At the risk of sounding childish or lazy (maybe both?) I'll just be honest: I hate making my bed. Rather, I used to hate making my bed. Why should I bother? I often reasoned. I'm just going to get right back into it later, and no one except my immediate family will see it (and as it turns out, they are stuck with me and my covers-tossed-in-disarray).
But something I read last week in Charles Duhigg's "The Power of Habit" changed my mind. According to Duhigg, making your bed every morning is correlated with better productivity and stronger skills at sticking with a budget. It has also been suggested that making your bed boosts happiness. My interest was piqued. Happiness? Yes, I'll take it. Productivity? Yep, I'll take that too. Sticking to a budget? Sounds good to me.
Gretchen Rubin, author of the bestselling book "The Happiness Project", explains that making the bed was "the number one most impactful change that people brought up over and over" as she researched her book on inspiring happiness. Can an act that takes three minutes (yes, I timed it) really make that much of a difference in your life?
Apparently, making your bed (and other feel-good tasks like exercising and cooking your own food) is something called a keystone habit. Keystone habits are those routines that, if you can identify them, spill over to other habits. According to Duhigg, changing or cultivating keystone habits "helps other habits to flourish by creating new structures, and they establish cultures where change becomes contagious." A keystone habit is essentially a catalyst for other good habits.
I figured that I was the perfect test case for the Make Your Bed to Achieve Happiness Theory (reminder: I never make my bed) and that it was worth a try. So far I've made by bed for 10 days in a row. And here's what I've noticed: Making my bed inspires me to get my kids to make their beds. Which inspires me to get them to clean their rooms. Which inspires me to do the laundry, the dishes, and to pick up abandoned stuffed animals, dropped underwear (theirs! not mine), and newspapers-turned-light-sabers as I corral my two toddlers out the door to school. I look at my watch to see that it is 8am and the house is an unusual shade of clean before coffee. I'm smiling.
Karen Miller, wife, mother, Zen priest, and author of "Hand Wash Cold" and "Momma Zen", explains: "the state of your bed is the state of your head." I think she is on to something. When I leave my bed in a heap, I leave the bedroom feeling defeated by my bed, my alarm clock, and my general sleepy mood. I'm groggy and reluctant to get the day started. My internal voice sounds a bit like the strewn covers, "Noooooo morning! Gooooo awaaaaaay!"
But when I look at my freshly made bed, I have to admit it: I smile a little. I feel just a bit more motivated. Productive, even. I leave the room saying, "Goodbye beautiful little den of tranquility that I have created with my bare hands!" And I'm ready to tackle the day — crush it, even.
But sticking to a budget? That part is still up for debate. I just bought some adorable grey and white chevron pillows with hot pink trim for my freshly made bed. I can't leave that beautiful bed half-dressed, can I?
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Funny, I have been making my bed for the last couple of weeks. Yes, it makes me feel better. . I made my daughter make hers this morning. I smiled again when i looked at her bed. I guess I do feel better.
It helps if it's easy to do. We use a duvet with the right quilt inside for the weather. That's all. No blanket-sheet-coverlet skewing and straightening. I love coming into my bedroom and seeing it neat and inviting!
Interesting article!
Excuse me if this sounds callous - one of the best parts of a recent break-up is getting to make the bed, and coming home to a beautiful bed, neatly covered by a great patterned comfortor that I love. I always got up before him, and he didn't make the bed, and one of the first things I did when I came home was to make the bed, just to get that hit of "ahhh". Now it's already done. It's not even that fancy - the sheet isn't even flat underneath, it's just that it's covered and neat-looking. It makes such a difference, and I love my bedroom so much now!
As a life-long bed maker the rare occasions where I don't make it (sick, late for an early meeting, etc.) I feel like my day was chaotic and when I get back and see the bed messy I actually have to make it before I get into it for the night. There's nothing better than a tidy and well made bed. It's one place where I splurge on good quality high thread count sheets and even (to the amazement of some) I press my pillow cases with linen water and it feels like heaven.
After making the bed (right on), replacing the large painting above the head board should be a priority.
Crawling into an unmade bed feels like putting on dirty clothes. Slipping into a made bed is like a warm bath of still water!
I started making my bed daily after I signed up for some daily e-mail challenge that I've long since unsubscribed to. That habit stuck, though. I'm not sure what the exact connection to happiness is, but it makes me feel more on top of things and more organized, which probably bleeds into other parts of my life. I think the ritual gives you that feeling that if you can stop and do the one small thing that may seem tedious, you can take the time for other organizational tasks you might be inclined to put off. You realize it's not so bad to just do it, and skims a mere minute or two off your day — the time you might waste perusing status updates on Facebook. It also definitely makes your bed more inviting at the end of the day.
