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Was That A Ghost?: What To Do Except Scream

102209-ghost.jpgWe grew up on a block in New York that boasted a house with a ghost. Living in an older home, a spectral visit doesn't seem that unlikely, so we thought we'd get into the spirit of the season (pun intentional). After you determine whether that was a ghost (after all it could be your imagination playing tricks on you), then you have to decide what to do about it. Of course, you might think about keeping something under the bed in case your bump in the night turns out not to be a ghost...

 
 
  • Be pragmatic: Rule out the normal before considering the paranormal. Often, the noises you hear and the things you see can be explained. The creaks on the stairs were the sounds of the house settling; the voices were the wind whistling past a curtain. Get to know your house (if you're doing the Cure, you're well on your way to developing a good relationship with it). What are its quirks? Some things - those creaks for example - can easily be fixed (rub baby powder into creaking wood floors to stop the noise).
  • Don't be afraid: Think Sixth Sense. Chances are this spirit doesn't know it is dead and may need help in completing a task so that it can move on.
  • Do your research: Talk to your neighbors, comb Google, sift through the archives at your local library and find out the stories of your home and who lived there. Even if it's not a ghost, you'll learn a lot about the history of your home and how life has changed since it was built. We have a weird door in the back of one of kitchen cabinets. Turns out it was where the milkman delivered fresh milk.
  • Make contact: Talk to it. It's not here to scare you. Find out what it wants and give it firm boundaries about what you want. Like any guest it needs to know your home's rules.
  • Remove the ghost: Often, once it has wrapped up what it stuck around for, your ghost will go away. If not, you may have to call in an expert or, if it's particularly stubborn, you may have to share your space with it. When we move into a new home we give it a good sageing, clean it from top to bottom and open the windows to air it out and we repeat this whenever we have a dramatic change in our life in order to clear our home of bad or unpleasant memories.

Check out this video by expert ghost hunter, Richard Felix, for more information.

Of course, you might think about keeping something under the bed in case your bump in the night turns out not to be a ghost.

Does your house or your neighborhood come with a ghost story? Share it with us in the comments!

[image: Banana Donuts, from her Flickr, with a Creative Commons License]

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OMG...my son is 15 but we still have that Playmobil ghost. I love how the "sheet" comes off to reveal a glow-in-the-dark guy.

(Sorry, I know this is slightly off-topic.)

posted by sally305 on October 22nd 2009 at 1:39pm
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I do believe in ghosts, but I don't believe they can harm me - I'm more than happy to share my space.

posted by ChrisGal on October 22nd 2009 at 2:23pm
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I've lived in my share of haunted places ranging from friendly to poltergeist...I'm starting to wish this stuff was mentioned in my leases.

posted by Ana on October 22nd 2009 at 2:31pm
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@sally

I'm 26 and my mom still has my all of my old Playmobile -- including ghosty there -- all packed away at home. I'm thinking I'm going to build a castle over Thanksgiving....

posted by akay on October 22nd 2009 at 2:35pm
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sally305,

i'm with you and akay on the playmobil ghostly love; that's prolly why this pic "spoke" to me!

cheers,
abby

posted by abby on October 22nd 2009 at 3:09pm
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my cousin used to live in my apartment. She would frequently tell me about how the ghost that lived there sexually molested her... She's kind of a nut and believes in 9/11 conspirasies, aliens, etc.

I've been in the apartment for 14 months and I don't believe in ghosts, the afterlife or anything like that. But that doesnt stop me from becoming terrified when something is out of the ordinary. I'll come home to the television or a light turned on that i swear I didn't leave on. It's a little freaky sometimes.

One time I went to the store and left a bag of bagels on the kitchen counter, twisted with the excess bag tucked under the bagels. When I came home, the bag was twisted and had the excess bag inverted over the bagels. I freaked the fuck out because i have NEVER closed a bag that way... Thankfully i found out it was my brother who had come over while I was out.

posted by chusmabilly on October 22nd 2009 at 3:47pm
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This is why I smudge every space I've ever lived in before moving in, and a few times throughout the year. After a while in any space negative energy can start to build up in the corners. It's a good thing to do, ghost or no ghost.

