Martin recommended the 1' or 1.5' pad for sex in Friday's thread and implied that the 3 incher was bad for it:

Be careful about the inches you choose. Sounds crude, but it does have an impact on your sex life. If you just want to sleep, go for the 3' deep pad. If you want to have sex, get something that doesn't make the bed feel like a marshmellow (I recommend the 1' or 1'5).

Posted by Martin at 02/17/06 5:19 PM

I just got a memory foam and I do not recommend them.
I used to have a sleep number bed that had to be tossed after 9/11. That bed was awesome. I feel that i get stuck on the memory foam. Can;t comment on the intimacy part. sometimes my body forms to the memory foam and if I move its uncomfortable. so you do the math.

My friend bought one and she and her husband hated how they sank into it. They bought another mattress and had the delivery men haul away the memory foam one. I could have had it for free but it did't fit my bed.

We have a memory foam mattress pad that isn't too thick.. like 1.5 inches... i didn't think it was very comfortable at first, but then i got used to it and now i LOVE it! in envelopes me with squishy comfort.

As for intimacy.. its totally fine. We don't have any problems or complaints.

I really don't understand all the people who talk about sinking into memory foam mattresses. What kind do you have?

We have the Room & Board firm and while there may be a slight depression by morning, it isn't like you get in bed and create a cavity immediately. It isn't hard to move around on at all. We love our bed and have no complaints about the memory foam at all.

Where is P(too) when you need him...

Well, I was going to get one of these but after seeing the handprint which reminds me too much of a bizarre jello mold, I have changed my mind.
I have a good mattress. And...some things just can't be improved on. I'd mentioned in an earlier post that I was concerned about hygiene.

If we can discuss sex, we can discuss perspiration. Some "romps", as 'not-so-desperate' refers to them, can be rather vigorous, and sweating and slipping into a jello mold doesn't sound like much fun or very good hygiene.

I hold my position on hand made hypo-allergenic futons and platform beds. A very high quality one will last a long time and is "supportive".

Sorry. I was temporarily detained in some Memory Foam.

A friend was going to buy a memory foam bed until the salesman advised her that it wasn't for "active" couples. He said that he had bought and returned onec he & his girlfriend did not enjoy it.

i have a firm sonno brand memory foam mattress and sex is awesome on it. so is waking up the next day.

in the seventies, active couples were encouraged to get water beds.

We have a 3" memory foam topper, and a very active sex life. I think it works great and do not notice any "sinking feelings". It is also great for sleeping. I was thinking our next bed would be a tempuredic, but after reading all these posts, I really think the 3" topper is the way to go. As for hygenic, simple fix. We use a really good washable water-resistant type mattress cover, and I wash it weekly. I works great. It is "silent", not on of those crinkly ones.

I think people have to remember that all memory foam matresses are not identical. Not only can the thickness of the foam differ, the quality or density of the foam can also be different. I have the Sonno and it is as easy to move across it as any other bed. When you wake up in the morning it doesn't feel like you are getting out of a sci-fi prop body cast...

will

Will has it right. I have never had our mattress have a depression like the handprint in the picture.

And who is "romping" on their memory foam without sheets or something that would absorb perspiration? I don't think there is any difference in hygiene between a regular mattress and memory foam. Both absord if not covered. Am I missing some difference? I think a lot of people are perpetuating memory foam myths without really knowing what they are talking about.

A fitted sheet isn't going to absorb "everything" if you know what I mean (and I KNOW you do)

:)

I too was a little worried about the memory foam 'warning' from the other thread, and have to echo jmarieb's opinion on an organic cotton futon mattress. We've got the White Lotus (linked in my name) 100% cotton futon on a slatted frame, with a feather bed on top - soft and squishy for sleeping, plus plenty of firmness for...other activities...

And it's nice!

My girlfriend has a 1.5 or 2" foam topper she bought from Overstock.com. With this thickness it makes a cheap mattress much more comfortable and we still get bounce from the mattress in the positions that need it. A good cover is definately necessary, though, not only to keep the pad clean but to hold it in place. Without one, the pad and your butt can be sliding off the mattress before you know it.

...which isn't always a BAD thing...

So? Get a bouncy not-memory foam pillow. Use where necessary.

We are a very active couple in the bedroom and the memory foam mattress we bought is great. I will say we did have to relearn how to use the bed during sex. With a traditional spring mattress you use the bounce, but energy and effort can get lost in the springs.

With memory foam, the bounce is gone, but now we have traction where before there was none. So we rethought the positions we previously used and we started using positions that take advantage of this new traction.

And our sex life is all the better for it! ;)

Daniel--
We need to see pics.

