I would call the police department and ask for information about the building. They may be able to tell you about the frequency of calls in that area. Because of privacy laws, I don't know how much info they can give out about a specific person, but it's worth asking. Also, hang out in the neighborhood and try to find an officer on patrol. He/she has probably responded to calls for this person before and could tell you their opinion about what's going on there.
We had a woman next door to us who was notorious with our local police department for calling 911 at the drop of a hat. Case in point: our flood light was pointing in the direction of her window causing her to lose sleep at night... Anyhoo, every officer in the area knew of her and she was known for being dramatic and a nuisance.

Maybe see if you can talk to anyone else in the complex? I would want to get a bit more info before making a decision.

Take it seriously. As I was signing the lease on my apartment, the property manager told me about the man who lives below, saying he's very nice, very smart and a little strange. Also, he is the landlord's nephew, therefore he's not going anywhere anytime soon.

Had I known this before I would have reconsidered the apartment. He has never done anything dangerous, but awkward encounters in the hallways leave me with the creeps. It's better to keep looking now, then commit to something and feel uncomfortable.

If she wanted it for herself, she could have gotten it on the first day it hit the market; she would have seen it go up for rent.

I would trust her...or at least seek out a second opinion from other tenants. You could also do a crime search online for the building's address.

Also, since she didn't mention why the guy was dangerous -- it couldn't hurt to check your state's sex offender registry. And Google him.

I would ask the neighbor what specifically makes him crazy and dangerous and problematic enough to call the police.

People interpret these characteristics differently. The young guy who likes to drink, is covered in tattoos, and turns his stereo up too loud might qualify as the above to some people. Or he could be aggressive and have an explosive temper. If it's the latter, then yes, you might want to reconsider before locking yourself into a lease.

I would take this warning seriously - the risks of living next to a mentally unstable (and potentially dangerous) person far outweigh the benefits of having a nice apartment, imo. No point in having a wonderful apartment if you don't feel safe in it. You can always find another apartment, you can't always undo a traumatic incident (god forbid).

I once warned a new neighbor about the psycho that lives below her prior to her moving in. She brushed me off. She regrets that every single day.

The lack of curiosity or inquiries prior to moving in always surprises me. Living in an apartment building is an inherently communal affair and folks seem to be fairly casual about it.

it's also possible that this woman is mentally unstable herself and possibly her claims are to be taken with a grain of salt. It would be ideal if you could get some other tenants' perspectives on not just this guy, but her, too.

Years ago, I rented the top of a duplex (landlord downstairs) with a girlfriend and my young daughter. (3 females) A few months later the next door neighbor stopped by and informed me that my landlord's son was being released from jail in a month---way earlier than expected--- and that she was concerned about us. He was imprisoned for raping a woman who had lived in our apartment a couple of years earlier. We broke our lease AND later found out that the son hung himself in what was my garage spot.

Take the warning seriously. Do your research!!

I actually just registered so I could comment here on this concern. YES! Take the warning seriously enough to investigate the issue before moving into this apartment. All I keep thinking is yes of course you should and you would be crazy to ignore it. Be careful, jeez.

Take it seriously. I bought a condo and an elderly woman and her two adult mentally disabled sons moved in below me after I had closed.

The creepy guys do things like loiter around the doorways, come upstairs to leave "presents" at my door, make lewd comments, chain smoke outside enough that it seeps into my unit, yell and cuss at nothing outside, sing horribly off-key at the top of their lungs at 5am, bang on my door about "stomping" when I'm not even walking in my unit. The worse one is well known to the Police as a creeper.

After 6 years of living like that... after the countless incidents that just gave me the creeps, a few scary door poundings at 1am, a handful of times of having to call the Police later I'd had enough. I can't sell the place but I rented it out at a loss of $400 a month and moved. I don't enjoy losing $400 a month, but it's worth it to not have to deal with those two guys on a day to day basis.

I'd take the warning seriously as well. People tend not to make off-hand comments of that nature. When there's an opening in my small building (4 units), I try to be friendly and chat with potential new neighbors so they can get a better sense of the building and area. If the new building being considered is similarly small, then you will regularly bump into your neighbors. Better to feel safe than sorry.

I'm with VERILY. People interpret others very differently. However, do consider what she said and do a bit more research. Also consider that if you do take the apartment and it turns out that this neighbor is a creep, are you willing to live with that situation? You are now in control of your situation, later on, you may not be.

You need way more information before you "trust" someone you have never met (the 'informer') and who may have an ulterior motive.

Plus, if this neighbor truly feels unsafe, she'd be doing more than "considering" moving.

Actions speak louder than words. She's still there.

As others have suggested, check with police and with other neighbors before making any decision. (And, if the informer's advice turns out not to be credible, give her a wide berth... she may be the one you need to look out for.)

I wouldn't worry until you've looked into it, which is not a bad idea. I had a neighbor who always complained about so-and-so in a building to me and told me to watch out. Her complaints about "bad kids" were normal 20-somethings who worked strange hours (night jobs) and had crappy cars. Never had a problem with any of those but boy did this woman like to stop me in the hallway to complain about them.

OK, here's my two cents. First, it's better to be safe than sorry. Second, perhaps he's not crazy and dangerous, perhaps the woman who complained about him is the crazy one. Either way, someone is crazy~~and they're both living next to you. I definitely wouldn't want to be living there.

I would take it seriously, a little further investigation on your part should take place. I agree with the above who suggested contacting the police department, if she did actually call they should have a record of it, although I don't know how much they can tell you about it.

One of my apartments during college was a unit for a price that was almost too good to be true. While showing it to me the property manager commented that the prior tenant had lived there for 10 years and he wasn't sure why he suddenly moved out. 1 month into the lease I discover why: the building was infested with cockroaches and every 6 weeks I had to empty out my kitchen of all dishes and food so they could come in and spray. Not as bad as a crazy guy but it really drove me nuts toward the end of that year.

I wish I had taken his comment as a hint that something was wrong.

I'd take it seriously enough to research both him and her. Also review the contract carefully. Bad neighbors are a drag, and the closer they are the bigger pain they are. You can't do much about the ones who move in after you do, but you can avoid the ones who already are there. If you do move in, establish and maintain firm boundaries and security measures from the start. It would be smart to do that even without a warning.

