We just celebrated our first wedding anniversary but our physical belongings had a 6 month jump on the actual marriage — slowly merging and flexing two former Small Cool Entries into a new state of marital bliss...
Before "Wes & Kayla" wrote for Apartment Therapy, Wes and Kayla submitted two separate 1-bedroom apartments to the Small Cool Contest and each had respectable showings. Through a humorous trail of comments, it came out that we were engaged and several readers expressed great interest in seeing the "after" merger of our two spaces. A change of zip code, a bigger apartment, a dog, a wedding, and several months later, we're finally making good on our promise.
We went into our cohabitation with a clear plan: we knew what furniture was staying, going, upgrading, and had a general schedule for the first few months of projects. What surprised us the most is how long it took us to feel fully settled in — nearly a year and a half. No longer is it "his bed" and "her rug," everything feels like "ours" because we talk through every decision... and then redo it if one of us changes his or her mind (usually her). Its all about compromise. Honestly, the only recurring decoration issue that arrises is the height at which to hang artwork: he likes it high, she likes it low, and the house is a mix of both.
We'll be taking you through our entire Brookline home next Tuesday in a full house tour, so stay tuned. In the meantime, we wanted to hear from you about consolidation experiences: good and bad. Any tips for those on the verge of merging with a loved one? Tell us!