I had a regular mattress. Then I got a 2" memory foam topper from Overstock.com. This made sleeping so much better on my back. So six months later I ordered a 7.5 inch memory foam mattress and a platform bed that has rice mats under it for support. You have no idea how different the pad is from the mattress. I could not believe how much benefit I was missing out on by not having the full mattress. I wake up in the same spot I fall asleep in. I bought a Tempurpedic, which comes with a washable cover that deflects heat. I think that's very important... And as for the sex thing - well, I haven't suffered. I am thinking legs stay in the air easier....

We purchased a memory foam at Economy Futon on East Houston and are thrilled :) by its functionality. Comfortable to sleep on (heaven actually), and V E R Y quiet , no matter what activities are atop it. I can only recommend it whole-heartedly (Economy even trimmed the length as we needed a queen short for it to fit on our storage platform bed). A thick mattress pad provides extra comfort and reduces heat issues. Couldn't be happier with our purchase - best bed I ever had!

We got a Sealy memory foam and almost gave up on it after the first few days. Now I think it's aboslutely amazing; I think my body just needed time to re-adjust to sleeping on this kind of surface and I had been too quick to judge.

The way sex feels on it is surely the most subjective topic. For us, memory foam is just as great; and for me personally the sex is a little more intense now. I don't feel "thrown around" as much if you know what I mean.

I would like to second the commment from Daniel about the "relearning" of sex on memory foam. Firm/Traction vs. Cushy/Bounce. Practice makes perfect so get busy and then sleep dreamily.

We shopped around for a mattress and found that none of the memory foam beds could compare to the Tempurpedic brand. We purchased ours when I was 10 months pregnant and it saved my back. As far as sex on it goes...I recommend it! ps: could someone tell a computer dummy how to post a picture? I need help picking a trim stain!!!

We have the 10 inch tempurpedic mattress. I. LOVE. IT. So does my boyfriend. We have never had a more comfortable bed. The only reason it's difficult to get out of in the morning is because I'm so comfortable, I just want to hit the snooze button and snuggle back in. I agree with Daniel - It's great for sex, but the "action" is a little different. I do not miss the spring action at all and the bouncing across the mattress ending with my head banging against the headboard is something that I'm glad to be finished with. As for some of those positions that need to be modified - if you want to relive those moments - throw the pillows and blankets on the floor or couch and get busy.

I just acquired a 6-7 inch queen spring mattress from my aunt. I am concerned about todays "deep pocket" sheets, which is all i find for sale online, and I hate loose, bunched up sheets. I noticed that most of the sheets listed online were for these thicker mattresses.

Has anyone ever fancied the idea of a spring mattress followed by a 2 inch memory foam pad, topped off with a down/feather bed? I like to give my girl a good romping pretty much every night.. (I figured I'd throw that in there so I have reason for posting on this thread)

Romping is fun... Yea Romp!!!!

We just puchased a memory foam bed made by Sealy. We love it. I have no idea what people mean by sinking into some sort of deep hole. Yes, it does form to your body but really doesn't sink in any more than a conventional spring bed. We had a very firm Sterns and Foster bed prior to this bed and if anything our new bed sink in less. I think the big difference is the springback factor. When you move around it takes a little time for the bed to spring back from the previous position. Where as a spring bed pops right back into shape so you feel like it's not sinking in as much.

As far as sex goes, it's great. It hasn't distracted our sex life at all. Some positions are acutally better on the memory bed. This might be a little too much info for some people but I can say WE climax way quicker using this bed. The bed is very inviting and comfortable when bodies are tangled up rolling around. Remember the bed conforms to you, so there is really no uncomfortable postion on the bed.

I ACTUALLY KNOW SOMETHING ABOUT THIS

I dont know why people are chatting, as opposed to actual information. I have the real tempur-pedic bed, not the mattress topper. Ive noticed what sex ends up being when sleeping on OTHER peoples beds and then comparing. The memory foam beds do not 'bounce back', so getting into a rhythm when doing it really doesnt happen, and you and up 'thrusting' more in the missionary for the same reason. So, my abs and illiopsoas muscles work out more, but on the plusside, doing C.A.T. or other 'grinding/rubbing' techniques work better because of the friction the bed provides to horizontal movement(since she is sunk into it)

oh, sorry if i come across as sexist suggesting women should not be on top. i just prefer the missionary and grinding stuff.

ps. is good with the woman on top too - the mattress sinks in more where ist heavy, so her knees dig deep into the mattress, so ou get really close to eachother. cheers!