@ CarolFromYorkHome: I loved your comment and that's exactly how I feel! :)
I agree. As a life-long non-bed-maker (?) I have been trying to get back into the habit that my mother tried to install in me too many years ago to count. Although it has been only a month or so, I find that, on the few days that I don't make the bed, getting back into it at the end of the day is not as relaxing as when it is made. I love walking into my bedroom at the end of the evening to a neat bed and pulling that top cover back, it's almost like getting into clean sheets every day.
My problem: cats. They're always asleep on the bed when I get up, and their snuggliness amplifies my laziness. Making the bed is bad enough, but rousting peaceful cats to do it? I guess I'll just go get dressed. But I do prefer the bed made. Any tips?
I also use to think, "I like my nest messy" and never made my bed. Especially while I was in college, my bed was never made because I spent to much time there sleeping, reading, watching movies or tv... but now that I'm working. I not only it enjoyable to leave for work with a freshly made bed, but love coming home and seeing it neat and tidy. After a stressful day, nothing makes me happier then sliding into a nicely made comfortable bed. Almost like when you first slide into the bed while on vacation!
As to the budget side, I use Mint.com as a way to get started, and am an avid follower of Get Rich Slowly. Making my bed, along with running, WeigthWatchers, and trying to improve my professional career all help make me feel fantastic, and that really tells me my mind is healthy. They all are indicators that even if life isn't perfect, that I'm still moving in the right direction towards a long happy healthy life. And in life, it really is the little things, like taking pleasure in making your bed.
I consider it an easy and accessible luxury. I was able to hang my sheets outside yesterday, and my whole bedroom smells wonderful. I agree--great way to start the day.
The room pictured above is gorgeous. I love taking a mid afternoon nap on top of my neatly made bed. I feel no guilt. :)
mint.com always makes me feel bad with all of their notifications:You have a low balance of 500 bucks. sad thing is, that is a high balance for me! thanks mint.com, i now feel awful and poor and my stupid boyfriend never makes the bed. sigh.
We have just moved, actually it was about 6 months ago : ), and my bed is surrounded by unopened boxes with piles of clothes on them, I discovered that the room felt a lot calmer and less chaotic when I actually made the bed. Also, I make the bed as soon as I get out of it, as I find it really wakes me up and gets my blood pumping.
Oh, the cats. They do make getting out of bed tricky. For some reason and only when I get up and start to try to make the bed does the cat want to cuddle. He gets in his cuddle spot and gives me the evil eye if I try to make the bed around him. Luckily, his cuddle spot is the left top corner. So I make the bed as much as I can, and then after I give him his morning food (the only thing to get him out of bed and into the kitchen), I come back and finish it off.
But, I;ve recently gotten out of the habit of making my bed. Thanks for inspiring me to start back up again.
This is so timely for me. I am a lifelong non maker of beds, who recently discovered the joys of a nicely made up bed. The habit was actually beginning to stick, after a too long renovation of a bedroom. But I've just come out of back surgery and now, I am unable to bend/stoop so that making my bed is basically impossible during my recovery. Staring at that unmade bed for days has been bugging me like you would not believe.
I agree. Making the bed brings some piece of mind in the morning as I head out the door, and at night it's nice to crawl into a made bed. No matter how messy the bedroom is, a made bed brings some sense of order and organization and feels welcoming.
Don't walk under ladders and NEVER allow a black cat to cross your path...
I'm a bed-maker (usually, not always) and this post reminded me of a conversation with my husband a few months ago.
Me (pointedly as I made the bed): You know, I read an article that said people who make their bed are happier.
Husband: Yeah? Well they didn't survey ME.
Hahaha.
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You can actually change Mint's notifications. Go to "Your Profile" on the top right, and find the "Email and Alerts" section. You can remove the low balance alert, or change the dollar amount, and all sorts of other notifications. Enjoy! :)
Re: cats. I found that my cat, at least, loved to play under the sheets as I made the bed. We'd play a game of hide and seek. He loved a made bed, though. Maybe he felt the peace of it.
I'm going to go make my bed right now. I could use a positive impact on my finances.
I used to think it silly to make the bed since well... you just get back in it later that day! However, I've been converted. I started making our bed each day when we moved into a loft since you can see it all the time. It makes me happy to see it clean and tidy, ready for me to pull down the covers and slip into it. :)
I always make sure to leave the bed unmade while I shower, get ready, etc. The linens get a chance to cool and air out so I'm not covering up that sweaty mess to fester all day. Time permitting, I like to give it a linen water spray as well.
My boyfriend makes the bed. Usually when I'm in it, happily twisted in the covers, and trying to sleep.
@pixelspersecond - you can decide what, if any, notifications Mint sends you. I had the same kind of annoyance in the beginning.
I seldom made my bed until I began working from home. Then it became a must-do -- because once you've made the bed, it's much less likely you'll get back in it! I find that it helps me stay neater in other ways too, so that's a vote for the "keystone habit" theory. And as Mulchmaid said, it helps when your bed is easy to make. Not too many crazy pillows or fussy details, bed placed so that you can swiftly reach all angles, etc. I can do mine in about 90 seconds.
