have a box problem)
I have to go clean a room to catch up, just joined today. :)
re-sale or donations I can see. Having scrimped and saved to buy an Ipod I'm still gasping at just giving one away, on the street no less. Must be nice.
i really like the videos, maxwell!
Oooooh this felt so good! I just took two large boxes of baby/toddler clothes to the Salvation Army that had been sitting in my DINING ROOM since June, when I had a garage sale. I finally went through the boxes as I had been meaning to, to pull out the stuff that still had tags. I'm going to bring that bag to a re-sale shop and if it does sell, then I'll donate. Its so nice to have reclaimed some space in my DR. Especially because someone today gave me a beautiful plant and I picked up an awesome plant stand at an antique store for just $10. This Cure has been GOOD for me!
I need to go through my summer clothes before they go into storage and figure out which ones I didn't really wear this year; and before the winter clothes can come up from storage, I need to pick through those as well. I'll need a big outbox this week!
I'm a huge fan of getting rid of things I don't need. What I liked about the outbox is the idea of designating one area for things I don't want/need anymore. Usually, I would go around my studio and grab things for a goodwill trip and I always wound up forgetting something.
I don't cook much, so a lot of my kitchen cabinets are pretty empty. I stash my outbox items on empty shelves so that I have one area to keep them. Plus, they're out of sight, keeping my tiny studio looking tidy. When I have to go to the goodwill I have to do is open up a cabinet and dump everything into a tote and I'm off!
I did not give it away (because I need the $) but I have been holding onto it and someone else might benefit....
SO, I listed my wedding dress on ebay! :)
Here's the link: http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=120637050797&ssPageName=STRK:MESELX:IT
Whew! What a relief to finally make the decision! :)
I did this yesterday! Yay me!
I had a box in the living that was crying to be unpacked (yeah, we moved in 6 months ago) and I decided that unless absolutely necessary to my life, everything in that box would be gotten rid of. And it was.
I still need to clean one room (bathroom), collect inspiring images and buy flowers.
Work is killing me this week, but I'm hoping today will give me a break (and some energy) to do an hour of curing so I can catch up. :)
It would be kind of nice to be able to leave things outside and have them disappear (the bow and the note are a nice touch). But freecycle is definitely the next best thing, especially now that thrift stores around here have become very particular about large items like furniture and appliances (they have to be not just usable but PERFECT). I like that with freecycle you know that people really can use what you are giving away.
I have an old TV cabinet that's been hanging around since February, when I got a new flat screen TV. My sister said she wanted it, but hasn't come to get it. So I emailed her today and asked her to either set a date to come and get it or let me know that she didn't want it. So this Saturday, the cabinet will be gone!
But to honor the task for the day, I added two more books to the box of 60 books that I'm going to donate. I really do have too many books and need to cull the collection a little. I've taken 62 books from the den and I need to work on all the books in the living room next.
I love all the videos and thank god you are keeping them simple and personal..you DON'T need a pro please. I am gonna set up a outbox today and I have already made a mental note of what goes in there. Thank you for this post :)
I've been sending bags and bags of stuff to the charity shop this year, and sending piles and piles of paper through the shredder. My outbox is in a corner of the home office, and needs to find a better location.
I like this 20/20 cure. It seems more doable to me than the 8 week cure. Although I'm not sure it has to be 8 consecutive weeks or that a week had to be 7 days long.
I did a pretty major declutter in august and I'm a cluttery tchockey enjoying sort of person so it was hard for me to figure out what to get rid of! I ended up looking in my broom closet and picking out a 1960's embroidered linen apron I never wear... I'm sending it off to a friend of mine with a bag of things I'm returning to her as a little surprise :)
Good idea with the Outbox-thing!
I live in a big house with 5 apartments. This inspired me to make a central place where we can put things, and that maybe the things would be of use for one of the other residents ? Good idea!
Just saw the cure today (four days late). Today's cure made me laugh because I saw a picture frame in a box with a yellow sticky note that said "FREE" at work today, and I was wondering whether it's from someone doing the cure. Came home and checked the site, and... BINGO!
I don't think I commented today but I can't remember! It is so late in LA .. oy ... Anyway .. I LOVED today's exercise. I love getting rid of things. As a professional organizer myself this is a fun one for me. So I actually got rid of a lot of things today. I couldn't stop! I also have an outbox already but don't really ever use it. That is something I don't struggle with - making decisions about getting rid of things. Don't anyone be envious ... I am flawed in so many ways this is hardly an advantage! lol Here is my video 20/20 Cure Day 4 - Purge! | Palais Professional Organizer http://bit.ly/d3l3w3 ... also .. just a note.. I saw that you gave away an ipod. If anyone else wants to give one away there is a wonderful charity who is using ipods/iphones to teach children in Haiti. Here is the site so you can donate: http://bit.ly/cN5v3b
We have a permanent outbox (the bench near our apartment door) that we fill up time and time again... but we never seem to be done!
