Stuffed elephant, stuffed giraffe, stuffed rabbit, stuffed wombat, stuffed parrot, giant stuffed dog you couldn't help but buy. Every parent faces it: somewhere in the corner of your child's room there is an ever-growing gang of stuffed stuff. It's like an episode of Survivor where instead of anyone leaving, more people arrive. How do you work out who to vote off the island?
It's "outboxing" time at Apartment Therapy: as part of the January Cure we are encouraged to make a box of items that at least might go out of the house (and probably will). Take the opportunity to finally tame the collection of those seemingly-untameable plush toys. Use these 5 criteria to decide what stays, and what goes in the outbox (and possibly out the door):
1. Anything that never gets played with. Obvious outbox fodder.
2. Anything with no/little sentimental value. It might be hard to part with a stuffed animal given to your son or daughter from your favorite aunt, but any that you can't remember where they came from can be put in the outbox guilt-free.
3. Anything that was yours as a child but is unappreciated by your child. I have a few of these - toys that I was eager to pass on to my daughter when she was born but are too lumpy and old to grab her attention at only 12 months old. These won't go to the outbox, but could be put away for when she's older.
4. Where there are many of one type, try to keep just one. My son loves dogs, and his habit of attracting stray plush puppies is something that would put even the most active dog shelter in the world to shame. We have managed to get it down to one big "daddy" dog, one small "lil kid" dog, and one tiny "baby" puppy, which still leaves plenty of room for imaginative play.
5. Where there are many from one person, try to keep just one. It might seem hard to do, but that one special toy from that special person will seem so much more special when apart from the five others. If getting it down to one is too hard, try just the latest toy from that person, as well as one all-time favorite.
Personally, I do this job alone. The good thing about the outbox is that it serves as a midway point: leave the toys out of sight for a week and see what happens. Mr. Lobbo can always be rescued if there's a surprise "where's my stuffed lobster?" meltdown at bedtime.
So, who is going to be voted into the outbox this week? And who gets to stay?
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Gah! My son's underbed loft area looks exactly like the one from the email picture -- filled with stuffed animals he used to love, but now largely ignores. (They used to live inside his play tent, which made them fun for him to roll around on...but we moved the tent on and now they overflow from a toy box.) I'm having a hard time getting rid of them for a few reasons: 1, they remind me of when he was younger and I'm surprisingly sentimental about that, and 2, there's no real way to pass them on, as no one wants used stuffed animals. I feel bad just throwing them out. Any ideas on what to do with them?? If I knew they were going to a better home, it would be easier, I think.
Keep looking for a charity that will take stuffed animals. In New York City there are several. Also ask anyone you know who works with children or has grandchildren or sends things in good condition to folks overseas, you may find appreciative new homes for those zebras yet!
which NYC charities take good condition stuffed animals! i've got bags!!
Giving them to goodwill or the Salvation Army would be wonderful! My daughter's favorite stuffed animal, Piglet, came from there and the kids will love them I'm sure!
Where are you roseisred? I live north of Boston in the family dorms on a campus, we collect toys and clothes for families traveling here to study from Asia, Africa etc. Lots of the kids come here with nothing. They would love your toys!
I have given a couple bags of animals to this organization: http://thesarf.org/
The woman that runs my local chapter will clean and mend the animals where needed as well.
I found it much easier to part with things when I knew they were going to a child who would want them.
Actually, the link I meant to provide was this one: http://www.stuffedanimalsforemergencies.org/
But the above one looks great too!
I just bought that container in the email photo---it's from the container store, meant to store balls in a garage, though Land of nod also sells it for twice the price, of course, in colors---and it works great. The rule here is pretty much you have a container with a designated purpose and you don't go beyond the container.
Also, for NYC folks, you can donate the animals to the fabric recycling at most greenmarkets---it will be repurposed into insulation, etc. http://www.grownyc.org/clothing
After a few trials we found our tear free method of gleaning the stuffed animals. We put out four baskets: absolutely keeping because we love love them, keeping for now, giving to a child we know, and donating. The giving to a child we know basket helped the kids transition away from a few that they would normally have a hard time parting with. I have to admit, I snuck one out of the donate bin.
I'm ruthless about clutter but for some reason I just can't throw out stuffed animals. For some reason, it just makes me feel sad and guilty. My girls are into dolls and not stuffed animals, so there they sit in an old bassinet in the girls' nursery . . .
