Q: I'll be having a baby in May and my husband and I are considering having the baby sleep in our bed for the first few months. However, I'm uncomfortable with having the baby just in our bed, loose, but our bedroom isn't large enough for a separate full-sized bassinet or an attached co-sleeper. A friend suggested using a small travel bed in our bed to put our minds at ease. Therefore I'd like to ask the Ohdeedoh community: have you ever used a travel bed in another bed?
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I used the Eddie Bauer Infant Travel Bed (available at Target for $30) on my sofa, and it worked great. We were in the living room all the time anyway. For bed use, I think your bed would need to be pretty big to fit a travel bed and parent, especially two parents. There are "snuggle nests" made for use in the bed (available on Amazon); those might be easier to fit parent and baby.
I seem to remember seeing baby beds specifically designed to sit in the bed between parents at Babies R Us when I was creating my gift registry.
Our bed is king-sized (76" wide).
What travel bed is pictured here with your question?
We just purchased the Brica travel bassinet for just this purpose. We have tried to buy as few baby "uni-taskers" as possible and thought we could actually take it for travel purposes. The Brica is quite large (fits our 6 week old twins together) and you would definitely need a king size bed if you have two adults sleeping in it as well.
We actually used a baby change pad (the concave ones) in the middle of our bed. Since baby doesn't really move for the first little while, it worked well as I was recovering from my c-section. I imagine the travel bed would work just fine..
We use the Summer Infant contoured changing pad & cover as a "baby mattress" between us on the bed. It's a very inexpensive option and has worked well for us.
We used the First Years Close and Secure Sleeper for two months off and on with our daughter. We had the same problem, small room and it worked great in our queen sized bed. http://www.walmart.com/ip/The-First-Years-Close-and-Secure-Sleeper/3205748?sourceid=1500000000000003260330&ci_src=14110944&ci_sku=3205748
Maybe your bed is too big for your room?
@ avimom -- The bed isn't too big for the room, but adding a full-sized bassinet would make it too cramped for my taste (there is theoretically room, but I'd rather try something else first -- thus the question about in-bed co-sleepers). Also, I feel that bassinets don't warrant the cost (they can only be used for a few months), while travel beds can be used for outings as well (and are usually less expensive).
Finally, I would never go back to a smaller bed. We slept in a full-sized bed for years and now that we've made the leap to king-sized, I wouldn't ever want to go back. I can barely hear by husband's snoring when he's waaaay over on his size of the bed.
@ TCoulter: The travel bed pictured is the Brica Fold N' Go Travel Bassinet .
They sell a product at Babies R Us called a "Snuggle Nest" that is specifically designed for this. I think it would fit in your bed better. That being said, I had the same concern with my daughter but got over it pretty fast and she ended up just sleeping in the bed with us and I sold the Snuggle Nest on Craig's List. It's so hard to know what you are really going to use or not use.
We currently use the Baby Delight Snuggle Nest in our queen size bed. It's a bit of a tight squeeze but it's not too bad though my husband has on occasion threatened to get out the tape measure to see who has more room.
It has built in white noise which instantly soothes our baby and a night light.
Our little one is going on 9 weeks and he'll probably grow out of it in the next month or so.
http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Delight-Snuggle-Green-White/dp/B004LKS0GQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1299786953&sr=8-1
Someone gave us the Snuggle Nest as a gift. I didn't think we'd use it but I actually really liked it. He outgrew it pretty quickly - but for those first 2 months it was great. We have a king size bed also, and there was plenty of room.
I co-slept with my daughter without any sort of travel bed. We considered buying a travel bed for her to use after she refused to sleep in her crib, but we never got around to it.
I slept on the very far edge of my side of the bed and my daughter slept between my husband and me. My husband was really nervous about rolling over on our daughter so in the beginning he slept on the far edge of his side of the bed and put a rolled towel between him and my daughter.
For the most part, my daughter slept snuggled up to me. It didn't matter how far away I placed her, she managed to shimmy her way back up to me.
My neighbors recently had a baby and bought the Snuggle Nest. They tried and tried but their son hated sleeping in it. Eventually they switched to regular co-sleeping as well.
Another option that many people use here in Sweden is that they buy a pram type stroller and have the baby sleep in the bassinet. It is actually really practical when the baby is small as you can wheel the pram all over your house and take the bassinet part out and place it wherever you want.
My roommates cosleep with their daughter, and she's just over 1 year old.
They have a full-sized bed, and sleep sideways on it, since all parties are curly sleepers anyway. My Tiny Roommate has a toddler bed now at the foot of her mom and dad's bed, and they're working at getting her to stay there.
