Entertaining Etiquette: When Are Evites Acceptable?

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I've been planning a dear friend's bridal shower for a few weeks now with the help of some friends, and we recently started talking about invitations. The bride is super green/eco-conscious. She asked no gifts be wrapped for the party, so I thought we should go with evites to save paper. My bad. Turns out, I'm in the minority when it comes to forgoing paper invitations...

Even though the trend is moving us all toward a paperless world (readers chimed in their two cents about the topic here), it seems certain occasions still warrant a snail mail correspondence. This experience brings me to a very important question: when are evites an acceptable replacement for traditional snail mail invitations?

I've come up with the following rule of thumb for times when it's fine to send an evite:

• If more than 80% of the guest list is accessible via email...
• If the event doesn't require an RSVP...
• If the event is less than 30 days away...
• If it's an annual or regular event... (birthdays, anniversaries)

It's best to send a physical invitation:
• If more than 30% of the guest list isn't accessible via email...
• If the event requires more than a simple "yes/no" RSVP...
• If the event is scheduled more than 30 days away...
• If it's a once in a lifetime event... (wedding, shower, retirement party)

What do you think? Have you sent or received an e-invite for an important event?

(Photo Credit: Evite.com)

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