On a totally unrelated note, the kid in the picture is adorable! What a cute little face!
The outbox concept is helpful here for sure. It can be tough to get rid of these but I find the kids don't even notice something is missing. And some of the ones that were sentimental to me (baby gifts etc) meant little to my kids. So if I don't want it on MY bedroom shelf....
I actually store them with a Ikea Benno CD tower
http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/07305310/
The small cube for a CD is pretty good to fit a small-to-mid-size stuffed animal. Like others, they remind me of my son when he was little. So I'd rather keep them instead of donating, if at all possible.
I actually store them with a Ikea Benno CD tower
http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/07305310/
The small cube for a CD is pretty good to fit a small-to-mid-size stuffed animal. Like others, they remind me of my son when he was little. So I'd rather keep them instead of donating, if at all possible.
I do not get rid of any stuffed animal my children have named, but anything without a name is fair game. Usually I put them in a trash bag and hide them in a closet for a few weeks. Occasionally my kids have found these bags and hauled all the animals back out (of course, those are instantly the FAVORITE animals!). The system is not foolproof though. My kids have actually gone to the thrift store up the street and bought their animals back ("Look! I used to have an animal just like this!") I've had to pretend to be surprised and keep quiet.
Surprised no one mentioned this concept yet: http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lrvs3ww0EI1qiu9iz.jpg for repurposing stuffed animals. Someday I am totally going to do this....
I have this problem and can't seem to solve it --- I just remember the journey into the garbage fire from Toy Story 3 --- or I think of those heartbroken stuffies so lonesome on the shelves of the goodwill --- and they stay. Yes, I have problems. Yes, I'm working on them.
My mom is always bringing things from the Goodwill, and I try to filter them right away, though somehow we have few too many stuffed animals, especially since our son doesn't really play with them. Will aim to get rid of 3 this evening!
I'm an adult (sort of), with no kids, and I can't seem to thin out my stuffed animal collection! My husband shares this proclivity. In fact, he even picks up "stray" stuffies from gutters and sidewalks that have been dropped. We're disturbed.
We just went through our 42 stuffed toys a few days ago... This was the first time I did it with the kids. I gave them a limit - they could keep six of them each. Easy for my eldest who is a minimalist : he chose his favorite one, and said we could give all the others away. Difficult for my second son who is a bit of a hoarder. So he picked his 6 favorite ones but couldn't bring himself to donate the other ones. It took us three runs to thin down the rest. So we're left with...drumrolls.... 17 stuffed animals between 3 kids. Hurray!
I just officially moved out of my parents house (I've been at college for the last 5 years, so I still had stuff stored there) and that's pretty much how I thinned out my huge herd of stuffed animals. If it had a name that I still remembered, it stayed. That allowed a stuffed animal collection that spanned 3 large plastic totes to a total of 6 stuffed animals.
Ahem. I need to do this for MY OWN stuffed animal collection. :)
I have a difficult time with this. Anyone remember The Velveteen Rabbit?
When I was young and living in DC, my sister and I counted all of our dolls and stuffed animals and we had over 70 of those things.
They magically disappeared when we moved to Virginia.
Don't do this WITH your child. Unless your child is totally okay with getting rid of half their toy collection. I've been around parent's "going through" toys with their child and guess what? Not much goes in the out box. Chances are, if there are enough toys that you have to rid your home of a fair amount, your kid won't even notice a few things are missing.
Would a toy bank want any of them?
When you are talking about my brother who is a level-2 hoarder, everything has sentimental value. I don't think he has ever thrown out anything in his life other than packaging.
I feel that teaching children to throw out things is an essential skill for them to be happy as adults. My brother is my parents' favorite, so they never wanted to break his heart. They only throw his stuff out in secret. When he found out, he overcompensate by hoarding some more. It would be wise to talk it over with children when it comes to throwing things out.
Every once in a while we go through and clear up the stuffed animals. The ones that we got from carnivals, fairs, etc. and unplayed with goes to our city police station.
The ones that the kids bought with their own money gets handed down to cousins or donated as well if they approve of it.
My problem is more about the other knick knacks that they collects over the years. How do you get rid of arts & crafts projects that start to pile up?
