Our sister sites The Kitchn and Re-Nest have done it, and now we're hopping on the literary bandwagon. We would love to start a book club and read something new, exchange ideas and build more community here at Ohdeedoh.
We have three ideas for our first book. Each book covers a completely different topic, yet all three are intriguing as they discuss the behavior of adolescent girls, the emotions of a toddler and the handicap that rewards give children. The books are Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn, Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia Lieberman, Ph. D. and Reviving Ophelia by Mary Pipher, Ph. D. Below is a brief description of each book...
Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls
From her work as a psychotherapist for adolescent females, Pipher here posits and persuasively argues her thesis that today's teenaged girls are coming of age in "a girl-poisoning culture." Backed by anecdotal evidence and research findings, she suggests that, despite the advances of feminism, young women continue to be victims of abuse, self-mutilation (e.g., anorexia), consumerism and media pressure to conform to others' ideals. With sympathy and focus she cites case histories to illustrate the struggles required of adolescent girls to maintain a sense of themselves among the mixed messages they receive from society, their schools and, often, their families. -- From Publishers Weekly
Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes
This book is an intelligent and serious examination of the negative effects of rewards. Kohn gives considerable evidence that the use of rewards is unjustifiable and counter-productive, especially in reinforcing behaviour which is inherently interesting and involve creativity. He suggests that encouragement, cooperation and matter-of-fact feedback are far more effective. -- Miranda Hughes, SNOBCI Journal
The Emotional Life of the Toddler
Any parent who has followed an active toddler around for a day knows that a child of this age is a whirlwind of explosive, contradictory, and ever-changing emotions. Many books cover the physical and cognitive abilities of the toddler, but Lieberman's is the first to offer an in-depth examination of the varied and intense emotional life of children from ages one to three...The author discusses how a child can be helped to achieve a balance between these conflicting desires, to feel both confident and outgoing as well as protected and comforted when necessary. Lieberman also provides fascinating new material on how children's different temperaments express themselves during the toddler years and how parents can better match their own temperaments to their child's. -- From Simon & Schuster
Well gang, what do you think?