In Defense of Ghosting

In Defense of Ghosting

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Jennifer Hunter
Oct 28, 2014

It has nothing to do with Halloween so just what is this spooky-sounding term referring to? Ghosting: disappearing from a party or social event without saying goodbye. Sounds rude, you may be thinking. Here's why it's not.

Arriving at a party is a blast. You make the rounds and greet your fellow party-goers. Each hug, each smile is another promise that you're about to have a great time. Leaving a party? Well, it's more like a parade of guilt as you obediently squeeze your way into every conversation only to regretfully smile and make your excuses. It's a downer.

Here's the thing about leaving a party: it's not about you! (Unless it is. If the party is for you and you ghost then you're officially going to hell. Do not do that). Interrupting people who are still having a good time to tell them why you are not, "I'm just so tired," "My cat must be going crazy," "I have sooo much to do tomorrow," isn't as polite as you think. Yes, you had a great time and you're so thankful for the hospitality so do everyone a favor and slip out unnoticed so they can continue the fun.

If you just can't shake the guilt, then a well-timed thank you text to the host as you're exiting his building will help you get to sleep.

Obviously there are times when it's not okay to employ this slippery strategy: an event in your honor, as mentioned above, requires glowing goodbyes and thank yous all around. If you're at a sit-down dinner or elsewhere when your departure will be noticed, do the right thing and say sayonara. But a crowded, loud, boisterous party? Go ahead and ghost.

Via Man Repeller.

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