The Very Welcoming Host: Do You Let Platonic Houseguests Share Your Bed?

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I recently visited the West Coast for a week, and was lucky enough to be put up by two dear — and dearly missed — friends. In both instances, though there were couches available, my friends kindly offered me half of their full-size beds, and I gratefully accepted. It was all perfectly innocent, of course, but it got me thinking: do you ever let guests sleep in your bed with you?

Summer travel is behind us, but the holiday travel season will arrive sooner than we think. Many of us will be criss-crossing the country and the world, staying in hotels if we can afford it or crashing with friends and family if we can't (or if we just prefer the camaraderie and coziness). Of course having a guest room to yourself is fabulous, but I have spent many holidays sleeping on couches and floors or sharing one of the precious few beds with strangers (such as my cousin's girlfriend, who later became my best friend). You may also be on the other end of the exchange, welcoming travel-weary loved ones into your home and hosting them as best you can. The lucky ones among us have the same number of guests and beds, but the rest have to squeeze them in wherever we can. Foldout couches and air mattresses help, but sometimes the most comfortable and civilized sleeping spot to offer your guest is half of your bed.

I like to think of it as a slumber party for grown-ups, a rare chance to get snuggled up in bed with your friends, chat late into the night, and fall asleep watching 13 Going On 30 and Friends With Benefits. It seems that proper grown-ups are "supposed to" be able to always afford hotel rooms and would never dream of crashing at their friend's place — but I think those grown-ups are missing out. Sharing a bed in a completely non-romantic, non-sexual way can be really lovely and sweet — and I must admit, I slept like a baby all week.

Do you ever let your houseguests share your bed?

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