What's the best gift you can give to a generous host? A compliment. (Although wine has to be a close second!) We all know how good it feels when a guest praises our taste. Make it a habit to spread the love the next time you're invited to a friend's home, and let's see if we can start a movement.
I became a chronic complimenter after hosting a couples' game night late last summer. After a guest noticed our new curtains, a few other friends chimed in with other sweet things to say: "Your apartment always looks so great," "I wish my place looked like this."
Frankly, it felt great. But I was also taken aback. Each of these friends has their own amazing style that I had admired—quietly—for years. Ever since that night, I made it my mission to tell them so. As loudly and as often as possible.
The key here is to be sincere. Nobody is saying you should go full Regina George and compliment something you actually hate. But when you decide to start living like a complimenter, this stuff will come naturally.
It could be something you've always admired about their home but never felt the need to note out loud, or maybe it's a beautiful something new you spotted in their space. The goal is just to get this sort of admiration out of our heads and into the ears of the people who want to hear them. Even a gesture as small as noticing the new dish towels can go a long way—after all, it's possible your host spent hours picking out just the right rag.
Hopefully, the praise will come back to you, so you can see your beautiful home for what it is through another person's eyes. So let's spread those domestic good feelings all around and start a wave of warm fuzzies.