Yes, how DARE your rose-and-sunflower-toting friends force you to have a "tacky" apartment for a week. Shame on them for being sweet and attentive guests.

That was kind of harsh. I hate red roses and carnations, but if someone were to bring me a vase of them I'd be gracious and appreciative.

I don't think a $150 vase is a substitute for $10 flowers intended to be a host or hostess gift.

Very ungrateful. Wow

Stunned. Shocked. Do you actually HAVE friends? (Sorry. It's incredibly rude, but someone has to say it.) First, learn to accept gifts graciously. Second, not everyone has $149 to spend on a host/hostess gift -- maybe a wedding gift? Perhaps you can suggest something at a lower price point for regular folks? Similarly, if you are well versed in flowers and what people who are particular about them might prefer, there is a nicer way to share that -- and, who knows, next time you (and others who are picky) could be pleasantly surprised!

@citipearl - my suggestion was more along the lines of "why not just buy a vase with the flowers?" or for the host, "keep a variety of sizes for flowers you might receive."

...yeah. I'm thankfully not on any of your invite lists. I'm brutally picky too, but I am grateful and polite.

Well, so much for it being the thought that counts. If you can't stand the tacky flowers, take them to the nearest hospital or care home. Someone will appreciate them.

On top of it all, I don't evefn like the vase! ;^)

wow - I'm glad a lot of other people said what was on my mind first...

If I was associated with apartmenttherapy I'd be pretty embarrassed by this post. I can't believe it's still up.

People can be so ungrateful...

wow, spoiled much?

IMO, serving takeout for a fancy enough dinner party is tackier than the flowers not matching your color theme or home decor.

On the other hand, I do like the vase. Though I wouldn't spend that much on it.

Holy Cow but you're a bitchy entitled thang! And do you also throw the flowers into the garbage in front of your giving guest to shame them and others into not making the same mistake again? And is the $149 vase "payment" for the take-out you're providing? You're not a snob. You're just a nasty person who can't appreciate the simple gesture of giving a host flowers as a token of appreciation. How did this post even get past the editors?

oh the horror of looking at roses for a week!!!!!!

Can you pass all those roses and sunflowers on to me because I love them, but then I'm a 'tacky person'. I wouldn't however, serve take out to my dinner guests so I guess it evens out, right?

I must be the only one not outraged by this post? I found it mildly amusing. He has an opinion and it's one that his guests are unaware of (until now that is).

I like the vase, by the way.

The vase is great, we have one and you can get it for really cheap now, 75% off retail at DWR.

I hate to lambast you when so many others have already, but I too was shocked by your comments.
I think that its worth pointing out that your guests could feel equally snubbed that you are not preparing the food that you are serving. Still, I am sure that they are grateful for the invitation and opportunity to fellowship. Take a lesson from them and accept the flowers with gratitude.

Well, you DO sound like kinda a diva, but your friends probably already know that about you. And I can tell that you are not THAT ungracious about any unwanted flowers, because you say that you are then "stuck with a tacky apartment for a week". A truly ungracious host would trash the flowers the minute the party was over!

@whoknew
I'm in your camp. Between this and the screechiness of some ppl in the "shoes on or off" and "you can bring around little containers of cooking basics when you go visit your friends!" posts' comments, I'm beginning to think some ppl are really intolerant of personal idiosyncrasies as well as cultural differences. >.>

(And if friendships are so fragile that they can be shattered by the revelation that you think some flowers are tacky, uuhhhhhh....)

The vase is nice! @ngtxtreme, I'm not seeing the discount on the website, is it in stores only? (DWR closed their Philly store, what does this say about the Philly market. orz orz orz)

@whoknew

You might have a higher tolerance for entitlement than the rest of us. :)

Gee, when I host friends for dinner, I usually make sure I have a vase handy in case someone is kind enough to bring flowers. I mean, it's not really that uncommon, is it?

Being prepared for the unexpected is part of what being a host/hostess is about, IMO.

Also, re: takeout, uh, some ppl are not great cooks/fond of cooking, and takeout doesn't have to be crappy Chinese or whatever, so I'm not sure what that's about, either....

your rude remarks are tackier than any flowers you might receive.

Oh c'mon folks, lighten up! I like the vase, but what was this about 75% off? I like that even better!

Here's the thing: The original post was really kind of a diva moment. On the other hand, it was all to show us a vase...

On the other hand, those friends that brought over the tacky red roses and sunflowers probably read that too and I'm sure you made someone feel pretty small for trying to do something nice.

Remember folks, "A blog is like a tattoo not a sticker." (stole that from my friend M, who I always give tacky flowers to)

I don't even know where to start. Let's just say that your expectations are a little, uh, high. $150 for a host(ess) gift??? I don't care if you're a flower snob or not, you sound like a spoiled brat. Frankly, I'd much rather receive an ugly bouquet of flowers (it's the thought, after all) that will be gone in a week, than an ugly vase that I'll have to either store or display for as long as I'm friends with the person who gave it to me. Trust me, your flower-giving friends are doing you a favor.

Everyone on AT cracks me up. Commenters are just as quick to have their opinions as the writers so don't be so harsh. How many times have I read people snub other entries as "not apartment therapy worthy"... the writer was self proclaimed as a flower snob and is entitled to an opinion as the rest of us. Yes its rude but its also hilarious... deal with it and be happy that you have grateful friends and let bygones be bygones.

Obviously he was poking fun at himself. Did he not say that his behavior isn't normal nor gracious? I too hate red roses, and I don't think it's inappropriate to have personal preferences, is it? Get over it. It's a post about a gorgeous, versatile vase.

OBVIOUSLY, it was NOT just about a gorgeous vase -- because the writer injected his abrasive, prick-ly self in the piece at every opportunity. Even calling himself a snob was a way of elevating himself and his "fabulous" taste. Not amusing. Grating, irritating - have no idea why this article was even included on the site other than the gorgeous photos.

Ah this will probably get a little flack, but around here, we have one response for this kind of attitude:

"So tell me, honey, what part of the North are you from?"

@Tissy: *grin*