Everyone's different, so don't compare, just share.
We really liked the responses we received in our first Sleep Camp Post
two weeks ago and felt that they helped round out the possible solutions. In an effort to sidestep divisiveness, we want to spotlight two very different stories and open the floor for more. Remember, no judgements. It all helps.
What's your story?
Mjoe - No sleep-training story here. My 3 year old is still in my bed. In 2 weeks, he'll have his own bed in his own room, but I expect that transition to be slow, gradual, and relatively drama-free, just like the transition from nursing on demand to night nursing only,... the transition from night nursing to nursing to sleep only, the transition from nursing to sleep to going to sleep with his hand on my breast, and the transition from going to lseep with his hand on my breast to going to sleep lying next to me. I am really ready to begin this transition and get my bed back after 3 yrs, but I am also really going to miss our time together at night. I get to listen to his sleeptalking, which is hilarious (this week: surreal knock-knock jokes) and occasionally he wakes up in the middle of the night to mumble "I love you" and give me a kiss. Beat that!
I have had him "cry it out," but only in the last year, when I was sure he could understand I was not abandoning him. The issue was naptime, not bedtime, and he now puts himself to sleep for naps, no problem. To me, it makes all the difference in the world that he was old enough to understand why I was not responding to his cries.
Matilda - We used Weissbluth at an early age and were the envy of all our friends. While I was pregnant I read all the sleep books because I was so terrified of sleep deprivation - I knew it was a necessary evil for a while, but wanted to get back to a regular schedule as soon as possible. We settled on Weissbluth because for us it seemed the cleanest and most simple. I was afraid we wouldn't be able to really be consistent with Ferber.
What I love now is that when my son does cry in the middle of the night, we know that something is really wrong and don't hesistate to go in. This hasn't happened more than 10x since we completely sleep trained, which was over 2 years ago. My son who is almost three knows bedtime is bedtime, and if he isn't ready to go to sleep he plays quite happily in his bed until he gets tired. Then he just goes to sleep.