@Quiltmaster - LOL! while I have to agree with your sentiment, I do feel I need to give this an honest try. However, PLEASE, everyone, note: "correlation" is not AT ALL the same as "cause." Of COURSE people who are naturally more prone to being organized are more likely to not only have budgets, but be able to stick to them.
For example, fat in your bloodstream is "correlated" with strokes. But that doesn't mean eat less fat. It means stop eating the hydrogenated oils pushed by Big Ag, as well as their cheap-crop, cheap-delivery carbohydrates. These mess up your metabolism which is what CAUSES you to have more fat in your bloodstream; the cells are unable to eat the fat, which is what they need, and it then it gets stored for "later use," which never happens because the body burns carbs before fat, and the excess of carbs we eat mean it never gets around to the fat.
@MulchMaid has the right idea. In the early 70's I lived in Germany and was very impressed with their practice of simply using an attractive fitted sheet with a covered duvet and pillow. That is infinitely more efficient than the way we make beds here - pull up and smooth the top sheet, making sure it's centered on the bed AND longer than the blankets will be. Pull up, center, and smooth the numerous blankets. Tuck them in on the sides, but not so much that it's too tight when you get back in bed. Turn the sheet down neatly over the blankets. Pull up the quilt or cover and turn it down EVENLY at the exact right place that when you put the pillows on, the crease will look good. Put the pillows in place,. Pull up the top fold of the cover. Agonize over the fact that they no longer make covers that are actually long enough to cover the top part of the pillows.
And that ridiculously lengthy process doesn't even include dealing with all the extra accent pillows and shams we're told we need.
Compare that to: 1) Smooth the bottom sheet if necessary. 2) Give the duvet a shake, fold it in half, and place it at the foot of the bed. 3) Straighten the pillows. 4) Pet the kitty, who may even be on a part of the bed you didn't have to disturb.
My least favorite part of making a bed was draping and evening the loose sheet and folding it over "just right". It took me forever cuz I'm anal about that sort of thing, so I just never made my bed.
Now I just fold the loose sheet and blanket and stack them neatly in the middle or at the foot of the bed, on top of the exposed fitted cover. It looks neat (almost in a zen/ asian way). I don't have pets, and it's not too dusty in the house, plus I usually swipe particles/ sand off of the bed before I get in anyway, so I'm not worried about not having the fitted sheet covered.
I actually like being able to air out the fitted sheet and I love the sharpness and crispiness of shaking out nicely folded sheets each night. Plus it takes me all of about 45 seconds to make the bed.
I dont tend to make a big mess in bed, just a corner flipped back and forth as I climb in an out. I love how nicer my place looks (its a studio) when the bed is made!!
I went from never to always making my bed. And yes, it makes me happy and inspires me to get up and DO things. Like make an amazing breakfast. :)
I have been making the bed every day since I moved into our new apartment in April and it makes me feel so good. It translated to doing the dishes and cleaning the surfaces in the kitchen and bathroom before I leave the house. It's so nice to come home after work to such a calming environment. I highly recommend it to everyone!
Many years ago I read (can't recall where) that there is a relationship between depression and an unmade bed. Not only is a depressed person unmotivated to make the bed, but leaving the bed unmade actually fosters depression. I've made the effort every day for all these years - with the very occasional choice to forgo it because I'm in a terrible rush to get out the door. It does give me a little lift. I find that making sure the dishes are done and the kitchen counters cleaned before I go to sleep at night has a similar effect. It's refreshing to enter a nice clean kitchen in the morning, and conversely, a let down to find a pile of yesterday's dirty dishes in the sink.
If the bed is left unmade it makes me feel unsettled looking at it. Making my bed is a fast and east way to get a little peace of mind and the feeling that I have a bit of control in a hectic day.
My husband and I have a rule that whoever gets up last has to make the bed. It is a nice gesture to the poor schmuck(usually me) who gets up first and keeps the kids quiet so that the other parent can sleep in.
making the bed is a great habit, but AFTER you have pulled back the sheets and blankets and aired it out! A warm and moist (eww) bed, if you sweat, is a fine breeding ground for lots of unsavory things --> dust mites, bacteria, etc. So, do make that bed, just air it out while you brew your coffee or tea, first!
Not making your bed, however, can be healthier. A number of magazines and talk show blurbs awhile back had been commenting on a Kingston University study: if you leave your bed open to air out and dry, you can cut down on the potential for dust mites and allergens.BUT, I do feel better mentally, so if I have to leave early, I make it when I get home, or if I leave late in the morning, making my bed is the last thing I do.
WHERE CAN I GET THE BED IN THE PICTURE!! It's just what I've been looking for. And I PROMISE to make it EVERY day!
correlation doesn't mean causality. it's more likely that people who make their bed are by nature more productive, not that their productivity is caused by making the bed.
