The Etiquette of Sharing Photos

Good Questions

Q: I'm throwing a big party at home for my dad's 50th birthday, and my family is going all-out. We're splurging on catering, rental decor and a professional photographer. There's just one problem. I don't like the idea of photos of my home turning up on the web, and it seems like a waste of a photographer to have people sharing camera phone photos on Facebook. Is it OK to ask people to not snap pics and post photos to Facebook?

Sent by Donna

Editor: We live in the era of the ever-present camera. It makes you yearn for the days when you could actually sit back and enjoy a fete without the pressure of getting everything caught on tape.

As far as the pro photog is concerned, I wouldn't worry about blurry camera phone shooters getting in his way or stealing the thunder from your paid, polished and professionally tuned works of art.

But if you've got another hangup about your guests sharing photos, you have two options: Take it easy, or kick them out. In one scenario you're a graceful and laid-back host to your guests, and in the other you're a control freak birthday-zilla. We'd pick the former. Our advice is to sit back, let guests share what they'd like and remember to un-tag all the photos in the morning.

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