I don't think speaking to the 'accused' neighbor is the way to go - of course they won't think they, themselves, are a problem. But I do think asking around more and speaking to the landlord directly is in order. With the landlord you can say: I was told to there is concern about one of my future neighbors, do you know anything about that? You could ask to put a clause into your lease saying you have a 3-month trial period or something. And if s/he says no or won't answer your questions to your liking, then look for another place. I don't think a warning like this should be discounted though. And as ACH pointed out, even if it is the woman who is crazy - then you have a nosy, crazy neighbor there too!

I wouldn't take it lightly, and I'd try to talk to some other tenants and do some research. I once moved into an apartment building, and the day I moved in, an elderly tenant next door spent 45 minutes telling me how the neighborhood was in decline and there had been break-ins every week. I never had a problem in the 3 years I lived there, and found out later that the "break-in" was actually a shoddily-made sliding glass door that had broken.

However, when I was moving from that apt to something different, I was warned by a tenant of a building I was looking at about some men living on the top floor of the building. I shrugged it off, and regretted it terribly for 365 days. They started drinking on their balcony at 8 am on Saturdays, blasting music out of a crappy boombox, yelled lewd and vicious comments at any girl crossing the street, and once threw a full can of beer at my parked car while I was standing next to it.

So, I'd say don't take it lightly, but don't make assumptions either. Talk to more people in the building, and do some sleuthing online if you can.

Definitely get more information. Even as much as asking the landlord and perhaps getting the guy's name. There's always two sides to a story.

As someone posted above, at least one (if not both) of your potential neighbors is crazy. That information is a GIFT. You should accept it and RUN.

take it seriously! i wish someone would've warned me about my next door neighbor. After 5 1/2 years of door slamming, wall banging, screaming accusations and ridiculous amounts of pessimism and passive aggressiveness, i finally told him he was a sociopath and to never speak to me or look at me again! (really shouldve done that sooner)

It's never a bad idea to do you own personal crime check around any area where you plan on moving, but I wouldn't take the opinion of one person who lives next door as the absolute truth. The cops know what is up and can tell you, at the very least, how many calls have been made in a particular area, if there were any cars stolen on the street, et cetera.

Furthermore, if that woman was really fearful, she would have moved already...otherwise she would have given you a solid reason that she hadn't moved yet. Maybe she has an alterior motive and wants to move a friend of hers into that unit.

As a resident manager (small building) I would advise you to do as much research as possible and make lots of visits at various hours...take someone with you (including when the office is closed). I would ask what kind of screening criteria they have in place and what service they use to verify backgrounds (if at all). I use a background screening service and don't mind telling applicants the name of the company so they can research them too if they choose. If they don't use a background screening service I would most DEFINITELY be concerned!!!

I also would NOT ever divulge a residents name and or address...except to authorities!

Good luck and I hope it works out well for you!

It's also possible the woman already living there was lying just because she didn't want Sahra as a neighbor. As was said, there's definitely at least one difficult neighbor there. Happily, it's easier than ever to research potential homes before signing.

How and why can someone expect a bunch of strangers on the internet to be able to answer this? There is no substitute for your own good judgement about what a person is like. Meet the guy. Or at the very least, ask other tenants if the neighbor's warning makes any sense to them. It should be fairly easy to meet the guy if the place only has 4 apartments - knock on his door and tell him you are a potential tenant and you have a question about XYZ. He doesn't need to know that you also have a question about him as a person. To be sure, having met a person once generally does not give a complete picture of who they are and what they're like, but it should give you some idea of whether he's totally unstable or what, and it's much, much better than putting yourself in the position of relying on someone else's opinions with none of your own to inform your thinking.

The other thing I'm having trouble understanding is, why don't we know what this neighbor called the cops for? There are many reasons why someone would do such a thing. You need to find out what happened.

The third thing I don't understand at all, what is a "vintage" apartment?

I should probably add, I didn't mean to imply you should go meet the guy on your own. Talk to other tenants first, and if they say "he's fine, that woman who warned you is the crazy one," then maybe try to meet him, while accompanied by your roommate or a friend.

So sorry you are having to go through this.
A few years ago, my husband and I (pre-baby), had found what we thought was the most amazing apartment. We were smitten with almost every detail. We thought the landlady seemed so sweet. She was this little old Greek lady here in Astoria who we thought was absolutely darling and tender. We grabbed up the apartment right there on the spot.

A few days later, before we had even moved anything into the apartment and it was still fairly empty, a woman knocked on our door with a valuable warning. She said she was the daughter of the elderly couple living downstairs in the basement, and warned us that once the little old lady finished cashing our check, that her daughter would take over the landlady duties instead. And she told us her daughter was absolutely CRAZY. She stood in our doorway, telling us that this daughter of the old lady was going to essentially be our landlady, not the sweet old woman we had met. Something of a "bait and switch" of sorts. And that this landlady's daughter had made her parent's lives a living hell for years now, and would make our lives hellish, too. She warned us that many people come and go out of these apartments, because the crazy daughter constantly accuses them of things that they did not do, and then kicks them out, and tries to sue them over things, etc. And any time somebody wants to report so much as a leaky faucet, the daughter would fly into a rage and fury, and accuse them of destroying the home, try to foot them the bill for the repairs, and so on. She said one minute she acts nice, and the next she totally loses it, and is probably bipolar. And she urged us to get out while we still could. "Otherwise, she is going to eventually kick you out. EVERYBODY gets kicked out of this place. My elderly parents are now being kicked out for things they did not do. You will be, too. That is, if she doesn't send you running for the hills yourselves, first." My husband and I were nervous, but we just thanked her for the chat, and closed the door. My husband and I talked for a good long while, and then thought "There is probably just some drama going on between all of them that has nothing to do with us. And this woman is trying to stick it to the family who owns this house. And what if she just wants us to cancel the check we wrote to reserve the apartment, so she could get the place to herself? That way, she could live upstairs from her elderly parents?". We tried to convince ourselves (and it worked fairly well, since we decided to stay), that maybe this woman, THIS daughter, maybe SHE was the insane one, and not the landlady's daughter, as she claimed. We decided there was a back-story that we weren't hearing, and there must be more to this. Two sides to every story, if you know what I mean. We were honestly so mesmerized with how cute this place was, that we really wanted her to be wrong so that we could stay. So we did stay. And when we first met her daughter, we thought "ok, good. The other woman was wrong. The landlady's daughter is smiley, and seems very sweet! We didn't get sucked into their drama, and we won't. Good thing we stayed!" And so we moved our things in.