There's even more to it. In the midst of a miserable divorce, I thought I was saving precious energy by skipping making my bed. Then I read an article on divorce and sadness that mentioned how many people quit making their beds. The article made the point that making your bed starts you off in your day with a sense of control and accomplishment that energizes you to go on to other mini-points of control and accomplishment in your day. It worked for me and I recommend it for others.
Totally agree. I've made my bed since high school - and was the only one in my family to do so. A while ago I slipped up and stopped doing it, and noticed I was grumpy when I finally went to bed and would toss my clothes on the floor. A few months ago I was back to the habit and what a difference! A refreshing haven at the end of the day and I don't throw my clothes on the floor anymore.
I am a convert to making the bed. I just have a duvet and during the day it's folded half way down the bed after allowing the bed to 'breathe' while I make tea, pillows are puffed up and it's ready to go at night. Love it.
I've tried both ways -- making the bed regularly and leaving it unmade (I live alone, so there's no significant other or children to object) and it doesn't seem to have affected my happiness level or my inclination to stick to a budget.
Making my own meals, however, has become a great pleasure for me! And washing the dishes is essential; I never leave a big pile in the sink.
Anything that isn't 100% necessary to get me out the door just can't be a part of my morning routine. I'm very slow -- glacially slow -- to wake up and usually kill most of my time groggily getting into a sitting position while blinking and making morning noises. This usually leaves me with 5 minutes to brush my teeth, put in my contacts, fix my bedhead, and throw on clothes.
If I had extra time in the morning, I would put on my make-up at home instead of applying whatever is in my purse at stop lights. I would consider showering in the morning instead of at night.
No, who am I kidding, I'd use that extra time to blink and yawn some more.
Making the bed is pointless when you've got a dog who turns right around and makes a nest out of the covers and pillows.
Also, correlation does not equal causation.
I agree. I moved to a new apartment almost three months and have been making my bed every day. It's a studio, so the bed is somewhat of an unavoidable focal point. I feel relieved when I come home from work to my tidy apartment. On the few occasions when I have been "too rushed" in the morning to bother, I feel noticeably frazzled when I enter and see my disheveled living space.
I started doing this a few years ago and now I couldn't imagine not making my bed anymore - esp with living in a smaller/one floor space. It's a simple productive way to start the day. I try to keep my whole house in order as much as possible. It really affects my mood and enables me to feel more calm.
My micro-loft is made so weird, my bed is the first thing you see down the lengthy hallway when I open the door . So it does give me a lift and sweet welcome home to see it neatly made and the large sofa pillows I use as a psuedo headboard. Then I have a large rattan square centered above them, but turned sideways to create a diamond shape. Nice little vignette when I open my front door! (even though the rest of the place may look like a war zone, esp the dining table.)
Did I read that comment correctly, you can't make your bed because your cats were sleeping in the bed still? Omgosh, wake the cats, it's not like they are going to be mad at you, make the bed and I'm sure the cats will cozy back up in the bed.
I cannot fathom leaving my bedroom without making my bed. My room isn't fancy, it's small and has to hold a lot of things but my bed is always made and makes me enjoy my small space more.
@Graylady, when I had a cat I used to pick her up and keep her in one arm and make the bed single-handed then pop her back down where she'd curl up happily.
Absolutely hate an unmade bed, I'll even make the bed in hotels before leaving my room!
Laughing at this because making my bed means flipping back the duvet and fluffing the pillows. Three seconds and done.
But I get the point.
I have to start making my bed. And put away the heap of clothes at the foot of the bed. This really sounds like it would work for me. I'm going to try it.
I sleep on a click clack couch, left in couch mode, with a big fat foam topper for extra comfort. When I get out of bed in the morning I neatly fold the duvet from the bottom sleeping area up onto the back of the couch and leave the whole thing open to air during the day. When I get ready for bed I just flip the covers down and snore away the night. No pets or partners to annoy or be annoyed by, just me to please and this pleases me. I find it makes for a much fresher bed than enclosing the night's staleness. I also leave my window open a tiny bit for extra fresh air.
@gray lady and other cat people. My cats are also the type that love to come cuddle when the alarms goes off. And then stay there when I do manage to get up and take a shower. To still be able to make the bed, I clang their food bowls to tell them it is breakfast time, they come running, I put the food down, then scurry back to the bed to make it before they get back on it. Works for my kitty-filled house :)
Oddly, I tend to agree that mking your bed helps in a very strange way. It does not increase my happiness or productivity throughout the day, though. For me, it's more like a miniature version of cleaning your [home/apartment/room] before leaving for a trip: only because it's so much nicer to come home to a clean space. Since I'm often gone for 12+ hours/day working, coming home should feel NICE, not stressful, and it helps make my retreat feel more welcome.
The first thing I do in a made bed is ruffle everything up, I hate being tucked in. Never understood the desire for a freshly made bed but I'm aware I'm the odd one here.