Any chance I get to do it, I do it. I like doing it any no bed is going to change that. I am a 31 year old single man who doesn't have a lot of luck with women. My only girlfriends/wives have been from when I would get married to a foreign woman to get into the country and she would dump me after the waiting period. It sucks to be me, so if any women want to move in with me after I get this mattress, please, e-mail me. Thanks.

It's memory foam, not quicksand!

We bought a mattress (not a mattress topper) about 1 1/2 years ago and love it for sleeping.

As for sex, well, I guess it depends. I'm gay and I'd it provides a more stable platform for certain positions with less stress on the back and neck. And the whole bed doesn't end up moving around since the mattress absorbs some of the motion, which I'd say is a plus if you're not trying to wake your neighbors in the middle of the night. So for us, it's been better.

I have a Tempurpedic mattress. It does make holding ones self up more difficult as the weight of your body on your hands does create impressions, but that's just standard missionary, which we've seen no loss of pleasure from. But a mattress is for sleeping and the Tempurpedic is simply amazing for sleep.

Besides, this is definatley more comfortable for the person lying on the bed, and a pillow properly placed here or there makes up for any minor "sinking" that may happen.

Get the 3 incher. if you cut a hole in your sheet and stick a big knife in the foam, you don't need a sex partner. Cleanup is not fun though.

I have a memory foam and I live in an apartment with roommates on either side of me, and I must say that it is much quieter and kinda adds a flair to our love life. Good luck findin something you like!

Memory foam sex is wonderful. Don't believe the hype. And it's so easy to fall asleep afterwards.

LOL bugs

I have a tempurpedic mattress and not only do I love sleeping on it, I love screwing on it too. I had the same concern, but the reality is you don't really sink that much into a good memory foam bed and it really makes ANY position very comfortable.

We are an active couple in the bedroom and I love the memory foam mattress we bought. We bought the Tempur Pedic. We can actually safely achieve positions that weren't so easy with a regular matress. Sex is better with this mattress.

We have traction where before there was none. It is nice not having my knees slide during the act. Plus it is a silent bed. If my wife could stay quiet then we would even be able to have sex with guest sleeping in the other room.

Love the foam. You do not sink in it. Sex is great and so is the sleeping afterwards!

Oh god, I'm so lonely. The closest I've come to sex was punching myself in the crotch for an hour and a half after watching will and grace.

I really love our memory foam, that is until it kept my 3 incher in its memory for the world to see

Does work pretty good for BUUTSECKS!!!!

My foam memory is gone, wanna see my meatlips, and browneye?

I was sexually assaulted on memory foam.

Whatever you do, do not go for a cheap foam mattress. It is bad for both sex and sleep. It sinks in certain areas and does not bounce back. I bought one last year because I needed a twin bed for my apartment (only size that would fit up the tiny staircase to my third floor bedroom) and went cheap because it only needed to last a couple years. I would have been better off with a futon.

I got the 3 inch pad and if you keep moving positions there is no problem. In the morning your still in the indention that you made while you were sleeping. They sex indentations had long gone away. I get agreat nights sleep every night. But I guess as they say to each their own.

We bought the foam topper and use it on a regular mattress that we bought new with it. Got the foam topper at Sam's Club and it is called SomaPedic. They have the foam pillows too.

I saw the TempaPedic matresses in a local store and the first thought when testing it was that it seemed to absorb all shock and motion and would be awful for sex. Also I seemed to sink in it deep and it has difficult to roll over in it. Plus the matresses are very expensive and would need a special bed frame. The sales clerks don't tell you aboutcvneeding the special bed frame right away.

The foam topper solves both issues. The one I bought was $99. It is the best thing ever for sleeping and it still has bounce putting it over a regular mattress.

Make sure you buy a MEMOREY FOAM topper and not just cheap foam which does not offer any benfits and disitegrates quickly.

We tried one of these out. The sleeping went pretty well, but the sex, well not so much. And now they won't let us back in that mattress store down the road from our house.

Seriously, memory foam makes it all better. I heartily endorse the "traction" comments above. And, when going solo, the cradling support I get lying on my back makes it much, much easier to quickly climax. Not that I need to go solo much, but you know what they say: 90% of men do, and 10% lie. As for couples fun, every position so far has been enhanced by the comfort of the memory foam. Anyone who doesn't have memory foam is missing out.

foam and sex = santorum

fuck you you fucking fuck

As an active threesome (2y, 1x) with a kingsize tempurpedic, we find that traction is essential and we just didn't get it on a conventional matress. We avoid the tempurpedic pillows however--instead have conventional waffle-baffled feather pillows of a variety of sizes to `fill the voids' in the inevitable pile of body parts. The only thing that ever came close in the old days was the traditional layered cotton futon.

