
I was talking to a friend who's about to decorate her first home. She asked me if there was anything I wish I'd known when I went to decorate my first place that would have saved me time or money. There are a few things...
1. Buy your big pieces of furniture secondhand: This is not just about saving money, it's also about how your style will change as you learn what you like and don't like. Don't spend a lot on a piece by justifying that it's a piece you've always wanted and an investment in your future. The likelihood is that your style will go through three or four metamorphoses before it settles into something that's you.
2. Reconsider before you reject: When you move into your first place, people will often be so excited for you that they'll want to gift you with some of their old stuff (or they may just be trying to get rid of it!). Before you turn up your nose at it or toss it, make a list of inexpensive changes you might make to it. You might reupholster an old couch or paint its frame a shocking pink, remove a skirt or add a pillow or six. Not only will this save you money, it will hone your ability to look at a piece in a flea market or antique shop and see its potential.
3. Inspiration boards are not always good for decorating your first space: I know that goes against everything we're always talking about but I've found that trying to recreate someone else's room in your first space, a space that will go through a lot of transitions, ends up costing you a lot in time and money.
4. Embrace the serendipity: Your first home will not be perfect. There will be odd chairs around your table, a couch that's a lot fussier than your ideal -- and that is exactly how it should be. You're learning what you like to live with, not just what you like in a picture.
5. Paint is your best friend: You can paint a wall or a piece of furniture, dip the legs of your mismatched chairs in paint to unify them or paint a block of color behind your bed to act as a faux headboard.
6. Accent walls are your decor secret: You don't have to paint the whole room. One wall is plenty and as much as most people have patience for. It's also easy to change it up if you get bored or don't like the color.
7. Friday is move your furniture around day: Okay, maybe not every Friday but at least once every few weeks try a new arrangement. Sometimes the most unexpected arrangements work the best. This is great fun to do with friends!
8. Let your home annoy you: It's tempting, after a day of looking at decor mags and blogs, to want to fix everything in your apartment, especially when it comes to storage issues. But instead of trying to solve it immediately (which usually involves buying a lot of storage containers), live with the problem for a while. Often you'll happen upon a better solution that will end up being cheaper and simpler. Which brings me to the biggest lesson.
9. Live with as little as you can. It's tempting, when you first live alone to want to get all that stuff you've been eyeing for ages. Yes, you may be a home decor nut but, instead of buying every pillow and flowerpot you see, take a picture of it, pin it to your Pinterest board or post it on your blog. Just wait a few years or a few months and your home will have accumulated plenty and you'll spend weekends trying to cull it. Embrace the minimal while you can.
Image: Hilda Grahnat from Hilda's Sunny Swedish Highrise

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Just moved into our first place this past spring. Still trying to figure out our "home." #5 was big early on. That and carpetting (necesary in our condo) went a long, long way to making this place our own. Now we are wrangling with #9...
I'm in my first home. It's beautiful but I feel like it's too sterile. Meaning zero personalization. What can I do to spruce it up? I absolutely detest clutter so thats why I'm so hesitant...
I agreed with everything you said here, Abby. Paint is a great solution, ONLY if you are allowed. If not, I recommend hanging different colors of paintings to add to the white walls.
Definitely agree with the second-hand point!
I bought a big new bed frame when I was still living at home, thinking it was my dream bed frame and it would suit any apartment I moved into..
cut to today.. in my first place.. despise my bed frame.. doesn't coordinate and sticks out like a sore thumb.
I am actually considering taking it back to my parent's house for one of their guest rooms, and finding a second-hand frame that suits my apartment.
Bought my big blue couch used.. for a bargain.. and LOVE every inch of it. Also made my coffee table and desk from scrap legs/tops.. love them too and they cost about $50 total for both!
Oh my gosh. I'm so glad I didn't know anything when I decorated my first home. If I'd been a design addict back when I decorated my first home, before the age of craigslist, I'd have spent half a million dollars buying everything off a showroom floor. Whew! Thank goodness for small favors.
I fully agree with #1- These have turned out to be my most favorite items (perhaps because of the great deal)!