I make the bed because of the cats. Otherwise they sleep on the sheets and there is black hair everywhere. This way the hair is on the duvet cover.
I always make our bed after first letting it air out. Even when I was recovering from a c-section I did two things every day: make the bed and take a shower. Both acts made me feel so much more, well, human.
Granted the cat makes making the bed difficult, but the real reason I don't make the bed is the beagle. She actually unmakes my bed! Apparently laying the duvet flat instead of in a nice pile is unacceptable to her, so she digs at it until it's back in its appropriate pile of comfortable, where she curls up in a ball, waiting for me to come back home. Sneaky, sneaky beagle.
But I do manage to actually clean up the rest of the place quite nicely, so I have a clean apartment ... except for a beagle nest on my bed. (Note: I have a cheap white IKEA comforter that I wash weekly. Some battles I don't feel like fighting, and a dog on the bed is one of them.)
@ZOEAS. I'm not allowed to take a shower for a week ( on top of not being able to make my bed)
Yeah, not feeling very human these days.
So are olderworker and I alone in our dissent here? I've gone through phases of being a bedmaker and phases of not, and honestly, it makes no difference to me, my mood, or my day.
When I lived in a studio, it was different and having a neatly made bed was VERY important, because it was the first thing I saw upon arriving home, and made the entire place look messy if it was unmade.
But now, with my bedroom at the very back of the apartment? Doesn't bother me at all to leave it unmade unless I have company coming over.
Oversleeping, a bad hair day, a messy coffee table, those things ALL affect my mood in the morning negatively, but honestly, an unmade bed doesn't bug me at all.
But I understand the feeling of "I have this one small habit under control" feeling being so powerful, so if making your bed in the morning works for you, go for it!
Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go tidy up my coffee table while my hair flatiron heats up....
I agree that if you can see you bed from other areas it makes a huge difference if it is made or not. I have moved into an apartment where I can see the bed most of the time (still don't have doors on the room 18 months into renovating) and it does make me feel happy to see it all neat, tidy and inviting.
Simply pulling the doona up and taking a few seconds to arrange a couple of pillows makes me feel more organised and on top of things.
I'll add to the "not making the bed camp". My ex was adamant that the bed be made - every day. I had no strong opinion. When I was on my own, I quit making the bed. It does not both me in the least. As for productivity and bed making; my bed (and dishes) are least likely to get made/washed during the weeks I am under deadline at work. I'd rather take those three minutes and stare blankly at the coffee maker while holding the cat during those weeks.
I found the easiest way to make the bed is to stretch out all my arms and legs while still under the covers to straighten everything out, then just slide out the side and neaten the corner I just exited. Takes 3 seconds, not 3 minutes! =)
Amen!!! I'm a single lady in the City and a few weeks ago, I made it a point to make up my bed every morning--even on the weekends--and has had such a positive impact on the way I see the day and everything in it. It is fabulous. I've missed a day here or there, but nothing consecutive.
My mom always told me that the fastest way to make the house look clean was to make the beds and vacuum. She was so right! Even if the place is a disaster, taking a few short minutes to do those two things makes it feel so much tidier!
As someone who is constantly fighting her own messiness and clutter, making the bed is one way I can add an instant douse of organization and calm. Coming home to a pile of clothes and shoes in the corner with an unmade bed? Disaster and discouragement. Coming home to the same piles with a clean, smooth pretty-looking bed? Ahhh. And smooth sheets are so much nicer to get into that crumpled ones!
I always let the sheets & blankets fall over the foot of the bed in the morning to air out first. Also, can spy with my little eye if they need to be removed & washed that day or not. (I don't need to go into details here.) While they air out I make the coffee shower & dress, get my morning going. Before heading out for errands, meeting clients, etc I go back into the bedroom & make the bed. Have been doing variations of this routine my whole life. Does it make me a happier person, more productive, rich & famous, with fuller hair, whiter teeth, & fresher breath? Not really sure. BUT I know that I always feel good about coming home to a made bed waiting for a refreshing afternoon siesta. THAT makes my afternoon & evening more productive! Falling asleep in the afternoon on top of a fresh made bed, a little breeze fluffing up the curtain sheers at the window- heaven!
When my mom first taught my sister and me to make a bed, at the end when she smoothed and straightened and plumped everything, she said, "here's where you just pride and proud it." That became our family's code word for making the bed -- "did you pride and proud," "we're not leaving until you pride and proud." I still think it every single time I make my bed -- pride and proud, pride and proud.
So yeah, once a made bed is deeply psychologically linked to pride, it affects how I feel if I don't do it. Thanks, mom.
While it's true that correlation does not imply causation, it's also true that changing one thing in a system can instigate change throughout the system. I would guess that doing it mindfully and with intention might make it more effective.
OK everyone, what is linen water? Never heard of it!
