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I don't think it's unromantic, just sexually dysfunctional. I'm not surprised coming from a guy who writes a design blog, but the least you could do would be to sleep with someone of the opposite sex without complaining so much. Also, maybe if you got some before going to bed, you'd have less energy to notice stupidities. So stop exaggerating so much, I bet people around the world would rather sleep on the floor together than in golden beds separate.

It's perfectly fine. In fact, I've always thought that separate bedrooms were simultaneously romantic and practical. The idea of always sharing a bed is based more on economics (as incomes increase the number of persons per bedroom decreases) than romance.

I'm amused on my husband's behalf of your girlfriend's midnight acrobatics routine. For a long time, I would quickly pull my leg into a bent position (whether on my back, on my side, or on my stomach with my leg out) and then slo-o-o-o-o-o-o-w-ly scoot it to the straight, extended position. Unfortunately, close sleeping quarters coupled with the sideways version of this unconscious gesture resulted in my husband's preference to now sleeping with his back to me.

The habit has subsided, apparently, and now has been replaced by my toes reaching out in the night and 'petting' his leg with little tiny motions.

I think he'd be all for separate sleeping arrangements... but I'd be freezing!

i love sharing a bed with someone and the fact that boys are so nice and toasty is only one reason! i have friends who have your challenge & they found the temper pedic along with the sobakowa pillow (to keep his head cool) was the answer (though they didn't have the jumping jacks issue...). some people rave about the "chillow" www.chillow.com

What's good enough for Nick and Nora is good enough for me!

Personally I've always thought that sharing a bed for actual *sleeping* purposes, unless out of economic necessity, was an odd convention.

Danger Man and I have solved the problem by simply living next door to each other. (santa monica, beach apartments, rent control!)

After we're done djluckying each other, we often retire to our separate lairs if we can still walk.

Mine: tempurpedic (you're right; it IS hot) His: cotton sheets that feel too shell-like to me.

p.s. you TALK about ricky ricardo, but you GIVE me William Powell -- thank you for that; The Thin Man is far more djluckylicious than Senor Babaloo.

I think most couples have different sleep preferences which is probably why the Cal King is such a big seller. I was about to comment on DJlucky's tone, but I infer from his comment, "the least you could do would be to sleep with someone of the opposite sex without complaining so much," that he posted it while going stag to the comment party.

My partner and I started out living in separate bedrooms, then in separate beds. We now sleep in the same bed, and have finally solved our sleeping problems by having separate comforters of different weights. He's completely enveloped in his heavier cover and three pillows over his head with only his nose visible. I get to have my summer-weight and can stick my feet out whenever I want.

Works for us.

I'm with Rachel in Denver - in the Boston winters I'd be FREEZING without my boyfriend's butt to keep me warm!

I have also kneed my boyfriend in his crotch AND punched him in his stomach and back in my sleep. Poor guy!

We have managed to work out our minor differences, because they were minor and it really just involves being VERY aware of not straying too far across the mattress (the measuring tape even came out on one particularly rambunctious night!).

On the other hand, I have friends that wouldn't move in together until they had purchased a king size bed - and they're not big people, both are 5'8" or under and skinny little things!

for those of use with not only separate sleeping preferences but also snoring issues, separate rooms sounds better and better....

You know Nick and Nora were getting it on all the time despite seperate beds.

My boyfriend and I are thinking about upgrading to a King becasue we both hate to sleep alone, but everyonce in a while it's just nice not to have someone touching you while you're trying to get some sleep.

While I love living with my boyfriend, I absolutely hate sharing a bed with anyone. I don't like being slept too close to let alone touched when I'm sleeping. The first month of co-habitation was torture... then we upgraded to a king-sized temprapedic. And for those rare nights when we've had some fun at the bar and he snoring is unstoppable, we are lucky enough to have a spare bedroom.

bf and i fit perfectly snuggled up together - but if he were to be the one to make the bed - i'd die from the heat. for real, i'd sweat to death. but he puts up with it by constantly being plastered to me all throughout the night - which i love. however, one thing he puts up with only because it's hilarious is my ability to jump up from whatever sleep position we are in, crouch on the bed like a frog, and start talking to him in jibberish - all this completely asleep and fully unconscious of it. apparently, (our old bedroom door was really hard to shut but i did it anyway so as to hear the intruder before he came in) when he would open that door, i would jump out of the bed in attack mode until he just pushed me over and i went back to sleeping peacefully. i bite my tongue in many an argument so as not to hear the "do you know what i deal with at night?" because i wouldn't want to do with a sleep walking frog person who speaks french to her boyfriend during rem cycles.

My husband and I have much different sleeping habits. He's all free wheeling with the sheets and I like them tucked and tight and folded perfectly under my chin (not like they stay that way but I like to start it out right). He also likes to snuggle up close and I don't particularly like sleep snuggling. I always think I'd sleep much better if we had seperate beds. However, when we go to his family's cottage with two twin beds I always look over at him and wish we were in the same bed. Go figure.

My husband and I have similar issues. I kick in my sleep and he takes all the covers. We solved this problem by buying two twin sized tempurpedic beds, but we push them together (two twins = king size), and hold them together with one king sized fitted sheet, so it looks like one bed, but it's really two. This helps with motion transfer and any other movement issues. Then we each have our own comforters, which helps with temperature issues. It has worked out wonderfully. Tempurpedic rocks btw, it's like sleeping on butter.

get a bigger bed. and i agree with everyone that said get separte comforters. IT WORKS.

the last time i saw separate beds was when i went to visit my jewish orthodox friends in brooklyn a few months ago. to me it seemed like a waste of space to have two beds in a room. thats prime area for a night stand or a womb chair.

We solved the hot and cold issue in the same bed by sleeping with seperate blankets... imagine my horror however a year ago when he started snoring... I make him wear breathe rite strips. I can't stand snoring and they help considerably, so I'm not just being mean! :)