I admit that to some my pronouncements on Density, Structure and Lighting may seem totally contrived.
Forgive the build up. It's really all about creating good Flow.
Flow is that feeling you have when a party is going well: guests mix, enjoy what you're offering, and maintain the buzz of many conversations. You know it when you see and hear it.
Having the right number of guests (density) can get people into each other's personal space so introductions and interactions are natural. Having your party space laid out well (structure) can help keep guests mixing and moving.
Lighting can help set the mood and cue people to relax. Good flow follows...
Flow
As a host or hostess you can help ensure good flow. Once a party's underway:
1. Introduce: Introduce people continuously
2. Serve: Keep drinks and food flowing so no one has to find it
3. Move: Keep yourself moving - don't get stuck at your own party
4. Re-Arrange: Move the odd chair or coffee table whenever necessary
5. Adjust: Change the scene over time, e.g. music up, lights down
You may forget party architecture when you're setting up for your next party, but once it's started remember to support the flow.
Happy Holidays, Billy Mac
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Comments (7)
After having just attended a lavish holiday party thrown by good friends, I have to say I've learned that crowdedness is a real dealbreaker for me. The people were wonderful, the food and drinks plentiful and delicious, the music great, but I could barely move around, much less circulate and visit with all the friends I knew were in there... somewhere. Maybe it's because I'm on the small side, but I find overly dense crowds offputting. I ended up leaving, regretfully, after two hours because I just couldn't handle it any longer.
I've been reading these party posts and wondering exactly who people are inviting to their parties - if I have a party I invite my friends - they have been to my house before, know where everything is and feel at home there - I don't need to show them where the food is or make introductions
What kind of guests are people inviting that haven't been to their house before? (ignoring a house-warming party in a new place of course)
Oh and
"However, people don't really dance to rock, they dance to hip-hop."
If I put hip-hop on at a party my friends were at they would have me sectioned thinking I had gone out of my mind!!
Violetsrose: "What kind of guests are people inviting that haven't been to their house before?"
New friends. Neighbors. Colleagues. Friends of friends. New plus ones.
only my close friends have been to my apartment. if i have a party, i invite at least 30 people who i know but not as closely as the kind of people who bring me food when i am sick.
New people are great at parties. You get to make new friends, have new conversations, learn new things, make new connections, and (possibly) gain new opportunities.
All this advice is good advice. Throwing a successful party isn't easy, or universal. I learned that through trial and error and I'm STILL figuring things out!
"What kind of guests are people inviting that haven't been to their house before?"
I don't invite most people to my house on a regular basis. I can have fairly close friends who have only been over once or twice. Just the way I am.