When my brother and I were kids, Mom insisted that the beds be made before breakfast. If not made, she would pull the bedding and pillows off the bed and toss them out the window onto the front lawn! It only took once (for each of us) for that humiliating consequence to sink in. Fifty-plus years later, the habit is still in force. I do love coming home to crisp sheets and a tidy bed. I'm not so anal about other housekeeping chores. Thank God for a bi-weekly housekeeper, worth every penny!
I find it mind-boggling that readers of a site dedicated to creating interesting, beautiful living spaces include so many folks who neither make their beds, nor see why it's important. Seems a little like a person who loves to wear beautiful clothes, but never showers! Come on, people grow up!
WHo is the artist who painting that interesting piece over the bed?
I did not start making my bed until late in my 20's and it really did - and still does - make me feel better. Somehow I feel more organized and clear-headed in general. I do like to do it thoroughly though - all sheets straight and neat. There is not much better than coming home to a neat bedroom and crawling into a well-made bed. It's ridiculous but it seems to make the bed more comfortable too. Kind of like how your car seems to run better when it has just had a good wash.
I like to flip back the covers during the day and air the bed out. Smooth the bottom sheet and fluff the pillows and hey presto! Then there's the simple matter of popping in a hot water bottle at night and flipping back the doona (that's an Australian duvet btw)
Sometimes a bed is just a bed.
Unmade or not.
And I see the germaphobes are out in full force with their Nutty Nonsense again. So fascinating the range of things the monkey mind gets hung up on.
I make the bed most mornings. The cat insists upon it. Unlike every other cat I've ever known, who have all enjoyed curling up in the nooks and crannies of the sheets and blankets of an unmade bed, this one prefers flat, smooth surfaces. If the bed isn't made by 7 am (giving me an hour or two to air the bed out), he meows and whines and paces until I make the bed. He hops up to supervise, and leaves the bedroom once I'm done.
It's like living with your own personal drill sergeant.
I often don't make my bed but I like the way it looks made, and have been doing it more. I read somewhere that a woman's grandmother had taught her NOT to make the bed immediately but to throw the covers back and let the bed air out while you do your morning routine and make the bed before you leave the house, She said the early-morning bed might be warm or even damp and might benefit from a good shaking. It makes sense to me.
Parents made me make the bed every day, went to a school that gave demerits for not making your bed....still a bed maker to this day. Also, on a date with this guy, went back to his house for some what I was hoping were going to be sexy times. Went into his bedroom and saw the unmade bed. All I could think about was how many other dates of his ended the same way, getting tossed down onto his rumpled dirty sheets. Totally ruined the possibility of sexy times. So...bed making means getting laid more often!
My mother uses the state of her bed to gauge the state of her day - 'I've not even made my bed yet!' means either she's been really busy and not got round to it or really lazy and not got round to it.
Making the bed is apparently a thing - the clean person on hairpin was encouraging us all to do so in May - http://thehairpin.com/2012/03/ask-a-clean-person-lets-all-make-our-beds-ask-a-clean-person-lets-all-make-our-beds-ask-a-clean-person-lets-all-make-our-beds
Ha! I knew I was on to something. I have always made my bed in the morning since I was a kid. My boyfriend teases me about it but I can't start the day until I have that one little corner of my life neat and tidy.
Under the covers of the well made bed I find I can't live without high quality linens and really attractively chosen colors for the various layers. For me it's not just the well made bed but the well designed bed that really puts me at ease.
If I control little else in my unmatched interior world I can always look to my bed for chaos management satisfaction.
Making the bed is a great start to the day. Initiative moves with you from where you slumber to wherever your day takes you. I actually kind of love making my bed.
I made my bed every day when I was single. Once married, my husband 'gets' that making the bed made was just a normal part of the morning routine. We make it together in the morning and it's a nice couple minutes to discuss if we need to put on the lighter weight sheets, if it's time to shop for new pillows and whose feet the cat slept on ;-)
I am clearly heartless because I toss my sleeping kitties off the bed in the morning and make that sucker almost every single day. The few times I skip it, I am one of those who makes it at night before going to bed. In my small apartment, having things organized and a made bed with a nicely fluffed quilt just makes things feel organized.
I do entirely believe the 'keystone habits' theory. My husband was NOT a bed maker. I forced him to become on, and in that time, he learned to work with a budget, to cook a meal in a short amount of time, and has begun cleaning as he goes, too. It's a slippery slope.
I was a staunch bed-maker until I got married, and my husband didn't see the point or help at all. Eventually, I stopped, too. Time marches on, we got divorced, I got an apartment, we reconciled, I moved back in but in my own room, we built a house...
