Things You Can Only Learn About Yourself After You Live With Other People

Things You Can Only Learn About Yourself After You Live With Other People

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Adrienne Breaux
Jul 25, 2015

Living alone is full of advantages. For many, it's not just a living preference, it's a living must-have. And anyone who's ever gone through roommate battles knows just how frustrating sharing a space can be. But living with someone comes with its own pleasures like always having someone to talk to and someone to help share in chores. It's also a way to put a mirror up to yourself — there are things you can learn about yourself only after having lived with someone else.

Why would you ever want to learn the kind of lessons that only come to light after you share your living space with someone else? Chances are at some point you'll either find love and move in with someone or need to share a living space for financial reasons. Paying attention to these things you can learn about yourself means bettering yourself as a person and as a potential future roommate.

The habits you might need to develop (or break)

When you live alone, you don't always notice the little things that you do that make living in your space less than ideal. You might not notice you always leave the cabinet doors open. Or that you leave food in your fridge way too long. And so on and so on. One of the benefits (as well as annoyances) of living with someone is that they will sometimes (hopefully graciously, and not at a loud yelling voice) let you know what some of your not-so-pleasant cleaning habits are. These valuable pieces of information about yourself might sting at first, but they may help highlight things about your cleaning habits you need to change, and that just might make your future homes nicer places to live in for yourself (and others).

Whether you're too noisy in the morning or at night

If you live by yourself, you might not realize you slam all the cabinet doors in the morning getting ready. Or that you bump into all the things when you come home late at night. If you live in a house separate from other people and live by yourself — no problem! Be as loud as you want. But if you live in close proximity to neighbors, a roommate can help give you hints at when your noise levels might be being inconsiderate. This knowledge you can take with you from home to home to make for better relations between future neighbors to partners and more.

What cleaning habits are your deal breakers

Living with someone else can also make something quite clear: What is and isn't acceptable in terms of cleaning (or rather, lack of cleaning) to you. This is usually found out when you live with a roommate who has far different cleaning schedule and values than you. But while living with someone with different cleaning opinions as you can be annoying, the darn near inventive ways some people can be messy can be eye-opening to you — and help you develop the kind of ground rules you want to establish for yourself and your home in the future.

What lessons have you learned about yourself, how you live, home and more after living with a roommate or partner? How have those lessons made a difference in your current home?

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