I'm going to try the outbox...up until now I did the same thing but was tossing stuff into an unsightly plastic bag, but a nice basket is so much more appealing. However I think I will need a much bigger one than yours! ;) I would love to put things out for people to take, but I have tried it in the past and nobody stops to take the things. We live on a busy main road with not many pedestrians! Hmm...I could just take my item and leave it somewhere else...
I've set up an outbox ... And have some easy-to-let-go-of things already in it from the Kitchen Cure. Maybe just emptying that will be enough for a start ...
Great video - I got rid of a pillowcase so far :( but a funny thing happened, when I went to watch the video, my sound was off... and when I clicked on volume, I could not only hear you talking, but also a great African Rumba Roots song was playing in the background -- it sounded so perfect with the video (made the outbox seem somehow less threatening...)! I then realized the music was from my itunes, but hey, maybe a little music could add a whole new dimension to The Cure! (I know, I know, add it to the list.. )
Got to the outbox thing task today. I asked my 5 year old to pick out a toy he didn't use so we could donate it to the Salvation Army. He put 5 toys in the box (then he took 2 out) and I am a very proud mom. Also listed an old etagere I only used for a year and its been in my basement ever since. Freecycle is so great!
I wish you hadn't have left an iPod out on the street -- donating it to a children's shelter or home for abused kids would have been a much better idea. Music would mean a lot to a kid. Anything else, like an appliance or piece of furniture or tchotchke would be a better idea to leave out in the street.
This was my favorite 20/20 Cure day so far.
I have a couple pieces of furniture that my brother left in my apartment when he turned it over to me. In particular there was a gentleman's dressing chair -- it has a drawer for your wallet and watch, a retractable rod for your tie and an attached hanger and bar for your suit. Incredibly practical ... for my brother. He's the executive, not me. So for the past year, I have been moving this very "practical" chair from room to room, from side to side. I just couldn't get rid of it. Maybe because it is so 'my brother'. But for the day's 20/20 Cure I decided to give up the dressing chair. I thought of sending it to Housing Works, but it’s not an heirloom or an antique or anything, so it didn't seem worth the trouble or the expense to do that. And, to be true to the Cure, I wanted to get it out immediately. So, I put it in the trash room. 10 minutes later I thought I should take a picture of it to keep a record of my progress through the 20/20 Cure. But when I went back down to the trash room -- 10 minutes -- it was gone! I was THRILLED. It really was a very nice and useful chair -- for somebody else. I just thought of how excited that person must have been to find it. So much so that they didn't hesitate to take it away. I remembered how excited I was when I found my own favorite reading chair in a trash room several years ago. I just felt good all around.
Now I know that in the next few days, I will also send my brother's big executive desk and chair out into the world ... for someone else to enjoy.
I felt like you today - not in the mood! But so happy I got motivated! Here's my video: http://bit.ly/bvOm0Y I love in your book how you suggest to fix something because I automatically did that before I had even read about it. It really makes such a difference. Your style is like therapy for sure!
I'm a little late, but today I gave away the item. It was a painting that I painted. I put it downstairs in my apartment lobby and an hour or so later it was gone! I'm so curious who ended up with it.
Thanks God, I found this page. Thanks a lot, you are lighting my home and life.
Maxwell you are so nice to tell what to do...
Sorry if I don't write well, but I'm from Santiago-Chile and I tray to do my best.
Good Day for everyone.
Vivi
Yay! Outbox time! I can't wait to get started. My last "outbox" sat in my room for 2 months, then spent another month in the back of my car! I hope I can do it faster this time.
enchiladaplate - i have also used freecycle in the past and loved it. what to do with 2 years of house beautfiul from the 90's, that you never flip through anymore? post it on freecycle and someone comes and picks it up....someone who was redecorating her cottage and looking for inspiration. perfect.
I love this one! i have been getting rid of excess things for two years now. Why hurry? Even my kids have started letting og of things they don't want anymore. Every so often they bring old clothes that don't fit or toys they don't play with anymore and ask me to donate them. We have Ronald McDonald House boxes everywhere down here and I have been known to fill one or two. Not lately since I don't have a childcare business to buy for anymore. (Thank God) There are also charities that will pick up old clothes if you leave them by your mailbox and call them.
I shredded a garbage bag of already-weeded statements since they contained information useful to identity thieves. That made two garbage bags with weeded receipts, which needn't be shredded since for years they've contained just the last four digits of the account number. I added the bags to the garbage can just before it was emptied by the county truck. My home office looks good without that garbage bag, well worth today's :30 cure.
P.S. My Outbox currently is a chest near the foyer which, after being emptied of contents soon to be passed to family, will itself be released.