And our lives DID become a living HELL. Many many times over the 4 years we resided there, we got accused by the daughter of things we did not do. She was insane. Then she eventually did kick us out, (for something that was 100% HER fault and not ours), and told us we had 3 months to leave. We HAPPILY obliged. Seriously, it was one of the best things that has ever happened to us. That woman is completely unstable, and in a way that is absolutely terrifying. She was abusive, and living in that place was so scary. As pretty as it was, it was so stressful and awful. In hindsight, we would have rather lived in a hideous shanty across town, than to have lived there under her reign. Sometimes, a place can seem beautiful. But it's just a beautiful hell. And that is NO place to call home.

We moved into an even better place (yes, there ARE better places out there than the one you have fallen in love with!), and our new landlord is WONDERFUL! We have PTSD as far as landlords are concerned. I'm not even joking. Our new landlord and his family are so sweet to us, and he is GREAT. They all are. It took us a little while to feel safe and comfortable doing things like talking to him, or reporting repairs, etc. But he is so professional, and so calm and relaxed, that we are finally no longer timid about these sorts of things. What a relief!

Sorry that was so long. But I want you to learn from me. A home is more than just a beautiful layout and pretty molding. A home is also about feeling relaxed, comfortable, and SAFE. We did NOT feel safe with that other landlord situation. EVER. If we heard a noise outside, we worried that it was her. And we began to tip-toe, and turn off lights, so it would appear that we weren't home. Oftentimes, we would hear her ranting and yelling at the other tenants, so we would nervously turn off our lights and try to be very very quiet so that she wouldn't come yell at us, too. That is no way to live. Trust me. You don't want to go there. Part of feeling at home is feeling at peace. And crazy people do not bring you peace. So if I were you, I would heed this warning. And be grateful for having gotten it before it's too late. Good luck.

I'd investigate a little further but still take the woman's conversation with a grain of salt. Everyone has their own bit of crazy and people interpret things in different ways. I'd even just ask the landlord what the deal with the guy is.

If it was an apartment i really loved and wanted, i'd be willing to put up with a couple of crazies and maybe turn the tables and become the new crazy person in the building, that might keep everyone at bay. Develop some subtle OCD habits like leaving the building backwards for ten steps or playing the same song at the same time everyday just loud enough for a few others to hear it. "Tin Soldier" by Coven should do the trick.

I wished someone would have warned us about my first appartment before it was too late! Instead I endured 10 months of total crazyness, and since it is illegal to break a lease here, I was stuck with the appartment until the end of the lease. There was partying, drugs, alcool all the time. People screaming, a dog pooping in front of my door and there was even a stabbing right in my stairs.
I was nice enough to answer questions about why I was leaving to potential new tenants who asked.

I once warned a woman moving into the building I was moving out of that the whole place was in the midst of a serious bedbug infestation. So my advice is to take heed. SherriEakin's idea to talk to the local police seems very smart.

Yep, what everybody else said! Research, research! For years we lived across the hall from a nosy, strange older woman. She was always "informing" potential buyers about people in the building. It turned out she was a bigger problem that almost anyone else---annoying, and had incontinence issues that made her place, the hallway and the elevator smell like a bad nursing home, plus so much filth that we had to call exterminators. My husband recently met a new owner who was shocked at how grumpy/rude/unfriendly many of the other owners are, but they're not dangerous. You can live with a lot of things, but not a threat to your safety.

Yeah... kinda going through this now... Everyone said how the condo townhouse complex I live in was awful, to look at other places, not to move there, etc. I remember friends growing up here, and the odd riffraff, but nothing awful. WELL... I've been here 17 months, moving in two weeks. Can't handle it. Lady next door and her psycho husband beat each other up in the parking lot, she screams he sold her pills allll the time, she calls the cops whenever she sees a guy she doesn't recognize come over, she kept a log of who came and went from my house and if they stayed overnight, who took my kids (my brother often does, as does their dad)... THEN after I called 911 when her husband was choking her in the parking lot, she called the cops on me and said she thought I was making PORN (?!) and was worried about my kids and the frequency of my visitors. Whaaaa?! THEN they got a dog who is psychotic, attacks my dogs, barks NON FREAKING STOP.... the other neighbor on my other side lets her dog poop ON MY DOORMAT all the time.... so I bag it and put it in her mailbox. The neighbor across the hall from us screams obscenities at my visitors if they park NEAR the line dividing parking spots, a kid got stabbed a few months ago, my 9 yr old son got shot in the neck with a pellet gun while outside playing, and 5 guys ages 18-22 moved into a unit about 5 doors down, and party EVERY. NIGHT. I should have listened to everyone who said not to move in here, but it looked so pretty, unit was great, cute little yard, rent was right, and I was moving after a divorce and from out of town. I should have listened... :'(

Absolutely call the precinct. Talk to the desk seargeant. Boy did I learn this the hard way. Great studio, good size, perfect price--got mugged in the elevator, got robbed, had to evacuate several times due to the crack kitchen on the 4th floor catching fire, made homeless by the schizo downstairs who actually tried to kill me and committed arson. Ah, the Lower East Side in the early 90s! Yeah, that's a lot of drama, and if I accosted someone on the street and told them that they'd think I was a nut. But the precinct will answer crime stat questions and give you the lowdown pretty straight.

That is a terrible reason to be forced out of your dream apartment. I agree with others - talk to the police, the landlord, and especially other people in the complex or neighborhood. Then document stuff for evidence later on if you need it. If it were me, I'd take the place and then not tolerate any crap from this alleged jerk. If the local police fail you, contact the mayor or the attorney general.

Never let someone else's discomfort override your own instincts because what you'll give off is an 'I don't trust you' impression to everyone else and it'll immediately impact your interactions. I've had some crackpot neighbors, and even in one situation all tenants went to landlord-driven mediation over the matter after another tenant and I said we'd move rather than stay under those conditions, what's insane to some is just a mild nuisance or goes unnoticed by others. Police thought I was a crackpot, calling about my neighbor's adult son, until they heard what I heard at 2a and the guy took a swing at them.

Be smart about the situation.
Gauge how You feel about it.
Do your research with the local police and sex offender database (something we should all do before we rent or buy anyway).
Make your own decision based on your own instinctive responses.
Choose safety over 'cute place'.
If you do walk away you can always find another great place - it's not the only one you'll ever find!

@mom2monk I read your whole post- yeek!

To the poster I have one word:

RUN!!!!!

