Sent by LydiaEditor: I expect you'll get a wide range of responses to this. Here's my take: I think second (and third, and fourth) children deserve to be celebrated and welcomed into their community of family and friends as much as the first. And asking guests to bring something practical, as your friend did, sounds like a good plan. Giving her something that goes against your own ethical outlook is murkier territory. It's one thing not to judge our friends on a green scale, but harder to be asked to contribute to something you feel strongly opposed to. However, if I were in your place I would support my friend and give her what she's asked for (maybe Seventh Generation or another disposable diaper that's somewhat less harmful to the environment?). An alternative that likely wouldn't make other guests uncomfortable is to create a gift certificate for babysitting, errand running, a casserole drop-off or another useful service.
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