What--you're using last year's videos?
I admit, I am waaaay behind already, but I am definitely setting up a new outbox. It's my favorite thing, and I don't know why I don't have a permanent one.
The funny thing is, when I have used one in the past, I don't think I have ever taken anything out! Usually by the end of the week I don't even remember what is in there and tell my husband to just donate it all.
Most of my 20 minutes will be spent figuring out what item I feel I can't live without but know I can. That's the hardest part of this. I can think of TONS of crap to get rid of, and I'm in the long process of doing so. But something special? That'll take a think.
I have an outbox set up. I use those large handled paper bags that are used to deliver take out. (I moved 2 years ago and probably got rid of 60% of my furniture and stuff, but somehow, I continually have TOO MUCH STUFF!)
My 20 minutes today is going to be used cleaning out the linen closet. I am going to empty it, and reorder every shelf. It is just outside the bathroom door, and does triple duty for linen, medicine, and laundry.
What really needs to be done, and what I really hate, is cleaning the velvet sofas with a special vacuum with a new filter. I spend more time dreading that than doing it. I don't know why. I love the sofas.
I already have an outbox started for Out Of The Closet, but that feels like cheating. I need to find something else to give away. :/
I started using the "outbox" method a few years ago. It helps! Once the box is full I put it in my car... that way when I happen to be near a thrift store, I can drop off a donation. No need to make a special trip.
Sometimes, getting rid of things I don't use is easy for me. But as my belongings become fewer and fewer its getting harder to tell which ones are treasures, and which should be let go.
I like Maxwell's observation that what I'm not using, might bring great joy to someone else. Sometimes I think about this when I'm trying to let go of something I'm particularly attached to. I try to find a specific person to gift it to that I know will appreciate it!
Does selling my couch 4 weeks ago count? No? I need to find something else to get rid of? Gah! It's hard.....
I don't use an outbox, since I'm weeding and decluttering all the time, but I found real motivation knowing that I donate, and do not throw away.
Since I'm giving away all the time, I found it hard to look for something valuable to get rid of today. I ended up thrashing a huge biography my father in law gave us; we won't read it twice, and he also gave us an electronic version. While it had no value in itself, it was kind of hard to put in the trash something that someone I love gave us.
I have an "out bag" and I loaded it up and dropped it off. Lots of goodies in that bag. I like the saying "If you not using it allow someone else to enjoy it". I could not agree more.
Good luck everyone!
I tend to recommend several different "outbound trains" to help move things along. As some folks have noted, an outbox that you see every day can feel cluttered or make it harder to take that final step of taking the things out of your home.
First, I like to have a "give back" basket for (generally smaller) things to return to people or with a known and convenient destination, such as the stack of old comics I gave to my neighborhood shop for their free giveaways.
Second, I always have a charity box which is easily accessed but out of sight. Things go there as soon as I think something like "this is never going to be my first choice of what to wear" and, out of sight, lose their remaining emotional stickiness.
One last thought: I see lots of people feeling responsible for finding the perfect home for their old things. Remember that Goodwill knows way more people than you do and many more people walk through their doors than down your block; if it's not worth the time and trouble to sell, let it do the good of reaching the right person and helping workers build job skills along the way.
(If you want to hear more about Outbound Trains, that's all in chapter 1 of Discardia: More Life, Less Stuff.)
I just moved a few months ago and did a major purge, so right now I really don't have anything that needs to leave my house, but I do have a couple boxes in the garage that need to go to the thrift store (post-unpacking purge), so I will do that instead.
I promise I will make a outbox and will get rid of some things I don't use, as soon as I'll get the 30 boxes of my stuff I've left behind from my last moving. Unfortunately at the moment with the few things I have here there is not much I can live without! And I swear I had a big big decluttering when I packed my stuff, eve if since there were my parents and grantparents things in my house, to let go wasn't easy at all!
I am so much a fan of the outbox! This is how I live. I hate clutter. Other members of my family have houses piled up with clutter and it just gets on my nerves. If I haven't been using something for a while or it is just gathering dust - out it goes! I do have sentimental things that I will never get rid of, but most "things" are not in that category and can weigh us down if we are too attached to them.
Fantastic idea! I try to do this often, but haven't in too long a time. I'm planning on boxing stuff up tonight and taking them to Goodwill tomorrow morning!
Now to find a nice container somewhere in the house for my outbox!
I love my Outbox and have been using it constantly for a few months...it's the floor of my hall linen closet (usually "lined" with a box or shopping bag that I can just take to Salvation Army once it's full).
Can anyone out there please respond about why you are using LAST YEAR'S VIDEOS? I have to admit to being disappointed, as I was hanging out for a new cure to motivate me once again. Watching the same videos again is not motivating at all....I may as well read a book I read last year, or go on vacation to the same place again, or sign up for the same evening class again...get my drift? Boring! :(
wish i knew where you lived :) hahaha!