Thanks so much for that link! I have sooooo many stuffed animals that need to be loved. My mother in law does not understand the phrase "please do not buy stuffed animals anymore, they have more than they could ever play with"
she buys and buys stuffed animals like they are crack. they get played with for MAYBE a few hours before they get lost in the pile of fluff
I never had that many stuffed animals to begin with in childhood -- I think my parents were just very good at instructing relatives to not load us down with them! Therefore the 6-10 that we did collect were all precious and were played with...a lot. I still have one (a beaten down teddy bear that's missing the stuffing in his nose and is missing strips of fur because I gave him a haircut, mistakenly thinking he'd grow it back) and he's never ever going in the donate pile. I'm not even sure he'll be passed on to my son, as I'm not sure the teddy will survive.
But for winnowing your kid's collection, I think it's very important to do it together, so the child learns how to organize and prioritize his life and belongings. But instead of sallying in wholesale and throwing stuff in bins (which can be traumatic), a discussion about it is key. Also, you can couch it in philanthropic terms -- you can emphasize how he can give his stuffed animals to more needy children, etc.I believe there are charities around who collect gently used animals to give to kids who've lost everything in fires and things like that. The local fire and police stations may even collect these too.
Throw them all in the washer/dryer (including those who say "spot clean only'). Explain the concept of "survival of the fittest" to your kid. Toss the ones that have proved unfit to procreate.
just_kazari - do you think part of why they were so precious is because you had so few?
I find that with less toys my kids appreciate each individual toy they have so much more. When there is just a mass of stuffed animals, rather than getting individual attention they just become another thing for dumping out in a huge pile.
I recently donated 8 stuffies from my collection to a good home. I'm trying to whittle my husband's colection down, though. He has a bunch from when he was a kid, but they are worn and won't stand up to loving from a new kid, so he only needs to keep a few sentimental ones.
When I left for college, I had....drumroll....247 stuffed animals that I had collected in my childhood. I am growing up to be a veterinarian, did anyone see that coming, well yeah probably. While I kept them all in 2 corner nets in my room, my parents were handing over my large bedroom to my younger brother when I officially moved into the dorm. I had to move all of my belongings that were staying home into the small bedroom and that meant packing up most of my "zoo". I set aside my favorite 6 to take to school with me, set my goal at no more than 100 and set about deciding which ones to keep. While I gave some to younger cousins because I just couldn't bear the thought of them with "strangers", the rest I donated to the local Shriner's hospital and Sheriff's departments to give to kids undergoing treatments or involved in traumatic situations.
When I left for college, I had....drumroll....247 stuffed animals that I had collected in my childhood. I am growing up to be a veterinarian, did anyone see that coming, well yeah probably. While I kept them all in 2 corner nets in my room, my parents were handing over my large bedroom to my younger brother when I officially moved into the dorm. I had to move all of my belongings that were staying home into the small bedroom and that meant packing up most of my "zoo". I set aside my favorite 6 to take to school with me, set my goal at no more than 100 and set about deciding which ones to keep. While I gave some to younger cousins because I just couldn't bear the thought of them with "strangers", the rest I donated to the local Shriner's hospital and Sheriff's departments to give to kids undergoing treatments or involved in traumatic situations.
That baby is the cutest kid ever!!! :)
omg, I love this!
I only clicked on this because of the baby's face! Absolutely adorable!!!
My kid has wayyyyy too many stuffed animals from friends and family and I feel so bad getting rid of stuff but I'm dying to!
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Ack on sneaking toys out of the house! Don't assume that kids don't miss things just because they don't say something or have a meltdown. I Hated this growing up and felt hurt about it many times. Involve the child so there's no sad surprise! I think that even a pretty young child can understand the idea that their toys have to fit a certain amount of space, and once they have too many, the right thing is to donate and share.
Hi,
as a kid I had asthma and allergies so I had to give up most of my stuffed animals. I was allowed to have three stuffed animals, which were washed every week at 60 Celsius (140 Fahrenheit) so not so fluffy anymore.
Anyway I can remember this, and it was not fun (especially because my sister had no allergies and could keep them all). So my best tips are:
- if you thin out the amount, do this at the youngest age possible
- let every child keep the same amount of stuffed animals
- if they are able to, let them choose themselves.
good luck!
Sietske
After reading this article, and skimming quickly through the many comments. How about donating "gently loved" stuffed animals to your local fire department/firehouse? A fire chief friend of mine said this "We would gladly take any, as we use them to give to kids in a rescue situation to relieve any anxiety they may have".