What home body wrote about requesting a 3-month trial clause sounds good. Readers afraid to break their leases should consider that hiring an attorney, even going to court, may minimize the negative consequences to the tenant of lease-breaking. The landlord may drop his complaint when reminded of proof he's done far more criminal things than lease-breaking. The local courts favor the few tenants who resist being illegally victimized because many landlords here routinely break their own contractual and other legal obligations. The landlord may be ordered to pay the tenants' legal expenses. Besides, even being unfairly sued or hurt financially may be the least bad outcome when lease-breaking out of fear for personal safety.

Do your research, put a note on the lease allowing you to get out if there are tenant issues based on this "warning." I would however take it with a grain of salt. People are crazy and everyone has an agenda. Do your due diligence and hopefully it will be a great place to live-maybe even an adventure!

Isn't it funny how often we get warnings from people about others and instead we suspect the informer of ulterior motives? Ime, the person who does the warning is nearly always right.

If the woman wanted your apartment, she would've gotten it. First off, when someone's interested in moving into another unit, they either call the management company or talk to the super to find out about upcoming vacancies. (I worked at a real estate developer and manager for 7 years. People do this all the time.) She would've had plenty of time to get dibs on the unit, since it usually takes at least a week to paint and clean an apartment for a new tenant. So I'd discard that possibility. Some posters have wondered why she hasn't moved if she's so afraid of the guy. This can depend on the lease. I've seen people stuck in some really bad, even dangerous situations because they couldn't break the lease (sometimes the management company can charge up to one full month's rent for leaving a unit before the lease is up).

So, I would trust the woman's warning.

My husband and I just narrowly dodged a bullet; we had made an offer on a condo and then discovered that the downstairs neighbour is an extremely unpleasant person. Our disappointment over ditching the condo is far outweighed by our relief that we won't be living upstairs from her. I wrote a blog post about it, which you can find here:

http://siobhancurious.com/2012/03/12/bad-teacher/

I would take warnings from neighbours seriously, and take steps that commenters above have suggested: other neighbours, police info etc. The stress of a bad neighbour is not something that we can always foresee and avoid; you've been given a gift.

As much as I love my townhouse, when I went to do the home inspection before closing the deal, I met my new neighbour. He rented the top floor of the house next to mine and would share our bedroom wall. He was filthy and he's teeth were black, from what I can only assume was from drug use. I was put off, but not enough to back out of the deal. He has just moved out, but not until I experienced 18 months of constant cigarette smoke stench seeping through the walls and music blaring at 4 am. Since I was buying and in for the long haul, I just dealt with it, but since you are renting don't expose yourself to a potentially bad living situation. Walk away.

I used the following approach when buying an apartment in order to see what other tenants had to say about the problems with the building - it will work in this case as well.
Buy and nicely wrap some cookies from a fancy bakery in the neighborhood and go to the building late enough that you do not interrupt people's dinners. Buzz and say "I am looking to rent/buy in the apt XYZ and I have a couple of questions, it would only take a couple minutes of your time and I have cookies to make up for it." If they hesitate, mention that the cookies are from-that-awesome-bakery-next-door. I found that people are really welcoming and don't mind sharing experiences about the landlord/neighbor/management company to a stranger - it is probably a wish-I-somebody-told-me syndrome. If you succeed, at least you will get an impression of your own by speaking to the said neighbor and you would have started off on a good foot in the building.

The biggest issue aside from safety is peace of mind. If you decide to investigate the accused, the accuser & the accusations ... after it's all said & done, could that unit truly be your home ... your haven? How comfortable would you be living there knowing that one or both of these neighbors (accused vs. accusing neighbor) is either unstable or conniving? Would you want to live there waiting for the other shoe to drop?

What about talking to the landlord directly? If you haven't already moved in you have nothing to lose by bringing this potentially awkward subject up. Perhaps they have some insight on the neighbor who warned you. Or maybe they have more information on the person the neighbor warned you about. It could clear the air.

Do some more research and trust your gut. I agree with what other people have said about checking with the police and other tenants if possible. You'd be surprised how much Googling can turn up-- I found out about a nightmare landlord that way. A lot of times we don't know about problems until it's too late, but you've been giving a warning. However much of a pain it is to find another great apartment, it will be a million times worse to deal with a year of scary, crazy people and/or break the lease and have to move again anyway. Either you have an unstable person in your building or a nosy one next door.

Remember, you haven't signed anything yet, so you still have all the power in the situation. If you do decide to take it, I would insist on a month to month lease or perhaps a waived security deposit so you can walk away easily. If you have a bad feeling in your stomach, RUN. I've learned that the hard way. Good luck!

Our landlady rented the unit next to ours to a guy that then spent the next several months losing his mind. Banging on the walls, smashing things, and shouting gibberish in, I swear to god, a Jamaican accent that he didn't have when we spoke to him in broad daylight, we lived in fear of what crazy thing we'd hear next.

Sooo, after the 4th time the cops were called to wrestle him into submission, strap him to a gurney, and cart him off for '48 hour observation', all right outside our front door, we decided to take advantage of his wide-open door to have a look..

The place was a ruin, everything smashed. He'd punched the bathroom mirror out, bloody broken glass galore. He'd stabbed a huge long steak knife through his laptop screen, right out the back of the case. Best of all, he'd written himself crazy memos on sheets of toilet paper, and stuck them on every surface. It was almost funny at first: a combination of trite rap lyrics, shopping lists, and Ja worship, until we got to the ones where he expressed his revelations that good old Ja wanted him to kill our little dog for our presumed sins.

We were out of there before he could be released again. Needless to say, having lived the adventure, I would never consider any potential nest of crazy as a home.

I strongly agree with the advice about doing your own research for the reasons noted above. Since you and your roomate are female, and especially if you're a racial minority and your potential new neighborhood lacks diversity, it is important to remember that changing demographics can motivate existing residents to give out misinformation in order to steer you out of the area. Although minority steering is illegal under both state and federal statutes, people violate the laws daily,

As noted above, definitely inquire with other people who live inside and in the vicinity of the building regarding this man in question and the woman who gave you the advice. Contact the police department for crime and incidence reports statistics in the building and neighborhood and consult the applicable sex offender registry. Stop by and observe the block at different times of both weekdays and weekends.