I'm jumping into this Cure just a little bit late, but I've been decluttering and rearranging my apartment a little bit over the past week, so I'm not too far behind.
I've been living in my lovely 1 bedroom apartment for almost 3 months now, by myself. Prior to that I was sharing it with my now ex-boyfriend. I don't really have the need to do a complete overhaul to "move on", but I've finally built up the motivation to make my apartment my own. So perfect timing for this Cure. :)
Starting and filling an Outbox will be pretty easy for me. I love having an Outbox. And Goodwill is really close to my apartment, so it makes emptying the Outbox on a weekly basis very doable.
Removing one item should be pretty easy too, the trouble will simply be identifying what item to remove. I'll report back when I figure that one out. :)
The Outbox sounds like an official office term like the Inbox. I've been collecting for awhile and will find something to put in the box and give soon. Having a spot to donate and keep my tug-of-war items is a great idea I'm going to implement.
When I was helping my mom close down her house after my stepfather's death, I found the outbox concept to be amazingly helpful. I lived about 400 miles away, so would go in every few weeks and we would sort a specified area (set out on the last visit) and put lots of stuff into the outbox. On the next trip, we would start by going through the outbox and either deciding to send it on (in whatever way she wanted) or to leave it in the outbox). Then we would start and in the next are and repeat. Over the course of a few months, we moved through the whole house, and my mom got the to point where she was doing the second or third sort and acting on it without me there. By having the permission to put it out of sight and think about it,it really seemed to make the whole process of separation easier.
And I have found that has worked for me in my house as well.
It's not only big cities like NYC where you can leave stuff outside. I live in a small city (100,000), and most things I've left by the building dumpster have been scooped up. One time I took a pair of old end tables out, and a guy had them out of my hands before I even put them on the ground!
Anyway, I did start an outbox...actually I didn't have a box, so I used the old wicker catbed that no cat in this house has used in three years, having taken over MY bed! :) That will go, too.
Wow, I just put 4 more things in my outbox, thinking about it after I posted! :) That was actually....painless.
Oh dear. I was contemplating getting rid of an old cd tower. It's beautiful and decorative, BUT I never use it! It's been in my closet for 5 months and before that it was just collecting dust for a year (or two). So, I thought, "Mellowhome, this is a really nice piece, just put it back in the closet." Then I cut my finger on it!
So now, my cd's are in shoe boxes waiting to be uploaded onto my iTunes. And the beautiful case is sitting by the door waiting to find it's new owner. It was time to say goodbye.
Gumleaf> Yes, they are using last year's videos. I admit that I was a bit disappointed too, but I guess that with all the new features on the website, they don't have time for new videos. While it wasn't perfect, the 20/20 Cure isn't that bad and I try to just be happy that AT didn't leave the Cure behind entirely. I hope they change the graduation video though...
I have a feeling that the Cure is on its way out, to be replaced by other contests and features (marketplace, room for color and such) that I don't like as much. I'll hold on to it as long as it survives, and will be doing 8-weekd cures on my own after that; the book is so good, my very optimistic self thinks she's lucky to be doing cures with people, but will be still doing them alone, because my house post-cure is a motivation big enough by itself.
(Sorry about my English, not my native language and I still have difficulties expressing ideas fluently).
did anyone see Hoarders on Monday, with the guy who lived in Manhattan and could only access his apartment by this fire escape? talk about needing an outbox....
Loora, thanks for your reply, and your English is very good. I like listening to Maxwell's accent, (as I am Australian) so will probably watch them again anyway. :)
Monsterkitty1 that is pretty sad.
My outbox is so much BIGGER than yours...it is my storage unit all 10x15ft of it...lol However...I have been clearing it out this month during my 31 day purge...I've gotten rid of at least ONE thing a day. Now I've just got to catch up on my blog posts ;} AND I will truly feel all the wonderfu relief.
The outbox idea is great and I love this site, but.....
Is this guy crazy? "The great thing about NYC is that you can leave something outside your house and someone will take it away"....Also known as theft, and it happens elsewhere, too.
Honestly, you're so set you're just going to set that ipod out on a street? Not sell it on craigslist? Donate it to meals-on-wheels or something?
Also, there's no emotional attachment to an ipod. "Remember that time I dropped it right after I got it and I thought it was broken but it wasnt?--sniff--Those were the days." Give me a break.
Love these vids!
Where are those prints above the couch from? Please?
:) Hey i need an ipod if anyone wants to get rid of one.
I LOVE that you passed your ipod to someone whose heart will be happier because of it. Music is like magic. Two letters away. I have old phones that need to find new homes along with other items. Thank you for your inspiration.