I seized an opportunity when the parents of a friend were dumping their old leather couch. I cleaned it up and patched some holes in it and it's the most comfiest couch ever!
Also TV sales are at an all time low so craigslist is a great option to get current models.
Definitely #1!! I'm in my second home, and I cringe when I think of all the expensive furniture I purchased and ended up getting rid of b/c I decided it wasn't my style.
I've lived in/fussed over a lot of homes and remodeled one. Your list is fantastic. It took me a long (long) time to understand that I'm happiest and my guests are most impressed when my house just looks like *my* house, not like someone else's house.
Clean and decluttered and a couple of things you love (they can be small things) and you're 90% of the way there. The other 10% will unfold as time/budget permits.
I always have had good luck with getting the floor plan of my new place (whether rented or owned) and playing with arrangements on paper before moving in. (I'm good at that -- it might be more of a problem for those who aren't, but if you take careful measurements and use graph paper if necessary to make cutouts of big furniture, it can still be worth the trouble, particularly if things are heavy!)
If you think carefully about what you need to do in a space (watch tv without glare from the window, position the bed so the door swings past not into it, etc.) you can often bring in the furnishings you have and put them in the "right" place from the start.
It also helps pinpoint what you are missing. ("I need a surface for my microwave that fits into this corner and has a shelf underneath for my pans...") Which is immeasureably helpful when bargain hunting for "Finds".
After that, I definitely agree to shop second-hand -- I got two mid century side chairs that way maybe 20 years ago now. I considered them temporary, but they fit the color scheme and are comfortable, and so they are still in use. You never know! But if you DO want to change later, second hand is usually cheaper (not talking antiques, here!) and therefore can be swapped out and upgraded to "perfection" when circumstances permit.
The other comment I have is to be realistic. I watch House Hunters sometimes, and see first-time home shoppers demanding absolute perfection, granite and hardwood and everything they ever wanted for half the market value. Things it would be a miracle to achieve. Same with furnishings and decor. If you earn in six figures, maybe it is realistic for you to dream big and buy everything you adore brand new on day one. Highly unlikely, though. So realize that settling for less to start with is a challenge to be creative and imaginative, and that you can substitute in ways that don't undermine your aesthetic -- but it might take more work and patience.
If it weren't for number 2, my house would still be half empty. I'm lucky to have some incredibly generous relatives with good taste and too much furniture. Some of it I'm "holding" and some is mine to keep. The downside, it's not prudent/in the budget to get rid of the big red couch and chair and a half that aren't my style, but are oh so comfortable. (Still going to get rid of the oversized chair soon, though. After two years, I've decided it's way too big for my space. I can work around the couch....
Also, I totally recommend moving furniture around a lot, usually on a whim. I FINALLY found the right set-up for my bedroom this week, after two years in my house.
Definitely #8 is my very favorite and I totally agree... After being annoyed for a while one day you may just dream about an alternative and it will fit perfectly...
I like #9. I've been living in my house for 2 years and I'm only now really starting to realize what I like. Take your time to find pieces that you really love, rather than going out and buying everything in sight at Home Goods when you move in.
#6 - Now, is there such as thing as TOO many accent walls? So far both my boys have one in their rooms, my living room has a red accent wall and I'm in debate with my husband about our room having one too. I'm saying enough is enough, but he's all for it.
When it comes to #5 - just TRY it - take the jump and DO it. So many people hold back for fear of it being 'wrong' but hey, do a solid first coat, and if you're offended, then go get another can and try again. It's NOT as much work as you think and if you do a great job sanding/filling holes then painting is a breeze. And TAPE OFF THINGS if you don't know how to cut in. don't be a hero.
While I agree with most of what is said here, I'm torn about nr2. People ditch an awful lot of garbage (they may call it stuff) on you when you move from a 55 square meter apartment to a real house with double the size. If you let them, it becomes double the size, quadruple the junk. My new motto is to seriously consider each item that is offered to me, but never ever hesitate to politely say no. Being free isn't a quality, it's just free, and it doesn't turn something ugly into something beautiful.
