It's as inevitable as death and taxes: Any bride or groom who's trying to plan a wedding on a budget will eventually take on a number of do-it-yourself projects. Deciding to be your own baker and florist and stationer and DJ–well, it'll save you some cash but it's a lot of work. So I'm going to suggest you change your perception and think of DIY projects as DIT projects: Do it together.
One of the reasons that stress rings so high during wedding planning is that couples (maybe one party more than the other) tend to be overburdened with projects. When you find yourself getting overwhelmed, see if you can turn a solo project into a group one. Make it an event and your friends, family or bridal party will be happy to come along and help out.
Here's how it might look: When the deadline to send out invitations is getting too close for comfort, you might call up your girlfriends and invite them over for a night of cocktails and stuffing envelopes. You're doing it together! What could have been a monotonous wedding chore if you tried to tackle it on your own turns into a fun night with friends and gets the job done in a fraction of the time.
DIT can happen unexpectedly, too. For my wedding last fall, I made the big decision to do all the wedding flowers myself instead of hiring a florist. It was a challenge, to be sure. After the mail-order ranunculus and eucalyptus arrived on Thursday, I put them into water and shuttled them off to our hotel across town. I expected to DIY five bouquets the Saturday morning of the wedding for my bridesmaids, but everyone seemed to get excited at the idea of put together their own. So we lugged out the floral tape and wire and, in between primping our hair and makeup, took turns at the sink flexing our DIT-florist muscles.
Look down your to-do list and see if any of your DIY wedding tasks can be turned into do-it-together moments instead. It will pay off in time, money and, most importantly, your sanity.