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Saying Goodbye to a Pet and Friend

061209RIPDarcy01.jpgOur friend, Ariel, created this most magnificent and appropriate farewell graphic shown above. Earlier this week Emily and I bid farewell to our beloved betta fish who was with us for three good years. Mr. Darcy (I wanted to name him "Conan the Destroyer" initially, but alas, his foppish appearance was better matched to the J. Austen name) greeted me each morning, swimming up to the top for his daily betta tablets from his hanging fish pod, regulalry blowing bubbles, flaring his fins at our cats, and begging for red worm snacks with a charming insistence that will be sorely missed. Losing a pet is never easy, even a small gilled one with as much personality as Mr. Darcy, but time has a way of taking away those very things we most love...

 
 

061209RIPDarcy02.jpgEmily and I decided to honour our aquatic friend by burying him in our container garden, in the soil of our tomato plant, using the same Native Americans technique of burying fish to fertilize their crops. It seemed like a better idea than just flushing him down the toilet and hopefully one that results in some tomatoes infused with his colourful spirit (though hopefully not with his flavour). Rest in peace, my little fighter.

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Sniff sniff

posted by Kate (NC) on June 12th 2009 at 5:15pm
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aw. lovely little tribute

posted by jen_g on June 12th 2009 at 5:23pm
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When my dear greyhound dies I'm going to have her taxidermied. Not sure if just the head and neck or whole body.

Sorry for your loss Gregory.

posted by fannyboyle on June 12th 2009 at 5:45pm
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salute for Mister Darcy

posted by madamelai on June 12th 2009 at 5:55pm
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So sorry for your loss Gregory. My husband and I still mourn the loss of our dear betta Cooper. Many people question the possibility of an emotional connection with a fish but little Cooper had so much personality, ranging from shows of playfulness, aggression, fear and even sadness.
Sigh.
Fare thee well, Mr. Darcy. I hope you are happily building a bubble nest in the great beyond.

posted by 1GH on June 12th 2009 at 5:56pm
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I hear ya, Gregory. Fable the ferret passed away last night in my arms; she now has a grave in a corner of the yard and we sprinkled cosmos and zinnia seeds in the soil so hopefully we'll have flowers to remember her by shortly. Sorry for your loss.

posted by Kimber on June 12th 2009 at 5:57pm
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My heart is cracking. The crack is small with fins. Mr. Darcy, you were the best of all possible fishes and, more importantly, well loved.

When my little rescue mouse (name: Mouse) died in my hands after a long and extraordinary life filled with peanut treats and ill-fated escapes, we buried him under a rose bush in the backyard, where he remains to this day. I assume.

Gregory, should you and Emily ever find room in your hearts for another fish, maybe you could name him/her "Conran the Destroyer" to honor both the fighting spirit and the will to design, destruction and creation, the endless cycle of... er, I'll stop now.

posted by rosenatti on June 12th 2009 at 6:29pm
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Your tribute is so sweet. Living creatures, no matter how small, bring warmth to a home. It sounds like Mr. Darcy had a wonderful life.

posted by MihoH on June 12th 2009 at 6:46pm
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Wonderful tribute! I think if more humans would take the time to observe and listen they would discover that every creature does have a personality and we gain much by interacting with them.
Sorry for your loss but I think he would be pleased with his final resting place and will enjoy being thanked for your tasty tomatoes this summer.

posted by sassydo on June 12th 2009 at 8:08pm
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When Spooky the Wonder Cat died, I divided her ashes in thirds and scattered some in the backyard of her first home in Santa Monica, her second home in Venice Beach, and lastly, just under the gigantic window where she'd sit on the ledge looking out watching "bird TV" at my loft in downtown LA. Three nights later I saw her in a dream, playing outside the window chasing butterflies and in perfect health. Maybe Mr. Darcy is swimming in a coral reef somewhere still.
Katy
http://fengshuibyfishgirl.com

posted by fishgirl on June 12th 2009 at 8:31pm
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Mr. Darcy? Foppish??

Okay, I digress.

That's a lovely memorial, and I'm with you on attachment to pets (even those of the aquatic variety). I cried really pitifully when my little shrimp died- I made my boyfriend bury him outside and say a few words of thanks. The little fellah kept the tank so clean, and he was so darn cute fluttering around!

posted by shockthebourgeois on June 12th 2009 at 8:35pm
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Darcy, we hardly knew ye...
my most heartfelt condolences.

posted by baba yaga on June 12th 2009 at 10:22pm
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Awe Mr. Darcy, rest peacefully. I put my parakeet in a pot and painted the character he was named after on it, with the years too. I found this sweet bronze bird statue that's rather small and placed it on top. I think I might have to plant something instead now:) does anyone out there have a pet cemetary in their town??

posted by dunklekatze on June 13th 2009 at 2:21am
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I have cried at the dying of a fish pet. Some of them display so much personality, you just can't help your heart break - especially the time one angelfish died and her "boyfriend" was protecting her from the attempted nips from the other fish. We used to give covert "memorials" by giving them a burial in the Hudson River. Water to water...

posted by home body on June 13th 2009 at 11:33am
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A beautiful tribute! Also, what is was the typeface used in the memorial? It's wonderful!

posted by yakimushi on June 13th 2009 at 2:29pm
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Rest in peace, Mr. Darcy. My condolences to Gregory and Emily.

There's a pet cemetery in my town, and I'll probably end up buying plots for my cats someday, even though it's unlikely that I'll live here forever.

posted by Stiletto on June 13th 2009 at 9:34pm
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I am not exaggerating when I say I'm touched by all your well wishes and positive thoughts. I know to some people it's "just a fish", but I truly appreciate the understanding about even this small loss. He likely won't be replaced...at least for a long awhile.

posted by gregory on June 14th 2009 at 2:02am
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Hi, there!

Did you know that round fish pods can cause blindness to wour beloved fishes?

Best regards!

posted by Sabrina Mix on June 14th 2009 at 4:03pm
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I sympathize. My 19-year-old cat is getting old and creaky, and I'm trying to prepare for the day I know is coming. But you can't really. Knowing it's going to happen doesn't make it easier when it finally does. I guess the tradeoff in owning pets is that we lose them in the end -- so we should try to really enjoy them and make their lives pleasant while we can.

posted by SherryBinNH on June 15th 2009 at 4:29pm
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