Take it very seriously. Bad neighbors can ruin a home, and I agree that at least one of the people in the building (likely the accused, possibly the accuser) is going to be trouble. Last week a guy entered a psychiatric hospital near here and shot a bunch of people before the police stopped him with a fatal bullet. Upon hearing of the shooting on the news, several of the shooter's neighbors said they immediately thought, "omg, I bet that's my neighbor." He had been acting strange and scaring people in the building for awhile, apparently. Not that every bad neighbor is a psych patient off his meds just waiting to go on a deadly rampage, but I would think it takes a lot for a resident to warn a complete stranger that someone is bad news and that they should look somewhere else.

A few years ago, we passed on buying an amazing property because the next door neighbor also wanted the property, appeared to be emotionally manipulating the seller (an elderly man), and generally seemed to be a rough character. Even if we beat him in a bidding war and got the property, what then? We could easily imagine him poisoning our dogs, or finding some other way to make our lives hell. No thanks. I regret not being able to get the property, but we have never doubted that walking away was the right decision.

Not to be redundant but in case you're considering ignoring any of the previous commenters, please take it seriously! There's nothing worse than a neighbor that makes you feel uncomfortable in your own home.

The first time I lived alone I was also living in a foreign country where I knew very few people. One of the pipes burst in my bathroom and my downstairs neighbor was at first glance very helpful and friendly. He was 70+ and had grandkids running in and out of the house so when he invited me down to have tea and gave me the whole "he's got a daughter so he'll look out for me" spiel I didn't think anything of it. The wife was out when I got there and sure enough, this creepy guy grabs at my breasts and tries to kiss me! I fled upstairs but I hated coming in and out because he would try to catch me walking up the stairs. He would come upstairs and hammer on my front door asking me to come and have tea.
Luckily it was only a short-term lease and I moved in with some great roommates a month later, but it was truly horrid in the meantime, especially as I was in my early twenties and didn't really know how to confront the problem.

Check it out and if it seems like there's anything to it find another place. I've also been in the bad situation of living next to neighbors I was afraid of, to the point where after the landlord & cops failed to help us we stopped going home. They had lovely habits like breaking in to prove they could & proudly admitting to eavesdropping on us thru the walls. After we called the cops over & they totally failed to help 1 of the guys spent half the night standing in front of our place so that we were too scared to even leave the apt until a friend came & escorted us (point of calling the cops - thanks for nothing!). I was in a semi isolated place without a car which seems worse to me but my brother & sister-in-law had to leave a bklyn apt right before having their baby & lose a bunch of money when their crazy neighbor decided they - especiallly my pregnant SIL - should be the target of his threats & outbursts. They stayed in a small room in my parents house for a few weeks just before/after having baby to avoid being near that with a newborn. Even the perfect apartment is not worth the risk of something happening or having to leave after signing lease and finding out exactly the limits of someone else's issues...

I live in a nice stable community of beautiful duplexes. Most people move in and stay awhile. The building across the street has turned three times in the last year. Plus they have a crazy "no government acknowleged" sign on their front lawn, which they've installed to look like a regular street sign. On several occasions, I've mentioned this to people checking out the rental sign. I merely ask them to inquire WHY this unti turns over so frequently. The sign speaks for itself.

Don't move in. If he's not a crazy unlikable, then that means she is. Either way you lose.

Or, you could think of it as a case of the devil you know vs the devil you don't - show me a plex that doesn't have at least one nut living in it, and I submit that in that case YOU must be the nut because there's always at least one. It's a law of nature.

I would definitely heed the warning. Trust me - a gorgeous dream apartment where you will be miserable & possibly in danger is a living hell & will feel like a nightmare & not the dream place you are envisioning now.

I had this situation but with a future roommate instead of future a neighbor. I was warned by my future roommate's former best friend/roommate to be careful & think twice before moving in with this girl. Since the two had a falling out, I brushed off the warning thinking this girl had other motives. Her words stuck with me, but I kept brushing it off. Besides, my-future-roommate to be, another friend of mine, & I had found a fantastic 3-bedroom apartment in a historic building that was just a dream. After searching for places for over a month, this place was a beauty & affordable with the 3 of us living together.

Not listening to the warning was one of the biggest mistakes I've ever made. The first month or so was fine, but things rapidly started to deteriorate. (See the above comment from @MOM2THEMONK - sounds like I lived with her landlady's daughter). I lived in a gorgeous hell for 11 months. This was more than just an inconsiderate roommate - I didn't feel safe in my dwelling, & I would drive around the city after work just to avoid going home. I slept with my bedroom door locked, would turn out the lights to my room when I heard this girl coming home so she would think I wasn't there, & I would go into work at early hours to avoid dealing with her. I was a constant moving target for 11 months.

I talked to my building about us breaking our lease, but each person had to pay rent in full for the last month that we were going to live there plus a penalty fee that equaled to a month's rent. I could not afford to pay what was amounting to two months worth of rent plus the cost of relocating (movers, application fee, security deposit, & rent at a new building).

So definitely investigate any warnings before you commit. If someone in your future building is saying that a tenant is crazy (whether it's the person this woman is talking about or the woman herself), I would take it seriously, & run as fast as you can.

I was a landlord-tenant lawyer for 25 years. Listen to the neighbor. Either she is a wacko, or the guy she is talking about is a wacko. Either way: not a place you want to live. People have a hard time overcoming their natural reluctance to talk to strangers, and to tell them things that could get them sued. Or, they are nutcases who will bend the ear of even strangers to get attention. Walk away from this one and don't look back. And thank your lucky stars.

I would reconsider living there no matter whether she is lying or telling the truth. If she's telling the truth, then you have this crazy guy to deal with. If she's lying to keep you from getting the apartment, then living next to her is only going to get worse. Seriously, find another place.

There's a perfectly easy way to get to the bottom of this. Invite them both over for tea and simply explain, "Sir, this lady here says you're a psycho. Is that true?" This will end up being one of those stories everybody looks back and laughs about.

I agree with pretty much every poster here -- check things out. It can't hurt to do a little bit of digging to try to find out more information, and what you find will probably make the decision for you -- either giving you piece of mind or giving you a reason to move on.

As a renter, the only time I ever made a point to provide feedback to potential incoming tenants was when there was something that I felt needed to be addressed. In my case, it was the quality of the landlords -- I have several pretty interesting stories, but the worst is probably when we were without water for 5 whole days after the water heater in the basement broke and the landlord tried to fix it on his own.

I'd say, if a tenant or someone who lives in the neighborhood is making a point to provide you with feedback, particularly a reason to be concerned, you should make a point to take them seriously.