I feel like there is a very old spirit in this building. My upstairs neighbors have heard strange things and I saw "someone" walk across a room in our creepy basement. But I grew up in a home where many people had lived and died. Mostly family and one non-relative who perished in a fire. We had very, very strange things happen there. Oh, and a women who had hung herself haunts a home I babysat in when I was younger. She liked to scare me. I didn't appreciate it very much.

posted by cassielynn on October 22nd 2009 at 3:59pm
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@chusmabilly

Your cousin could be referring to an incubus, the male version of a succubus. However it isn't a ghost, it is a demon. or so they say...

posted by Angietaki on October 22nd 2009 at 4:01pm
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I live in an old apartment (30s) next to a big cemetary (quiet neighbors, lol) and my friend who is a native american healer told me that several spirits also live in my apartment with me. He says he sees spirits all the time (has nothing to do with scary ghosts).

posted by SydneyBristow on October 22nd 2009 at 4:02pm
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My old apartment had two ghosts, and it didn't take much detective work to figure out who they were and why they were there. (We ruled out all the explainable stuff first, of course.)

We got used to the shadowy shapes in the hallway, the cold spot in the living room, etc., but the only thing that really bugged us was the younger one's habit of moving our stuff (according to her old boyfriend, who is still alive, she was a neat freak with OCD). It was very creepy to come home to an empty apartment, toss our jackets on the couch, and find them in our bedrooms ten minutes later.

posted by Stiletto on October 22nd 2009 at 4:18pm
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having seen and been spoken to by ghosts in seattle, san francisco and london, i am quite happy living in a new condo which is spirit free. it's seriously creepy even when they aren't poltergeists.

posted by davidsl on October 22nd 2009 at 4:35pm
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A ghost that likes tidying up? I'd almost welcome such an entity.

posted by slowdown on October 22nd 2009 at 5:28pm
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The house I grew up in had a mischevous spirit living in it that liked to follow me around. It would mess with my TV, turning the volume up and down as it pleased, changing channels, switching the functions of my remote so that when I tried to turn it off the color balance would change instead, etc. One night I was taking a shower and it knocked off the light fixture which sent glass shattering all over the sink, counter tops and floor. The door was locked so I know it wasn't someone else bumping it and I was actively taking a shower at the time, so I know it wasn't me...

When I moved out of my parents' house, the spirit went with me. It started messing with my new TV and turning lights off and on randomly.

Then I got a cat and I guess she chased it away. Hasn't bothered me since.

posted by lifeinthefortress on October 22nd 2009 at 5:52pm
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That reminds me I am due for a smudge. I try to do the house periodically.

When we were househunting we hubby swears something invisible knocked him upside the head when he was saying something bad about some feature of the house. Turns out the prior owner died in the house. Probably a sign we weren't the right family to move in next! We took the head-smacker's advice.

posted by ammanda on October 22nd 2009 at 6:06pm
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I wish I had a ghost that cleaned after me, does it do dishes too?

posted by david_happening on October 22nd 2009 at 6:09pm
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The baby powder thing is such a good idea! I am trying that when I get home.

posted by Kaviare on October 22nd 2009 at 11:16pm
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My office is haunted. Several years ago before I started working here an employee passed away and his spirit still roams the building. When I first started here I thought that the guys that I worked with were trying to scare me, the lone female and frequently the only person working in a 30,000 square foot office/warehouse.
I never had an encounter with the ghost until 6 months ago when I heard a door open and close from the warehouse into the office and then footsteps. I was the only person in the building and the hair raised up on the back of my neck and then I freaked out and ran outside and sat in my car. 15 minutes later one of sales guys (former cop) showed up and he looked around the building for me and said it was all clear.
Telling the story still gives me the heebie-jeebies. Everyone in my office has a story about meeting up with the ghost in the building. They didn't even laugh or make fun of me when I retold the story.

posted by lbc on October 23rd 2009 at 11:06am
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@lbc, that's so depressing. I wouldn't mind being a ghost at home, atleast you're in your space, even if other people move in, but how terrible would it be forced to spend eternity (or however long) at your place of business!

posted by Will Whiskey on October 23rd 2009 at 4:57pm
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If I had to choose between a haunting or a smudging, I'd go with the ghost as I've almost always been oblivious to their presence. I had a bad experience once with another tenant (living, more's the pity) in a flatshare and one of the other tenants, a herbalist, dashed into my room, brandishing a smouldering bundle of sage. I got over the bad experience soon enough but, thanks to the smudging, I had to wash and clean EVERYTHING that was in that room, even moved to a different room because the lingering stench made me gag and, even now, about five years later and in a different place, I can open my books and STILL smell the fumes from that damned smudge stick wafting up frm the pages!!

posted by AcrossThePond on October 25th 2009 at 7:02pm
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When we moved into our last apartment, the TV would turn on and off randomly, or change channels. It turned out our neighbor had the same problem. We finally figured out that our remotes worked on each other's TVs, through the walls. A little aluminum foil, and the problem was solved.

posted by matchbookhymnal on October 26th 2009 at 10:25am
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