We used the Snuggle Nest, but love the idea of a travel bed for future use (dual purpose). With that said, being more confident now after 9 months of mommy-hood, I wish I had just put baby in our bed without the Snuggle Nest. Much easier for "roll-over" midnight feedings, and therefore improved sleeping for all involved. With a king size bed, you'll have plenty of room for baby and two parents. The "roll over on baby" paranoia will wear off quickly, I promise :)
We are in the same situation so I made this little bassinet and we hung it at the foot of our bed. It looks really cute and sits beside the window. I hung it a foot above my feet and I made it in colors that match our room. Plus it will/travel easy. Good luck.
Big fan of the Snuggle Nest. Ours went all over the house with us, since it was great on the sofa as well as the bed. We also used it as a travel bed, it went to Grandma's house a few times, even though we weren't staying overnight it was a good place for him to nap.
We had a wee little preemie boy who rolled over late, so we used it far longer than most people would have. And when the baby finally outgrew it, the cat moved into it for a while...
@Abra - that sounds awesome... do you have pictures?
love the changing pad idea! so cheap and you'll definitely get lots of use out of it after, too!
We used a close and secure sleeper for a little while but it didn't leave much room for my husband and I in our queen size been. We ended up getting a fisher price rock 'n play sleeper to use as a bassinet which was amazing since it had an incline and our little guy had acid reflux. It also folds up like a folding chair really quickly and worked well as a travel crib for us in the early months. It has great reviews on amazon - I'd highly suggest this instead of something for in the bed.
To be more helpful and less snarky...we used the carry-cot from a pram as our bassinet. You're right that bassinets are a waste of money, but I loved the pram. Used it every day until she was able to climb out of it on her own at 2.5 yrs. Used the carry-cot at night on the floor next to our bed and then in the crib. It was nice to have something that could be moved about the house. Sometimes her naps were upstairs, sometimes down. Many times outside in the breeze. If you're looking at buying a fancy stroller/pram, see if maybe the carry-cot will serve your night-time purposes.
We used a moses basket, which was perfect and we could use it around the house too.
rather than co-sleep (which just didn't work for us because i tend to kick in my sleep, not so good for a baby), we used the Fisher-Price Newborn Rock 'N Play Sleeper - $40 or so and small (folds up) and the only thing our daughter would sleep in until she was 2.5 months, when she finally got used to lying completely flat in her crib. i think they like the way it cradles them, and it is safety-tested for using overnight.
I second the recommendation for a moses basket...and I love the idea for a pram, but I think it could get a bit annoying...tripping over wheels and what not. We had a pack and play that had a detachable bassinet, it hung inside the pack and play near our bed until they moved into cribs at 5 months. Our 4th(and last) just used the bassinet on the ground near our bed ...only inconvenience was picking him up from (low) bed to feed at night. We also layered him a little warmer as cool air sinks... At 5 months, he has finally outgrown it(approx. 16 lbs.)
I have heard from many parents that it can be very difficult to get your child to sleep in it's own bed or room after the experience of co-sleeping. I'm not judging, but would like to share my experience. My son has slept in his bed (the Stokke Sleep System) since the day he was brought home from the hospital. He is now 2 and a half and is still in their toddler bed. He's never slept a single night in our bed and has slept comfortably through the night for as long as I can remember.
In our experience it was very important that my husband and I continue to have our time. With a new baby, it is easy to put your relationship on the back burner. Just sleeping in the same bed, without the baby...truly does help you regain your connection...just a suggestion.
Wishing you the best of luck with whatever you end up doing!!
I am planning to use our stroller that has a bassinet attachment, it seems to make more sense since you can wheel the kid around with minimal risk of waking him, unlike a travel bed.
I've been looking at the First Years Close and Secure Baby Sleeper as well as the Baby Delight Snuggle Nest, although I like the idea of using a changing pad. As far as the size concern, it looks like the widths of these various options are about the same (14.5-16 inches). http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Delight-Snuggle-Nest-White/dp/B004LKS0HK/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1299792456&sr=8-4
http://www.amazon.com/First-Years-Close-Secure-Sleeper/dp/B003HD7SNY/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1299792456&sr=8-3
I think it's safer to keep a newborn out of your bed. I have been a Babynurse for the past 11 years, And I think that a newborn should be on their back on a flat mattress with a fan in the room. There is plenty of time to snuggle with your baby during the day. I bought a sweet , small 1950's bassinet from craig's list for my daughter...didn't take up a lot of room & looked great!
Like many others above, we used the Snuggle Nest. We borrowed it from a friend, unsure if we wanted to shell out the money, but it would totally have been worth it.
The first weeks, our son would only sleep for 15 or 20 minutes in his co-sleeper/basinet next to the bed, but would sleep for 1 hour in our bed. The snuggle nest meant he was safe between our pillows, wouldn't get caught under covers and wouldn't get rolled onto. It also meant a MUCH better night sleep for me, so I wasn't stuck in one position like a rock so as not to disturb him.
we also used the snuggle nest & loved it. we used it until our daughter outgrew it. by that point, we felt comfortable having her in between us without the snuggle nest (a combination of us being used to it & her not being so tiny & fragile).
we have a king-sized bed & my husband & i used separate blankets so we weren't worried about her getting covered up. the gentle light on the snuggle nest was also very handy to have.