Take it seriously and do further research. Some people overreact, but probably more people minimize or don't recognize the potential for danger. It is possible that this person appears normal to people who aren't his target. Therefore, I'd contact the police, rather than other residents, for more information. I live next to a man who pays way too much attention to me. Needless to say, I can't wait until my lease ends. No apartment is worth compromising your peace of mind and safety.

After reading these comments I realize I was a relatively fortunate tenant. There were upsetting, expensive burglaries, including some by a delusional maintenance man, frauds by greedy landlords, and verbal abuse and lies by criminal neighbors, but zero violence. Although no neighborhood is ideal, I agree Sahra probably can find a better place to live than the one she described. I hope she gets from this thread that, at home, cute architecture is nothing compared to safety and peace of mind.

God yes take it seriously. Been there, done that. Your neighbours are what make or break your home environment. No dream house is worth the aggravation, stress or loss of money of having a psychotic neighbour.

The woman did you a huge favour, and I tend to think that if someone goes out of their way like that, there is probably a very good reason. There are other nice places out there and one of them is drama-free and perfect for you.

Personally, I wouldn't bother investigating further. But I would tell the landlord why you're not taking the place (without giving any details that could identify the neighbour who gave you the warning). Just say you've become aware that there is a possibly dangerous tenant in the building.

By the way we have criminals in our neighborhood, dozens of break in, sociopathic neighbors, etc, but we are simply smart about what we do every day. That's not to say you should blow this off - do everything people suggested (I love the idea of a 3 month lease and getting a lawyer involved) however if this is your dream place, don't let a rumor or even one single jerk on this planet prevent you from considering it. What if you move somewhere else and there's crazies there too?

Woud love to hear an update from the person asking, by the way. This has been intriguing and heartbreaking at the same time.

Actually, a flood light aimed in the direction of your bedroom window would be a true annoyance!! I actually think that is inconsiderate on the part of the flood light owner...

Well maybe the person who warned you was crazy..too
Well maybe the guy is crazy.
That is 2 crazies! Then again they could be nice, but odds on one is crazy. That said do you want to live beside either crazy lady or crazy man?

I had to sell my house cause of neighbours from hell, sure my house was nice and cute and all that stuff, but the sickening thing was I too was warned, but did I listen.. No.. I new best, surely they cant be that bad?? Well the devil lived next door along with his evil wife. I tried to be nice, but I just gave up in the end.

And speaking of neighbors... My lease is coming to an end in an apartment I am renting in the Silicon Valley. The people living in the space below me have made so much noise I would not wish them on anyone. Complaints help for 1-2 days. Think TV at the level of an airplane taking off, pounding disco music and shouting conversations.... 24 hours a day. It has been a long 6 months!!! The aforementioned neighbor may not be able to move due to a lease or mortgage. In most states if you break a lease you can be sued, have to pay the remainder and legal fees. Run like hell!!!!

I agree with the first comment posted by Sherrieakin - simply go to the local police station. My husband and I do this every time we move into a new neighborhood. It's simple, effective and you can find out the issue(s). It might be that someone in the building is mentally disturbed but not dangerous - they may defecate in the halls - not nice but the building and the other neighbors might be lovely. You might choose to live with the issue if he's not on your floor or it doesn't happen often. Or you might find out that the police raid the building on a regular basis for dangerous drugs.

The local station will tell you the truth about the area, what streets to avoid, where to shop, the safest places, etc. Once you like an apartment, house, loft, etc, before you sign the lease, mortgage, or sublet go to the police and ask about it. If it's good, sign.

Herself The Elf: First of all, I love your name. If you were to follow my "Nostalgia" board on Pinterest, you would find my love for Herself The Elf. Too cute! And second of all, BLESS YOU for reading all of that. I can't believe I made the post so long. *sigh* It's just something I'm rather passionate about. lol But anyway, THANK YOU!

Crazies= get the f out of there, don't look back, keep running.... dinn dinn dinnnn

Hi,
I agree with several comments to heed the warning as well as do some research. Here are some sites to help build a neighborhood crime profile:
-Check the county police site and city police site and see if they post crime stats.

-Run a search in the local newspaper for crime news. Make sure to search the past year, if possible.

-The FBI has uniform crime reporter that in older years (2010) can be broken down by state and city code: http://www.fbi.gov/about-us/cjis/ucr/ucr Follow the 1 year data form and select the state and then population, then you will see a list of counties.

-Criminal searches, for a fee, will search by name: http://www.criminalsearches.com/

There are many resources out there to search criminal stats, try doing an advanced google search for crime statistics and the name of your city/state and limit the domain to .edu. Chances are you will find a university class research guide/library research guide for locating local crime stats.

Good luck!

Talk to at least one other neighbor for corroboration. Unless the place is an out right crack house, don't let one crazy neighbor deter you.

Just let him know from the get go you will not be messed with. The landlord has a obligation to evict troublesome tenants.

Good luck.

@erinmotley, you are hilarious. "One Tin Soldier," indeed. Hah!

I hope you didn't take this apt! Now that all is said and done today..Don't set yourself up for any this...the neighbor is most likely a normal woman who spoke up, seeing you outside..and took the chance..as I would do in that type of situation. Meanwhile, I'll have nightmare as I will be looking for another apt. after getting out of this nightmare. True, hard to do anything about nightmare neighbors who move above you AFTER you are in and were pretty happy and peaceful. Thank you all for posting your stories and advice, I'll be much more alert and wiser thank you. Remember as well, the expense of moving in and out of places, so don't make this mistake with this seemingly adorable apartment..

I would take it seriously - been there, done that and still I am traumatized by the experience. I ended up being stalked by a crazy neighbour and he caused havoc for many of us who lived in the building. There isn't any protection for the victims in these cases and we had to sell up and move, even though this guy was a renter. So many young women in the complex also ended up selling. The poor woman who bought the place next to his lasted about a month!

This thread's use of "crazies" is inaccurate and unkind. A mentally ill neighbor might seem scary, but likely is so overwhelmed by his symptoms that any potential hurting of another person is a non-issue. Most people who do violence to other people would not be considered mentally ill by legal and psychiatric standards. Mental illness and evil are completely different things. You probably have had an evil neighbor who was so sharp he not only stayed out of prison but appeared charming, even successful, despite enjoying hurting people criminally. They are the dangerous ones, not the "crazies."

