I thought that recycled paper cube set up that was posted yesterday was pretty rad and it could add some needed color. (needed imo of course, perhaps not yours or your husbands)

http://www.roomandboard.com/rnb/category.do?method=get&id=56&page=all

perhaps you can discover a compromise, here. i think yoshi may satisfy both of you.....

i agree with maude's direction toward room and board — but i personally think the pisa in ebony (or whatever you prefer...i think ebony) could be really nice. it's got the dark lines which i think could be really sleek, but it's "light" on materials and won't feel monolithic and heavy.

I like this... but I work there, part time. I still think it's decent quality, and you can get it in seven days. There's also something called the waterbury but it's actually for bath products. It comes in a teak.

http://www.westelm.com/online/store/ProductDisplay?storeId=17001&langId=-1&catalogId=17002&viewSetCode=E&partNumber=WE-PRODf480&retainNav=true&parent_category_rn=&cmsrc=SCH&parentId=cutout book

I'm leaning towards very dark and straight lines, myself, to balance the mirror. Whatever you get the back should be open so it won't be too heavy.

I wouldn't choose a tall bookcase at all - It would make your living room look cluttered and disjointed.

I'd choose a long low or medium-height modular storage solution with open and closed storage in place of your Asian cabinet and those side chairs - perhaps something like this from Bo Concept:
http://www.boconcept.us/default.aspx?id=75104&ImageID=445

Sundance catalog?
http://tinyurl.com/3kv9jq

Draper, Emile or Wright all have sort of a vintage industrial look that would work well with your living room

I'm leaning towards vintage industrial as well--but with a punch of color--like a glossy light teal with grey tones or a lime green---the frame would need to mimic the clean leggy lines of the existing furniture

We are very happy with the modular units from www.shelfshop.com. We get comments regularly about how much people like ours, plus they adjust to fit any space and are just modern enough, just industrial enough and just plain enough to go with any decor. We used to have them in a 1920's bungalow and now have them in a modern NYC apartment and they look great in both. I know west coast friends who have bought similar setups locally, but not sure of the vendors.

Metro shelving to match the lamp and the other stainless components in the room.

No shelves ... it would become a fusty curio cabinet. Instead rotate a few items from your wedding caboodle every couple of weeks for an edited, dynamic display atop furniture like your Asian chest.

If you're leaving it on that wall, the mirror should be lowered (60" above floor at centerline) and centered over the chairs.

I would go with something a little lighter and airy with a modern feel to it.

Please see these suggestions below:
http://www.cb2.com/family.aspx?c=118&f=1081&viewall=1
http://www.cb2.com/family.aspx?c=118&f=3885&viewall=1
http://www.roomandboard.com/rnb/collection.do?method=get&id=4135507&cat=56

A tall Sapien bookcase from DWR:

http://www.dwr.com/product/categories/storage/bookcases/sapien-bookcase-short.do

It would track the horizontal lines and the stacking pattern from the brick wall behind it. Putting vertical books against a horizontally-aligned brick wall will clash.

One or two of these might do the trick:

http://www.lofgrens.com/Shelving/Bookcases/ProfileDisplay.html

They are taller than most which would help balance the wall and emphasize your nice high ceilings.

I would actually use this bookshelf on it's side in the center of the wall with a chair on each side. While moving the current console/buffet to another wall. That way you can get the look of a higher ceiling without sacrificing space.