Let's All Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice

Let's All Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice

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Jennifer Hunter
May 21, 2015

An unofficial office poll just revealed what you and I both already know: advice about someone else's style is only appropriate when specifically requested; otherwise, it comes across as judgment. So, who likes having friends? Me! That's why I'm trying my best to stop "helping" other people unless they ask. Let's talk about it.

As you might imagine, in real life (as well as around here), I tend to have a lot of ideas about how someone might improve their space. And where do those ideas belong? In my own head, silently floating around. Because how someone decorates (or doesn't decorate) or organizes (or doesn't organize) their own home is none of my business.

I may have opinions about how I would do it, but it's not up to me because I don't live there. I never want someone to feel like they can't invite me into their home lest I get all share-happy with my unsolicited opinions. And, it should go without saying, that my opinions are exactly that: opinions. There is no one right way to do anything.

Still, I know for a fact that many design professionals face this same dilemma every day. It's hard to shift your brain from designer-mode to regular-hanging-out-person mode, even in your own home!

So I want to hear from you: how do you quiet the "fix-it" voices when you just want to play it cool? Tell me!

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