The concrete actions you can take should be what make or break your decision. Someone's prejudice or anger at their landlord can fuel their comments, but checking with the police and on the sex offender registry will give you a solid answer, plus it's honestly something you ought to do for anywhere you're considering to live.

If the woman is right, you have a guy who may harass or endanger you.
If the woman is wrong, you have a woman that may misinterpret your actions or complain or harass you, your friends or others in the building.

It seems like a lose-lose situation.

In my opinion, Soozie has the best advice on this thread.

Quite simply put, one of the people (the man or the woman who told you) is going to be hell to live near.

There's good advice here and I would take it seriously and do more research. Yes it is true that evil people (criminals) who hurt people and commit violence is not the same as people who suffer from mental illness. Dealing with mentally ill people can be very difficult and it can make your life stressful. My neighbor has issues (probably Bi-Polar) and we had situations with her which are too long to detail here. I avoid her. Likewise, another mentally ill woman moved in as well and she has often thrown heavy metal chairs around in the front yard as well as screams during the night. Her mother purchased the home for her after we had been living here. There isn't anything that you can do. There are even sex offenders who live close by, which I was also unaware of prior to purchasing our home. I also do not live in a poor area of town, so the point is that you can move anywhere and still encounter difficult neighbors and people with issues in almost any neighborhood, including the more upscale locations. So it does pay to conduct some research, which is easier to do now too.

As a former apartment manager, I have one thing to say:

ALWAYS ask the manager or landlord WHY the apartment is vacant. (Put a positive spin on it - "This is such a nice space - why did the last tenant move out?")

If they won't tell you: ask the neighbors, check your state's sex offender registry, check the local police blotter, and proceed with caution.

I always ask. Current home is owned by a couple working in another state for the next few years (they plan to retire here). Last home was vacated when the grad student living there got her degree and moved back to her home country. First apartment I didn't manage was vacated when the couple living there broke up. All normal occurrences - no crime, noise, or structural issues.

I would definitely do more research... AND DO NOT BELIEVE THE PROPERTY MANAGER!!!! They will usually just try to sell the apartment whether it is good or bad or your neighbors are good or bad. So I completely agree with everyone else... do some more research!

Independent research regarding the area's crime states and neighborhood flavor is your best bet. Does it feel safe to you at various times of the day. For example, I lived in a complex where things happened during the day when most residents were at work. (I worked from home)

There were huge, troubling incidents - mentally unstable neighbor and her son, who were both on the Sex Offender registry (something I didn't discover until I found out their names and googled them) - stole mail and packages (landlord refused to put in locked mailboxes), and most troubling to me was when the son climbed through my window because he "forgot" where he lived and pleasured himself on my bed. The neighbor and her son were also accused of identity theft by several other tenets.

also, the landlord and property manager all spoke glowingly about the building (which also had some structural problems in addition to the problematic neighbors).

Choose your neighbors very carefully.

darn smartphone. * tenants.

Well, she called the cops and the guy is still living there. I would talk with the lady and the landlord before contacting the cops. What happened, what did the guy do? What does she mean by dangerous? When? How? how often? Where? Does she have the same landlord? Did she complain to the landlord and if so, what happened? Did she plan to move anyway?

Take it very seriously. I lived in a great walkup apartment in NYC and there was an apartment I had to pass every day. The Crazy lady downstairs came out of her apartment one day and started screaming at me that I stole her daughter. Then proceeded to throw glass bottles at me. The police/EMT took her out in a straight jacket an hour later. Later than night my roommate told me that he'd dealt with her in the past - I wish I'd have known I was moving in a virtual psych ward!

To the person (somewhat judgmentally in tone) asking why this is on a design blog:
AT isn't just a blog about design. It's a blog about living well. Making your apartment or house your home.

A home isn't made up of merely pretty curtains, or finding the perfect throw pillow. The recipe for a happy home has many valuable ingredients. And researching which apartment to move into, and why (or why not), is truly one of the very first steps.

This is one of the things I absolutely LOVE about this blog. I learn how to nurture myself and the rest of my family, by nurturing our home... in so many ways. Sometimes, yes... it does involve decorating. But other times it involves things like making a delicious meal that makes every room smell heavenly. Or learning about what kinds of natural cleaners work the best. Or reading an article about how important it is to get to know your neighbors, and to develop a strong sense of community. This blog is about how to develop a happy and healthy lifestyle in your home and within your neighborhood. That's the beauty of Apartment Therapy. It goes so far beyond home decorating. I thought everybody here really understood that. I guess you missed the memo. ;)

I've also griped about AT posting odd topics however I do *not* object to the question but rather it is vital we emphasize when experts should be involved i.e. if someone asks a medical question it is lovely when the community rallies around someone but it's a fine line between kind suggestions vs the reality that the person needs to ALSO see their doctor. Same situation here. I will repeat, I hate to see these folks lose a nice apt when anywhere you move there may be very bad people and I sure hope they get the issue resolved and I'd love to hear a follow up. Best wishes to everyone. No one should be intimidated out of their dream home by some jerk.

Just don't do it. From personal experience, if this neighbor is lying to drive you away for her own motives, you lives will be hell. If she's telling the truth, you could be in danger.

*your lives

Yes. Take it seriously. One of the first things you're told when you're looking around to buy a house (which also applies when you're renting) is to talk to your neighbors. They can tell you who are the nosy ones, the crazy ones, the noisy ones, what the feel of the neighborhood is, etc. People are surprisingly forthcoming!

If you don't want to go purely on the advice of this one woman, then talk to the other neighbors. If her story is corroborated, then I would definitely stay away.

Mom2themonk: YES!! You said it all perfectly, I feel and enjoy our site exactly the same way....thank you!

I second Miami Elaine's comment. It seems to me that what many people are calling "crazy" or "insane" is really just bad behaviour. An extreme minority of psychiatric patients or those with mental illness ever pose a threat to the safety of others. Furthermore, many people who behave in dangerous, intimidating or unacceptable ways do not have mental health disorders and should not be assumed to have one.
The issue of whether to move in following such a warning warrants careful consideration and I wish you luck with your decision. However, I think it more helpful to consider the problem in terms of the behaviour of others rather than assigning arbitrary labels like "crazy".

Yes, thanks, being a jerk, bully, and abusive isn't a mental illness. This may veer into sociology, but you probably can easily confirm online that research shows mentally ill people are less likely to be violent than "normal" (for lack of a better word) people. Also, mentally ill people are far more likely to be violently victimized than are "normal" people, not coincidentally *by* "normal" people. Demonizing an already heavily burdened minority may make people feel safer, but that's false reassurance. It's uncomfortable to know that, statistically, neighbors are less dangerous to you than the people with whom you share intimate relationships and your home.

