It’s Okay That There Are Dishes in Your Sink & Other Ways You’re Not Ruining Your Life

It’s Okay That There Are Dishes in Your Sink & Other Ways You’re Not Ruining Your Life

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Adrienne Breaux
May 20, 2015

We live in a beautiful time where free information is available to help us better ourselves, our homes and even our glutes. But if you happen to be one of the completely normal humans out there who sometimes gets too busy at work or is just too tired from running after kids all day to constantly be "bettering" 24/7, you might feel disappointed in yourself sometimes. Don't. Chances are whatever you feel like you've been failing at around the house isn't the end of the world (and there's plenty of time to get back on track).

Consider this post a gentle, friendly reminder that though it’s nice to ABB (always be bettering), it’s okay that there are dishes in the sink right now (or whatever home “failure” you might be committing currently) and you’re totally not ruining your life. Here are more things that aren’t ruining your life (plus, yes, ways in which you can make life a little easier going forward).

It’s okay…

That you only cleaned the spots you could actually see this week

Maybe work was really hard this week. Maybe the kids had like, eight soccer games. Perhaps you just weren't feeling well. The world won't tip off its axis if you skip the vacuuming one week this month. You're really only in trouble if you don't have some regular cleaning schedule in place. (So if you don't already have a system in place, commit to one.) Not so you can beat yourself up when you fall off track, but so you can keep things from going too far off track by keeping track of when you have made time to clean.

That you haven’t even finished the January Cure yet, let alone started on any of the Weekend Projects

We believe in small changes that make big impacts. There's no race to win, no universal schedule you have to keep to. We just think you should be putting regular, bite-sized effort into bettering your home when you can. Not because you have to, but because we know it'll make life and your home more enjoyable. The key here is to go at your own pace. Make your own schedule. Do things in your own order. Do "you!"

That you’d rather veg out on your couch than sit in your outdoor area

We think taking the time to fix up your outdoor area is a great way to spend time and invest energy into an area of your home that could bring you a lot of joy using. Unless you're right next to an alley with stinky garbage cans. Or you have this weird neighbor that stares at you every time you sit outside. Or you just much prefer that corner of your bedroom. The key is to find your favorite spot of your home and work a little design magic to make it its best, NOT spend a lot of time or money on a spot you know you won't enjoy because you think you should fix it up. Put the effort into your home where it will matter most for you.

That you ate out for lunch a couple of times this week

Is taking your lunch to work to save money and get healthier a goal of yours? Alright! We can support that. But don't kick yourself if you just started aiming toward that goal and are falling short (or if you've managed it in the past but fallen off the wagon). Eating out is yummy, convenient and a great way to get away from the office and hang out with friends — it's not the end of the world if you splurge a bit sometimes. Try doing two things if you find yourself doing it more than you'd like, though: Setting aside time on the weekend to make a few meals ahead of time to bring with you and keeping healthy snack options in your desk drawer.

That your junk drawer/closet is currently over-flowing

Look, unless you use a junk drawer for compost and it's literally over-flowing all over your kitchen, you're okay to skip cleaning out the junk drawer right now in lieu of I don't know, taking a break or relaxing. We think coming up with an organizational system for a junk drawer (or junk closet) is smart and helpful — but you should use it as something that helps you out, not something that imprisons your time. So if things get a little crazy, that's okay. As long as you know you can always re-organize when you can fit it in later, you and your home will be fine.

That you decided to give away or sell that furniture piece instead of try and fix it up

I can't tell you how many projects I've dreamed of after finding a piece of furniture at a thrift store or on the side of the road and bringing it home. Some of them I managed to fix up; others sat sad and lonely for far too long. You don't have to stop bringing home wayward pieces of furniture to fix up...just maybe consider giving yourself a deadline to do something, especially if you live in a small space and the furniture piece in question is in the way or not functional. Decide what a good amount of time is to try and find extra time to DIY and if you can't make your deadline, consider giving it away or selling it rather than it sitting there guilt-ing you in silence.

That you hired someone or asked for help

We can't do it all. Sometimes we shouldn't do it all. There's no shame in hiring help — whether that's a housekeeper or a contractor — or asking help from those we share our space with or trusted friends. Though it feels good to solo tackle a DIY project yourself, if something needs doing and you can't do it, don't be afraid to ask for or hire help.

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