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After seven years of marriage we're still working on this. (Although we've come a long way from having Spock in the kitchen, which was really not logical.) The sort of good news is that he mostly doesn't care; that in itself can be a bit frustrating when I try to get his input on stuff. He's got all his space posters confined to his den, and that's all he really pays attention to.

Wellllll, there is that Lego set that sort of took over the bathroom shelf... I haven't moved it yet... I think if I put up a nice display area in the den, he'd be happy to use it though.

Love him, love his bobbleheads. In the basement rec room.

My husband and I married almost 2 years ago. I moved into his fully furnished town home and brought with me a handful of furnishings from roommate/apartment living. We're about even at this point. Almost everything is "ours" except for (his) dining table and (my) bed, both of which, we're happy with.

as long as she doesn't try to put my records/CD/books in some hidden place, I can deal with quite a few changes

I'm not sure confining "his stuff" to the den or the garage qualifies as nesting into "our home."

going through this right now. we've both edited our knick-knack type stuff to a degree. definitely agree on the record situation, but we resolved that by turning the record shelf on it's side to make it into a sort of buffet by the dining table, and by acquiring less visually bulky speakers.

I had a weird situation... my husband came home from Iraq and had never even stepped foot in "our" home after I had been living there for a year! It was quite the adjustment for both of us. Everything was exactly how I liked it, and all of a sudden somebody is there, messing with my order and routine I had created. It takes some getting used to, that's for sure.

It wasn't until we moved to a completely different apartment that I began to feel at home with my husband place/stuff. I always felt like a visitor in the old place. As soon as WE moved to a new apartment together (fortunately it wasn't long after I moved in with him), it became OUR home.

Thankfully, my partner (who moved into my house in 2007) has similar tastes in mid-c design and architecture. Except that he likes a lot more color (oranges, blues, yellows,reds) than I do. I like, um, white and off-white walls.

He can do whatever he wants in the finished basement, where he has his office. (He has an orange accent wall.) I can do whatever I want on the main and second levels.

The fiance and I got our first place together a year ago, so it wasn't so much of dealing with the other's stuff it was mostly having to find stuff (thank God for kind family members who would hand over almost anything) to fill the place, which is slightly overfilled now.

Since we both brought furniture from our living with our parents days, it was a hard choice over who gets to keep what...like not needing two bedroom sets. Sadly almost anything each of us had separately in that category we are slowing getting rid of to buy things that are "ours"...still dealing with his bed though which I love his mattress but I hate his headboard.

I did feel sorry for him when he lived with my and my parents for a few months before we got the apartment...most of his stuff went into storage rather than have to completely undo my room, so he was forced into my style for about four months - LOL.

thank goodness my boyfriend does not have a lot of stuff. so when he moved in, it was nothing but him, his media consoles and his clothes. but when we moved into a bigger apartment, we made a conscious effort to buy furniture that we both like. as for other materials that is just in storage and not being used due to lack of space and such, it goes straight to the garbage or the salvation army.

strangely, we moved in together six months ago and neither of us have any furniture, because we both moved across the Atlantic. The books remain in cardboard boxes on the floor, as do our clothes (no closets in the apartment)... it actually causes a lot of stress, particularly when his dog decides to use my clothes as a bed. For now, since we are both unpaid interns, no nesting can occur. Even buying food is a stretch. But I look at Apartment Therapy and I dream.

instantzen - I have a feeling this is going to stir something up, but honestly, shouldn't one of you get a paying job for the time being and then switch out later?

Audrey,
So glad your hubby is back!
That does make for an interesting/unusual adjustment period!!

Please thank him for his service!

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@angelabaca

Totally agreed. I hate when people do that. :|