Our host, Julia, is so relaxed, she's letting me light the candles.
Everyone wants to be the model host, a vision of perfectly put-together serenity, apron ironed, and not a hair out of place — whoa, whoa, whoa where are we, Stepford??!! Joking aside, we all (women and men, first-timers and veterans) do absolutely want to be the kind of relaxed hosts who can actually enjoy their gatherings. Happy and calm trumps "perfect" any day. With a week until the big day, there's still plenty of time to think and do ahead so that when turkey day arrives, we can focus on what really matters.