I still don't bother to make my bed. It has no impact whatsoever on my mood, productivity, or anything else, including the tidiness of the rest of my place. (Which people always say is "immaculate".) If anyone will be touring the house, I make it, and I make it when I wash the linens and replace them (mainly to keep wrinkles from setting.) I like my bed made, but I don't care enough when it's upstairs out of sight (except when I'm in it, getting ready for work or getting ready to go to bed) for me to bother. Plus, I am one of the senior citizens around here -- I have hot flashes and sweat. I not only want my linens to air out but also my memory foam mattress. I time things tightly so I get up, feed the pets, eat, shower, dress and leave as fast as I can... not enough time for the bed to air out nicely before I'm out the door.
I think it's lovely that so many people here are so industrious and care so much about their own space that this ritual is significant to them. But, really, it's very relative and subjective and simply NOT important to everyone, and judging anyone based on your standards, upbringing, or opinions is kind of elitist.
I love a made bed. The room just looks better with a made bed. If I have to sleep in an unmade bed, I swear, I won't sleep good that night. The sleep will be fitful and I will just toss and turn all night (go figure) :=/
I don't have the time/patience to sort through the rest of the comments, so I assume someone already said what I am about to say, but that says "making your bed every morning is correlated with better productivity and stronger skills at sticking with a budget." correlation =/= causation, as they say. It seems kind of obvious that more organized, structured people (like the ones who make and keep a budget, and manage their time efficiently) are also people who will likely make their bed. I mean, that is great if it has a cascading effect for you, and there is no arguing that living in a clean environment can do a LOT for a person's frame of mind, so general tidiness is a good habit to build. But it seems silly to have any expectation that changing a bed could change who you are, and somehow magically make you budget-minded.
Anyway, I don't make my bed, but for me there isn't much to make. I sleep under a comforter, over a fitted sheet, so just straightening out the comforter pretty much does the trick. It is the work of about 5 seconds, though, so I don't really think it counts.
Making the bed makes the bedroom neater-looking but correlation to happiness and productivity is a stretch. If you believe it, though, go you.
@ELIZ love that!
I've always made my bed everyday ever since I was a child.
But I'm kind of a neat freak and like things tidy.
Don't know if it's made me happier. I can't budget to save my life.
Three things my mother taught me: 1. Make your bed as soon as you get up. 2. Brush your hair before breakfast. 3. Put on lipstick before leaving the house.
I make the bed because of the cat. She likes to crawl under the covers to sleep, and it amuses us to see that little lump in the middle of the neatly made bed. This has even motivated my husband to make the bed when I'm running late and don't have time.
A) I like this Gretchen character and I just may buy her book but I'm not prepared to accept that 'impactful' is a real word.
B) Jackie, nice article. To really test out the effectiveness of bed making on happiness and satisfy your scientific critics, you should use an ABA design whereby you intersperse a period of not making your bed, then return to the bed making phase, to monitor the effects.
Sorry I didn't read all the comments but, Sandra Felton, my guru of not being a total slob, says making your bed means the single largest and most intimate piece of furniture in your house, is radiating harmony.
There ya go: we mostly do duvets (comforters I think in the US?) and if you can't be bothered to pull yours up and straighten it, then yeah, you probably have other stuff going on!
"Keystone habits", "pride and proud" - these are my people! I always make the bed, always enjoy the peace of mind it gives me, and always enjoy getting into a tidy, welcoming bed at the end of the day. I am no Martha but to me an unmade bed is downright slatternly.
I rarely make the bed, but my husband (who is retired) makes it every day after I go off to work. Today I made the bed (it's Saturday) and he was shocked - his first thought was that he didn't remember making it but who else would have done it! For some odd reason, it did make me feel good.
This post and the many comments inspired me to "pride and proud" (haha!) my bed over the last few days. I've so enjoyed it! I used to blame my general state of disorganization on my mom precisely because she never forced us to make our beds in the morning. I always thought that somehow the discipline of a set morning routine would have percolated over into other areas of my life. Of course, now that I'm 30 I think I can probably drop the blame since the last 12 years have all been on me!
So far making the bed has had a positive impact on the general cleanliness of my bedroom as I'm far more motivated to keep things off the floor and tidy. :) Yay! I've also felt noticeable moments of happiness and calm both while making the bed and after. So many happy sighs.
I'm glad to see I'm not alone on this subject. I've been a habitual "Daily Bed-Maker" for as long as I can remember (hint, I've been on this rock for more than half a century). There is just something about a properly made bed that brings comfort way before slipping into it. I couldn't agree more with "Carol from York Home".
It takes literally one minute to make the bed before getting dressed and the feeling I get when I leave the bedroom to start the day is worth the effort.
Everything about the bed is important! It's not just limited to the daily making of the bed. My ex used to give me an ear-full every time I stripped and remade the bed (once a week) because it had to be just right! Not only do I rotate the mattress with every linen change I also run the vacuum over it to draw fresh air up through the fabric and then let it sit for a few hours before I put the linens back on. The sheets need to be of a high thread count and without wrinkles. And the pillows I use are the memory foam type that give great neck support. And if that's not anal enough I turn the bed down nightly after dinner (kind of like the service at fancy hotels) which makes it that much more inviting when it's time to get in bed.
