Focusing on How It Feels: 4 Invisible Elements Every Home Should Have

Focusing on How It Feels: 4 Invisible Elements Every Home Should Have

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Adrienne Breaux
Oct 12, 2015

There are a lot of elements that you can see that make up a home — from color to furniture to art and more. But there are also a handful of important elements that you can't see with your eyes, but that make a huge impact on how livable your home feels like. Make sure your home has these four elements to it.

Whether you incorporate these these four elements into your home for yourself or for the benefit of the guests you invite into your home, including these four elements you can't see with your eyes will help your home feel better.

1. A sense of privacy

How private do your restrooms feel? Do you feel like people in other parts of the house can hear you doing your business? Do you feel like a wonky door or lock makes it feel like someone might walk in at anytime? Do you have a neat second-floor loft bedroom that is open to the living areas below and maybe makes yourself or your guests nervous when engaging in private activities? People (you and your guests both) want to feel like they conduct their lives in private, and even if you live alone, you might not feel super comfortable doing certain activities when you don't feel like you've really got a sense of privacy. So work on increasing that privacy by incorporating dividers and other decorating tricks to create nooks of privacy where you need. Examine your restroom to see how private it feels for guests.

2. A sense of security

Do you have big, floor-to-ceiling windows facing a busy street and no window treatments that make you feel like you're on display? Do you feel like your home's location or your exterior door locks aren't protecting you from the outside world? Do you feel safe? Do you feel like your valuables are tucked away safely (and insured, if that's something that's important to you)?

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3. A friendly and welcoming feel

How welcome do you make folks feel when they get to your home? Do you fuss over them when they finally get in the door? Do you bark orders to remove their shoes? Do you instantly start apologizing for any "messes" or other perceived flaws? Do you spend the bulk of their visit complaining about stuff you don't love about your house? Is it hard to get to seating arrangements — and are seating arrangements more pointed toward a television than itself? And don't forget about yourself — how welcome do you feel when you get back home? Do you walk through your front door into a dark, musty cave? Do you greet yourself with a mess you failed to clean up the night before?

As you can probably guess by the tone of all those questions above, there are ways in which you may be inadvertently making your home unwelcoming to guests and yourself, but they're all ways that with a little attitude tweaking can be fixed to restore a sense of friendliness and welcoming into your home.

4. A sense of warmth and comfort

It's one part making sure that your home is physically warm enough temperature-wise when the temperatures outside drop. But it's also focusing on that not-easily-translatable Dutch word hygge. Sharing kindness and evenings with folks you love. Good conversation. A warm-tone glow coming from your home when you come in from a walk. It's an atmosphere that feels comforting and magical. I think making sure your home represents your personality and is filled with fun stories and little objects and moments that make you smile whether you're by yourself or entertaining guests is important. It's knowing what makes a home "a home" for you and making sure your space is bursting with whatever that is, physical or metaphorical.

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