Am I the only one who is bothered about Connie being 10 months pregnant?

Hmmm... 10 months. Yes, that does seem a bit odd. My wife and I have also wondered about the age-old memory-foam-sex issue. Thanks for all the great info!

When you work out the weeks, actually 10 months IS possible, but only for a few days.
From a mother of 3, 2 of which I was 10 months pregnant with....can you say....late arrivals?

Telise

P.S. I have a foam topper over a waterbed, keeps the heat issue down, but it's not always great to stay in the same position all night long. I think my body would feel better if I'd turned over a few times because sometimes I don't fall asleep in the most healthy positions.

I'm looking to buy a bed/mattress. I have an active sex life, and things get pretty sweaty. I'm thinking of a mattress from Room and Board...do i need a memory foam pad as well? Also, should i get a waterproof mattress cover? I also need a bed (not just a mattress) that will withstand frequent, sweaty, athletic sex. Someone tell me all the things that I should buy and what goes over and under what. (no pun intended) Thanks! Rob

p.s. I also want to not get too hot during sleep... And, I'd like a bed with a headboard.. something that's easily cleanable, if you know what I mean. There must be some gay standard way of buying a bed/mattress/foam/cover/etc that is ideal for sexually active men and all of their jams, jellies, notions and potions. Good sleep, good sex, easy clean up. There must be some website somewhere that has wisdom on this.
Rob

(last one, i promise) Would it make sense to have a mattress, with a memory foam pad on top of that, with a waterPROOF cover covering the pad and the mattress, followed by another cover, and then the sheets? Sweat sinks through a pad and to the foam pad... How do you layer it all?

I have a Tempuredic and a two inch topper.....I think they are just heaven!! Contact is firmer (I like that) and as someone else said.....sleep is just a dream world afterwards! Cannot believe that sleep can be this good! (We are older and have had some back problems in the past!) Even the dog loves it (we made a bed for her from one of the pillows). We never travel without out pillows!

SOME OF YOU GUYS ARE FREAKS!!! but anyways...what do you guys think is better...a feather bed topper or the memory foam topper? how much did you guys usually pay for the memory foam topper? the feather bed is around $59.99 or so. thanks =)

sex is great. yall should try different positions is better than a regular mattress.

Some memory foam mattresses on the market can be very soft and unsupportive. But a high density foam with a firmer ILD (firmness rating) can offer excellent support. Foam beds also reduce motion transfer to a minimum as opposed to innerspring beds that are bouncy.

We have a Temput-Pedic bed and it is dandy for sex! It's actually quite firm. Then, if you really want some fun, check out the Liberator line of bedroom furniture. Zoinks, Scoob!

Just thought I'd point out: No springs = no squeaks. Also, with my old mattress I was always paranoid that a spring would break under all that pressure and burst through my chest in the middle of the act. My memory foam mattress makes sex more enjoyable by reducing my fear of sudden ironic death!

Ooh, baby, baby! This thread has some pretty hot posters! "Traction"???? You mean I don't have to keep my stilettos on if I get a Tempurpedic????

i have a 1.5" tempurpedic memory foam matress and LOVE it. it doesn't make any significant depressions and doesn't sink a lot. it took my boyfriend a little while to get used to it, but now he loves it too. it's also GREAT for sex - it doesn't make any noise, it's soft, and i can't tell any diff. between this one and my old one. it is definitely more inconspicuous - i have a roommate living in a room adjacent to my bed and she can never hear us having sex b/c there are no springs...i would recommend it 100% (for sex and for sleep).

rob - i would NOT recommend putting that many layers on memory foam b/c you might not get all the benefits of the actual foam (if you layer on 5 things on top of it). do you have a regular mattress now and you're just looking to get a memory foam pad? if so, then it can get tricky. but, if you have a mattress, just put on a waterproof layer and sheets on top of that.

in conclusion, tempurpedic = very sex friendly :)

My girlfriend bought me a memory foam mattress last year for my birthday/christmas gift (yeah I'm a christmas baby...ugh) and I love it! She loves it! we both love it. I must agree that sex is quieter but the only problem is that I have my matress on a futon frame (like a low platform bed) and the futon frame hits the wall.... any sugesstions for stoping that? "bed sexy noise" really freaks me out.