I never eat food in bed, although I do enjoy coffee and a crossword puzzle on the weekends... I mean come on, I'm not a complete tool!
Yes, my house is my castle, but I take pride in my bedroom as a sanctuary from the world. As a divorced guy I find it interesting that on those rare occasions when I'm lucky enough to have a woman see my bedroom (during the $0.05 tour of the place before serving a homemade dinner) the fact that the bed is made is always a topic of surprise and appreciation...
I also feel guilty when I stay at hotels if I don't at least put the bed back into some semblance of order before I leave the room.
I make it a point to make my bed every day before I leave the house, cleared up rooms make you think straight at least that's what it does to me
i loved this :)
I can NOT leave the house if my bed is not made!! I broke my toe once a friend came to take me to the hospital, I wouldn't go until my sheets were out of the dryer and bed was made. It is nice to come home to a made bed.
It really irks me when I see an AT post with an unmade bed, just looks messy!
I think I read this post while browsing around after I had recently found this site. Sounded like it was a good idea, but part of me said I wouldn't/couldn't. I read in bed, and I usually have 2 or 3 books going at once. I have cats sharing the bed... But I figured, what the hell, I'll give it a try.
Three weeks later not only is my bed made every day before work, but the sheets get changed more often, and the "neat feeling" has been spreading to my desk. Making the bed every day takes me about 2 minutes, and gives me the same happy feeling as going to bed knowing that the kitchen sink is clean and scrubbed.
They get kicked off the bed while I'm making it--then they nest in my comforter while its on the floor. I boot them off that and finish making the bed and they nestle right in by the decorative pillows. You can't discourage cats--don't even try!
How condescending....if you think making my bed would make me happier!!!!! My home is perfect....as is my housekeeping....it doesn't change my mood!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh, you sound like me! I can't leave the house before vacuuming & mopping kitchen floor...even when I started work at 8am. It's still a ritual....that's why I love going on holiday, as the pressure is off...even though I do tidy!
Also..my friends criticise my tidyness...even my fridge! I like to be tidy...I don't criticise if I their house is untidy!....
Bravo!!!...I'm female & agree with everything you say....look at Tedster. Just back from a weekend in a fab suite in Leeds...of course I tidy the bed, of course I hang the towels up.I am no better than anyone else xx
Bravo!!!...I'm female & agree with everything you say....look at Tedster. Just back from a weekend in a fab suite in Leeds...of course I tidy the bed, of course I hang the towels up.I am no better than anyone else xx
Who doesn't?
Who doesn't?
I often say to my boyfriend that making the bed every morning is like starting your day with order. Everyone knows that clutter and mess causes stress.
Good habits of making the bed takes 3 minutes; its like brushing your teeth or eating breakfast.
My favorite part:
when its time to go to sleep; i cannot wait to jump on the bed and get comfy in it.
xo
@elisesom
For me, the best part of making my bed is coming home to it! The mornings are always a rush and I may take a few moments to make it but not appreciate it.
Coming home to a neatly made bed with beautiful linens feels great and puts me into a relaxed mood instantly. That feeling carries forward and motivates me to do it again the next morning and so on...
Be a grown up - clean up after yourself,feed yourself, produce something - is it the modern parenting style that has created all these people who don't have time to do the basics? What nonsense - if you watch TV, facebook or sit slopping down some starbucks garbage you have time to make your bed!
Get a duvet and fitted sheets - throw them back when you get up and do ablutions ( hopefully you're not such a slob that you don't wash either - open the window,( in germany even when its freezing they do it for 5 minutes) as do I but I live in New Zealand.
Of course healthy and together people cook their own food as well as cleaning up after themselves, people who read this blog are presumably aesthetically minded: the quickest way to make a bedroom look good is to have the largest object in it look good so: get some pretty linen and just shake the duvet/comforter then smooth and square pillows, its not expensive or onerous. Anyone wonder why we in the developed west are so fat? look at our habits!
Now about all those cats you talk about: I've had cats and a small dog all my life but they never sleep on the covers especially of the sofa if they are the dog - always on a rug that can be washed easily and no animal odour suffuses the place.
@DonaldN the same works in reverse--I've deliberately left my house a wreck before going on a date so I couldn't bring him home :)
Okay, okay! I resolve to do my best to make my bed every day. :-)
I LOVE this idea and actually counsel my entrepreneur clients to make their beds every morning. You should hear some of the surprised gasps when I say it, but it's absolutely true that small changes in your head can add up to big results in your world.
When a goal is small (“I can do that!”) it builds confidence. When it is visible (“I can see that!”) it builds faith. To reach big, distant goals, you need confidence and faith. That’s why small, visible goals -- like making your bed in the morning -- can help.
http://www.growthunlimited.org/blog