What? We know what you're thinking: Ridiculous. It's not like I'm Mary Poppins and I can clap and the room will straighten itself out. If I do nothing, this home will become even more of a disaster than it already is. We know it sounds crazy, but trust us.
There is a practice in yoga called mindfulness. It is the process of observing, without judgment, what your body is doing and feeling. Dieters are often counseled to keep a food journal for a month before they begin a regime, observing what they eat and what they were feeling at the time. In the same way, the process of decluttering begins by doing nothing.
Before you clean out a drawer or trying a new filing system or buy a set of baskets, observe yourself and your habits. Where do you open the mail? Do you open it immediately or does it sit for days before you get up the courage to look at the credit card statement? Where do you put the bills? Do you put your clothes away at night when you take them off or let them pile up on your bedroom chair? Are you always finding half drunk cups of coffee on a certain table? Watch your behaviour and notice your resistance and the random thoughts that come up for you.
Personally, I often balk at putting my clothes away. I realized that I procrastinated because my closet was so stuffed that it called for a whole lot of rearranging to be able to put something back. My decluttering would have to start with a trick or two to figure out what to toss. My to file pile kept getting bigger until a professional organizer taught me a trick for simplifying it down to a few categories, making that task a whole lot faster. Once you know your habits, you can work with them to develop a consistent system of decluttering that takes your natural tendencies into account.
[image: Dana's Yellowtrace Sydney Apartment]

Comments (19)
I would add something: while not doing anything, you should also not BUY anything. :)
Great thought for a post, Abby. I love the idea of mindfulness before attacking a project with too many sticky labels and good intentions, but not enough insight into our habits. I tend to jump into my organization full of zeal and then later realize that the system did not work. Scratch that and try again. I am learning to be more thoughtful though.
A great book for this is "Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui" by Karen Kingston.
Abby - What were the categories for filing the professional organizer taught you?
I need to stop buying things- right on.
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Whenever I declutter I try to be most mindful of what I don't need. The actual decluttering always starts with a purge--that way I'm not trying to organize things I don't need to have space for. I often find that my original organization still works once I get rid of stuff I didn't need or want. It also reminds me to be more mindful of what I buy.
I posted in my own blog about a similar solution recently: http://citylivingsmall.com/2010/03/29/bye-bye-dishes
I found I always avoid washing the dishes, and came to realize it was because I had too many, and let them stack up too far.
After giving most of the dishes away, I feel very relieved!
I have a huge problem with letting clothing pile up on my computer chair and elsewhere. It instantly makes my 10'X10' room look messy.
Abby, I love your post! Thanks for these great tips. Taking time to be mindful of how our minds work will ultimately save time, joy & brain cells and reduce stress!
I have two questions:
(1) What were decluttering tricks you used in your closet?
(2) What did your professional organizer teach you about simplifying your filing with a few categories?
Plllllease do tell! ;-)
Great post.
I am one that always buys things to "get organized" and then all those things become part of the clutter rather than the solution to the clutter.
For me, watching Hoarders, puts things in perspective, scares the hell out of me, and next thing I know....I'm getting rid of things left and right.
I find the best way to eliminate domestic detritus is to continually purge your space of anything you absolutely do not need. I used to have stacks of bills on the coffee table, but all of my correspondence is now digital. I recently donated all the clothes I don't/cant wear anymore, and packed away the winter bulkiness in boxes under the bed. Books can be donated, I keep a few sentimental books, but on the whole I don't see the point of collecting and displaying every book I've read. CD/DVD cases taking up valuable storage? Put them in a CD catalog and ditch the packaging, no one will ever miss them.
JKCity- agree on the dishes! We canceled our china registry when we were engaged, and despite the dire warnings of the family, we've never missed it. Instead, we used hand me down dishes for two and a half years until we found a setting we liked, and then we bought four place settings. This is just right for us. (We have a set of Wedgewood that was a hand me down that we love for big parties.)
@rayma: indeed. Buying crap won't make you organized -- you have to come up with solutions, then actually execute them, and the tools are almost immaterial.
I wholeheartedly agree re: considering your habits and proclivities. I just had a brainwave, moved my dish drainer to the other side of my sink, and it's solved like three other problems. (Then again, I'm clearly an idiot, so my opinions can't be trusted, can they?) I also recommend enlisting the aid of a problem-solving friend. Someone blunt, who doesn't hug you after a bad day, just launches into "okay, here's what you do" mode. Someone whose natural inclination is to pick things apart and rewire them to work better. For me, this person is my ex-husband. He's a poor choice for a shoulder to cry on, but when I need a concrete solution to a concrete problem, he is totally boss.
Shanalulu - I'm glad to hear someone out there likes people like me! I'll give it to you straight, if you ask for it. ;) Only to help, of course.
This post could not have come at a better time. I just called my mom at lunch today and asked her to come over and help me dive into spring cleaning mode, and prepare for a yard sale. P.S. She begged me last week to give her a project at my house (empty-nest-syndrome-alert), and I will definitely use the advice I have gathered from this post and all your comments.
jkcity - on that same note, I realized I only do laundry once a month because I have too many towels and clothes. While this is better for the environment that I am not laundering so often, it creates the bigger problem of me forgetting that I own fabulous clothes, because they have been in the dirty clothes hamper for a long while, so I go out and buy more, which is NOT good for the environment.
I'm motivated to reflect and purge now. Thanks, friends!
I usually am able to keep clutter-free, until I get really busy. Then the clutter takes over, and I'm so disheartened by the clutter, that I stop putting away things I would usually.
Luckily, it only happens every few months...
Hi my name is Kindle and I also am a clutter queen...lol
Well Abbs, at least you have a reason for not putting your clothes up. I just strip when I get home from work, bra on the couch, shoes by the door, clothes on room chair or floor. ...
In an effort to declutter, I am giving them all away and buying new, that oughta fix things...lol
I am a compulsive hoarder . . . of shopping bags. Some are up to 20 years old, from stores that I used to love. There are bags from trips, presents, Trader Joe's, that would be good if I had a lot to transport, etc. If anyone has any suggestions, I would appreciate reading them.
Swimmer1953, why don't you frame those old bags, turning them into art instead of clutter? You could make a really cool hallway series or living room grouping. For the smaller ones, I would put them in a collage. While I myself would probably cut out one side of the bag to frame, you could always just use a shadowbox for the whole bag if you can't bring yourself to destroy the bigger or more precious 20 year old bags.
FFB4MD -- I have actually been thinking about doing something like that. Thank you for the idea and also for not laughing. I love AT and have been here for about a year, although these are my first postings. Count me as someone else who mourns for Domino.
Swimmer1953,
have you thought about using them as wrapping paper? I always thought that even a plain brown paper bag used as wrapping paper looks nicer than store-bought.
Also, think of the decoupage options you have!! You can get small wooden boxes at crafts stores, or you could get small glasses from thrift stores...all sorts of things to do with paper!
You could also cut them into strips and weave them into placemats/ trivets--covering them with clear Con-Tac paper to make them waterproof.
Check out Martha Stewart for more ideas! I'm excited for your upcoming projects!