MEMORY FOAM IS MADE FROM PETROCHEMICALS AND IS HIGHLY TOXIC. YOUR BODY TEMP ALLOWS THE MATERIALS IN MEMORY FOAM TO EMIT DANGEROUS TOXIC GASSES.YOU NOT ONLY BREATHE THESE IN BUT YOUR SKIN WILL ALSO ABSORB THEM IN TO YOUR BLOOD STREAM. THIS IS INCREDIBLY BAD ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE PREGNANT AS IT CAN CAUSE YOUR BABY TO CARY THES TOXINS IN THEIR LITTLE BODYS. MY PREDICTION IS THAT IN TEN YEARS TIME WHEN PEOPLE START REALISING THAT THEIR BEDS ARE CAUSING THEIR SERIOUS HEALTH PROBLEMS ALL COMPANYS WILL BE SUED, YOU MAY AS WELL THROW OUT YOUR WARRANTIES NOW IF YOU ARE STUPID ENOUGH TO CONTINUE SLEEPING ON MEMORY FOAM!!

I was with a guy who had an enormous memory foam mattress- it was so long I could sleep on it in either direction. So that was great. The problem was sex. But not sinking so much. The problem was the lack of bounce. I like some extra spring. But we just added one of those ab/yoga/pilates balls- you know those huge plastic things to do crunches etc on- and that added more than sufficient extra spring.

I have heard great reports about memory foam, but I am menopausal with hot flushes and night sweats, so like cold bedrooms and a cool part of the bed to move to. I know foam retains heat so does or has anyone had any experience with this problem, comments before I buy please.

Emzy, this is a pretty serious statement. Where are you getting this information from?

I just bought a novaform topper and it's great for sleeping and whatever else you feel like doing.

emzy is a moron.......enough said.

Hahaha, emzy .. I think you are confusing "memory foam" with "memory loss", caused by brain damage from exposure to petrochemicals, which apparently you have. Memory foam does not even have petrochemicals as a by-product in its mixture or manufacturing. Where the hell did you get such a notion? Now, if you are referring to the varient of memory foam called "T-Foam" (Tempur Foam) which I might add has since been updated, and the older varient is no longer sold in the united states - had a chemical gas it would release and yes, it was unhealthy in closed environments , but even at that it did NOT contain petrochemicals. Knowledge is brutal, especially if you're wrong, and you are...

I just bought a Cloud Nine memory foam mattress and it'll be delivered in a couple of days. Has anyone here purchased one? I was concerned about "other activites" on a memory foam bed but now I'm not so worried. Thanks for the candid responses.

http://www.cloudninebedding.com/cld-001.html

Memory foam manufacturers operating overseas are not subject to the same regulatory constraints as manufacturers at home. Many Asian memory foam plants use toxic chemical that can actually make you sick. In addition their quality is not closely monitored and the density you are paying for is not the density you will receive.

http://www.a1mattress.com/health-page.html

We bought an adjustable Sealy Brand memory foam mattress. I just now took the mattress cover off. What I see is the bottom has a thick foam layer, then there's a 4 inch layer of memory foam, then the last part that I actually lie on is like an egg crate foam piece (the egg crate part is upside down.)

Sleeping on this takes getting used to, but you do get used to it. Sex: If you're a woman and on top, you do sort of sink down. But it's like anything, you work around it. The sealy brand isn't like quicksand.

Sleep is really important. And the sex is too, but you just work around the memory foam.

As for the comment about the chemicals...I have chemical sensitivity and have had zero problems with this mattress.

I have a thermoplush select and love it. It's VERY firm, but the top layer is a little squishy. I think it feels better than all the tempurpedics I tried. AS for sex, it takes some getting used to, but it's fine. It's not bouncy like a regular mattress- so if you're a "lazy sexer" you may not like it, but I think it's fine. (in fact, I kind of like it better now) Hope that helps...

Oh- just because I read above about chinese mattresses and stuff- the thermoplush is made in america.

I don't care what kind of mattress it is. Mattress, toliet, court room, car, movie theatre, classroom, train, Kmart don't care where; I gotta have it. That's all there is to it.

Does anybody know how memory foam reacts compared to conventional mattresses to semen and vaginal fluids deposited over the years? Is it more or less sanitary?

I have an original tempurpedic mattress & pillows. Sex is better because you have much more contol without all that bouncing. Definatley can recommend the mattress. But beware of the cheaper memory foam, it will not last as long.

iwe bought a sealy temperpedic mattress,for 2yrs. it worked fine,i loved it,then it made my sciatic nerve started to hurt,and now if i sleep somewhere else.it is okay.but if i sleep in my bed when i get up it hurts. what is going on?

I'll just say I put the key words "sex on a memory foam mattress no good" into a google search BECAUSE of the fact that this is how I feel about my bed. My husband and I have romps on our old very uncomfortable futon mattress because it is MUCH better there than on our super expensive 3 inch deep memory foam bed. Very disappointing and too late to take it back. *sigh

Will one of these fit in the kitchen?