We have our king mattress on the floor and use a Fisher Price Rock n' Play cradle next to it. We also have a Moses basket, but the Rock n' Play is incredible for helping baby sleep through the night. It requires a little extra padding in between the cover and the frame (to prevent a flat spot, since the padding it comes with is thin), but aside from that it works AWESOME for a co-sleeping situation.
I thought for our second baby I'd pick up a beautiful Babybunk, but the Rock n' Play is working great for us. Here's a review of the Babybunk... more pricey than the Snuggle Nest type of solution, but I think it's a solution worth considering: http://littlecapucine.com/2008/08/14/review-baby-bunk-wood-cosleeper/
I have used the First Years Close and Secure Baby Sleeper for my last two kids and loved it. Works great in a king. It is low enough I can reach over and grab baby out for feedings and narrow enough I can still lay down to nurse with it in the bed between us. My first baby was in a bassinet right beside me and I hated it. I like them right next to me, so much easier. All three of my kids were in bed with us - one month, four months, and three months. They all left our bed with no problems and sleep through the night just fine when they were in their own bed.
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Our first baby slept in a cradle next to our bed. When we moved him into a crib in his own room for the first time at 8 weeks, everyone slept better. It turned out that our tossing and turning were waking him up as much as his little noises were waking us up. I can't imagine how much worse it would be if the baby was in bed with us. When baby #2 came along, we did the same thing, with the same results. When she moved into her own room, everyone started sleeping through the night. We couldn't believe we hadn't learned our lesson the first time around. I also think that the crib mattress was so much more comfortable than the cradle mattress, and probably a lot more comfortable than a travel bed.
I used a moses basket beside the bed for the first few months of Jack's life but wish I had just coslept from the start. It would have made nighttime nursing so much easier and is TOTALLY biologically appropriate -- the info that says you should not bedshare as it increases SIDS is actually based on flawed science and breastfed, bedsharing newborns are actually much less likely to suffer SIDS deaths (to say nothing of deaths by housefire etc.). There is lots of info online (try Kellymom.com) about safe sleepsharing (and you can 'reconnect' with your hubby in all sorts of places that aren't the family bed). When Jack outgrew the bassinet at about three months, he moved into our bed -- even with three in a double, we were just fine. When we moved to a king size, it was awesomely palatial :)
I suspect that some of the major advantages of bedsharing would actually be negated by this basket, just because it would be very hard to get your newborn out of it and back into it while still asleep, plus they really want to be cuddled by you, not in a separate place.
As a mama, you will be exquisitely aware of your little one's presence in bed with you. The natural place they want to be is right beside you, under your arm and safe from being rolled on. Humans have been sharing sleep surfaces with their tiny infants since we were living in caves, and you will be amazed at your instinctive response to your baby. Congratulations!
We used a snuggle nest rather than a travel bed, and with the second child a moses basket as well. I almost bought an Eddie Bauer travel bed instead of the Snuggle Nest, but looking at them set up in the store changed my mind due to space.
Places like BuyBuyBaby or Babies R Us often have the various items set up and on display, which might be good to get a sense of how much wider a given travel bed is.
I also suspect with a zip up style travel bed like the one in the pic, it's going to be a hassle to put the baby back in after feeding, and by the time they're too big for the snuggle nest, they're also less at risk of suffocation from bedding.
Oh, and both my former co-sleeping babies moved to their own beds and rooms without issue later on. Some people it doesn't work for, and some it does. To each their own.
We used a "Close and Secure" sleeper by First Years and it was great. We have a queen bed and my husband is a big guy (6'4") so we were worried about how we would fit. Turns out you are very atuned to your baby and as long as alcohol, drugs and cigarettes are ZERO factor, life is good.
PS, co-sleeping lasted about two months but then he was ready to roll and not be swaddled anymore so he moved into his cot at the fott of our bed. This way we still have easy feeds throughout the night and he is nice and close.
We also used the First Years Close and Secure Sleeper. We used it in our queen size bed, which I didn't mind, but my husband felt a little cramped. It lasted us about 3 months. I really liked the light that's attached. I could see baby but it wasn't bright enough to wake her up.
Thanks for all the feedback everyone!
Yes, she slept in a travel bassinet in our room, and the three nights a week my husband worked night shift she slept in the bassinet in our bed. I was too chicken to really co-sleep. Also, then when she transitioned to the crib and three months, I put the bassinet in the crib for a couple more weeks, she slept better in the smaller space.