Just when you thought it was safe to go home again.... Making all messy apartments look good and hailing a new term (for us): compulsive-hoarding syndrome, or disposophobia, Kathleen Fifield's article, The Closet Case, in this month's Elle is a scary, must read. The story of Ron Alford, the founder of Disaster Matters, a "crisis management" company, and the growing number of (mostly) women that he has had to dig out from terminally chaotic and clutter filled apartments. For example:
Julie told me she couldn't remember when the room had gotten so bad that she'd had to close the door and bar everyone - from her boyfriend to the cleaning woman - from ever stepping foot inside. For the past few years, she hasn't even gone in; she sleeps on the couch.
Within the room is a proliferation of mold. When we peek inside, its splattered like black paint along the walls and ceiling.
Yuck! And it gets worse. Ron Alford tells horror stories and calls this room "chump change." Along the way, Fifield examines the roots of disposphobia and even links it to anorexia, mapping out statistics that say disposphobics are 75% women and the tendency often starts during one's 20's and gets worse with age. If all of this is true, then consider this article a hallmark, parallel to the rise in obesity consciousness within the past five years. Hoarding is the obesity of our homes, and it is out of control. MGR




Just a note, it's also geeky boys with collections of comics and books. Those guys that have no clothes but have a new hobby every week and their supplies build up. My boyfriend doesn't consider a closet something that should be accessable on a daily basis. He thinks it's for long-term storage so he stuffs things in our front closet until I can't find anything! He had piles of knitting, clothes, bike gear, stuffed in corners for months.
I am exactly the opposite. I have to keep areas clear, and I get anxious not knowing what exactly is in any piles of stuff. It drives me crazy.
Anyway, do you have any advice for boy hobby hoarders? Or for girls who 1. Want to live with their boyfriends but not the hoarding, and 2. How far can you push a person to stop this behavior without enchroaching on their individual rights?
There is no such thing as someone who is a hoarder, only lazy.