The Emotional Life of the Toddler: Chapters 1 and 2

The Emotional Life of the Toddler: Chapters 1 and 2

Alejandra Valera
Mar 31, 2008

"Living with a child between 1 and 3 years old is an exhilarating experience....Toddlers have the gift of living in the moment and finding wonder in the ordinary. They share those gifts by helping the adults they love to reconnect with the simple pleasures of life. But toddlers have dark moments too" and so begins the first chapter of The Emotional Life of the Toddler.

Hmmm...sounds a bit heavy, but is it? Welcome to the first week of the Ohdeedoh Book Club! Let's share what we thought about the first chapters -- and if you'd like to join us but haven't read the book yet, no worries. We'll be reading two chapters a week and discuss them every Monday so there's still time to jump right in.

In chapter 1, Lieberman tells us the intention of her book is to try to explain why what we see as illogical behavior coming from our toddler is completely logical to them. Whether they are crying because they are hungry only to then refuse any food or wanting you near them only to run away, Lieberman states that this behavior makes perfect sense to our children. Really?

She then goes on to state that this time in your child's life is important because they try to make sense of their simultaneous desire to become independent and their need for your love and protection.

Chapter 2 begins a series of vignettes, which run through the entire book, that Lieberman dissects and explains the "whys" behind them. The vignettes show snippets of various toddlers' lives and circumstances some of us have already experienced with our children.

In this chapter, she also writes of the toddler's need for perfection, how parents serve as a secure base in their world and developmental stages occurring during toddlerhood. *whew*

Well, what do you make of the first two chapters?

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