If your state has online access to court records, I would check there. For example, Wisconsin offers online access to court records through CCAP. Everything from traffic tickets to felonies are on there. That's at least a start though it is by no means comprehensive.

Ok, did you move in to the apartment or not?

Oh and for all the "PC" people get a life, let your hair down and stop being so uptight all the time. Life is short, enjoy it and stop worrying so much. Furthermore I would rather not have the "thought" police tell me how or what I should think. As for my comment re "crazies" I still stand over it. Some people are just that "crazy". Its not an insult on people with mental illness. We are all a little crazy at times, well all I can finish with is " political correctness gone mad"

Substitute every "Crazy/Crazies" in this thread with "Mick." Read the thread. Does writing fairly still seem too uptight to you?

Sahra, What did you end up doing?

Hey guys! Sorry for the slow response, I've been out of town.

Anywho, thank you all so much for your advice! It was super helpful. We ultimately decided not to take the apartment. I forgot to mention in my question that the neighbor said he would sometimes lay in the little car park area in the back for hours and for no apparent reason. My roommate and I are both girls in our early twenties with very different schedules, and we just don't feel safe coming home alone or late at night with a creepy man lurking around. Even if the neighbor is exaggerating, we both feel that we would spend all year worrying about our safety now that it's out there. So, our search continues!

Thank you all so much!

@ Keeks..."Meanwhile, I'll have nightmare as I will be looking for another apt. after getting out of this nightmare. True, hard to do anything about nightmare neighbors who move above you AFTER you are in and were pretty happy and peaceful."

We are in exactly the same boat. :-(

Listen! if you even have to ask you know what the answer is. I live in a well below market price apartment (in a 4plx) in Silverlake. Thought I had the deal of the century. Vintage apartment, washer dryer in unit, hardwood floors, office, and a garaged parking spot!!! Well I wish I listened to the voice that said this is too good to be true. Because now I have former crackheads that live in the half way house next door wake me up every morning, screaming all kinds of vulgarities and racial slurs. The likes I have never heard before. And a "handy man" who lives down stairs who has 6 unneutered cats that spray everywhere and yowl all night long. Watching cats hump as you leave for work in the morning is so not awesome. And then between the cats and the crackhead, our handyman also started digging a hole clearly to china in the backyard for god knows what reason, while he alternately curses out either the land lady or the cats while digging. And yes I know all the cats names because he calls them in every night from outside my bedroom window. And I won't even start on all the crap that's wrong with the building. My lease is up in one month. and it can't come soon enough!

I have a total psychopath neighbor who has called the police on 10 of my neighbors, probably over 25 times in the past 10 years. Let's just say the police know her, and don't take anything she says seriously, she's a total nuisance. She befriends everyone at first, tries to lure people's kids in her house etc, and then when they decline, she goes on a war path (even started her own neighborhood Facebook page, because all of us basically hate her at this point). She has stalked people and followed us in our backyards at 3am, so you get the jist, a major headcase.

Take what people say with a grain of salt, try to find out on your own if you can, and be careful who you befriend right away. Anyone way overeager to greet you may not up to much good.

@BDOSGAL does your landlord have any control over the 'people' that moved in above? He def. does..but needs to be shown that he has to enforce your tenant rights. After much back and forth /letting him know I'm emailing my complaints, for 'documentation'..it would become 'normal/peaceful' for a little while..a year of this...lastly i wrote him that I am breaking the lease due to 'breach of contract', as he had 'no disturbing other tenant's etc..' in the lease. I made sure he knew that I knew the laws in my state regarding 'housing court' and the term, 'quiet enjoyment', and that I will not hesitate to bring this to a legal head, if need be. Which meant putting my rent into escrow before a housing court date. I realllllllllllly did NOT wan to BOTHER with all this..the risk, but talking to that couple of course, had NOT stopped their horrific and deafening jumping and pounding hours on end every night. I couldn't afford to move myself if I kept paying him the rent at that time, till my lease was up, letting him know that as well.......so..MONEY did it and detailed emails, (for documentation purposes), finally made him 'step on them' period.........after all this time...I leave by JUNE 1!! I hope any of this can be helpful to you if also unable to financially move at this time..yes..it is DISHEARTENING after making a place your home and all it involves, to have it ruined by the likes of someone without the same lifestyle or maturity/professionalism and plain courtesy.

If you are even considering living next to or across the street from a crazy/creepy/nagging/unstable/volatile neighbor, you should watch "Shut Up, Little Man!"

It's a documentary about this just issue (crazies next door), but the tenants turned the experience into a pre-internet viral phenomenon!

Everyone has a story about the creepy neighbor(S), and sometimes they can be funny later, but think about what you want the next year(s) of your life to be like....

I'd ask other neighbors. You might end up having to worry about the whistle blowers more than anybody else. When I moved into my current place the lady across the street warned me that my new neighbors were really weird. very adamantly and frequently. They turned out to be the nicest and most helpful neighbors I've ever had. By "weird" she ended up meaning "Asian." I'm Asian. Something she didn't realize at the time. Good to know I have a racist living across the street.

In my experiences, more often than not, by "dangerous" people just mean that they disapprove of how the person dresses, or that they disagree with their choice in hairstyle or tattoos, or that they listen to music that they don't think they should be listening to. These are the people you need to look out for. Since they'll most likely make an official complaint with the city if you don't take down your christmas lights soon enough or cut your grass short enough.

I'd take her seriously but with a grain of salt. Ask around in the building and do a little Googling. Try to meet the guy yourself and use your own instincts.

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I would be thankful that someone actually tipped me off... Most people wouldn't do that fir a stranger for many very good reasons...I would look elsewhere. I had a neighbor once write a letter about his issues with my barking dogs... Be went on about his problems and etc and apparently blamed me for his issues... Not a good sign either! I don't allow my digs to bark over the 15 min limit. I called the police and told them how he was over reacting and the letter. The police told me to stay away from him and said that I was within my legal rights... He then threw a Rock into my basement window which almost hit my child in the head! I had no proof but the police are watching him. He looks upstanding and has expensive cars and his own business... He is very arrogant and has been arrested on DUI and speeding...he is a mental case.
I have been trained to look for red flags in people and one thing I have learned is where there is smoke... There is fire!