Still, I have the most beautiful bronze floor lamp that my grand-parents weren't using anymore and an amazing pair of 19th century chairs from my parents in law; but I refused mismatched china, various knifes and cooking tools I don't need, several used but still good pans, and a beautiful but completely useless sewing table (still hoping to find a place for it though).
Pick a favorite thing about a favorite room and find a way to bring it into the others ... We have a stunning conferred ceiling in the living room, so we decided to put up a tin ceiling in the kitchen. We have a large, pretty chandelier in the dining room now, to which we'll be adding a medallion and then ornate molding around the rest of the ceiling. 3 different styles of ceilings throughout our downstairs, but it's a common thread and each hold their own in a 100+ year old house. Everything else has happened pretty organically as we've settled in. Definitely don't rush it!
I agree with moving stuff around to play with different arrangements. I am always looking for better ways to utilize our space.
Rugs are my biggest issue so we have held off until we found what we liked and sales.
I have an obsession with wing back chairs and used Craig's List like crazy. Finally found two chairs with an ottoman for $50. Yes the fabric is faded and the chairs are too big for slipcovers, but one day I will reupholster them. The frames are solid and they are perfect. I did get quotes and for all there pieces including fabric I was told it would be about $1000-$1100. I do not think that unreasonable for pieces I have no intention of getting rid of for a long time. They are wonderful reading chairs.
Not everyone's taste changes. It's important to buy quality pieces. I ordered a pair of velvet covered love seats from Henredon for my first home, and they have worked in every home since, from a 7,500 sq ft house to a 696 st condo, and everything in between.
My dining table, a glass topped pedestal, was in my first dining room. It is a race track oval that seats six, and I intended to move it to an eat in kitchen eventually. Instead, it has been in my dining room all these years. I originally had upholstered dining chairs. Those I have replaced with upholstered chairs from Ebay. I still have my original desk and chairs. Hell, I still have the first piece of furniture I ever bought, in college. It was a small round table, and today it is my bedside table. I love it as much now as the first time I saw it.
My mother taught we the value of good furniture. My child's room was a suite of twelve pieces of Henredon. Six of those pieces were four chests with two toppers. Though they were spread out in my room as a child, today I use them together as a 123" entertainment center. She always told me the furniture would go with me to my first home, so I got off on the right foot.
I'm furnishing my 2nd house. Couldn't afford new furniture when we went from apartment to house #1, so made do with hand me downs, etc for the first 13 years of marriage. Back then we couldn't agree on styles, colors etc. Now we want timeless, and comfort as we age. Price is a big consideration, new bedroom set in exchange for far less costly dining room. Both fit our tastes.
So glad we waited.
Thanks that was really helpful..You are right about buying all that you dreamed of .. i am relocating to a new place and I already have a huge list of things I want to buy.. after reading your post i think i ll take your advice n wait before i spend money like crazy!! ;)
Find out what colors you REALLY like - I thought I loved red and painted an entire room a beautiful red that I absolutely could not live with! I realized just because you love wearing a certain color it does not mean you like sitting and staring at it... now my house is neutral, neutral, neutral and I love it!
@Alyssak: try to find beautiful, special items which are useful. Instead of having pretty, but useless clutter, you will have pretty, useful stuff. Like a great tea service from the fleamarket. Or a beautiful mirror you found while on holidays. A handmade throw for cold winter nights... and so on. Old, handmade and unique stuff has more character, so look out for things like these, they will warm up your space quickly.
I'm all about finding second hand furniture when you can but some things like mattresses and sofas I cannot and will not buy used.
Some people might think sofas are okay to buy used- but i live in Brooklyn where the bed bug plague has made it downright dangerous to buy upholstered furniture second hand. If you fall victim to an infestation that $100 sofa might end up costing you much more than it would have to buy it retail.
Having said that- take your time and hunt for the perfect piece. Don't find a sofa in a catalogue and instantly fall in love. Go to the stores- In New York it's easy to hop from Crate & Barrell to West Elm to Macy's etc.
I fell in love with a Crate & Barrel sofa in a catalog that was out of my price range but I thought I was going to scrimp and save for it anyway. When I actually went and sat on it I realized it was not for me at all.
I ended up finding a very similar style at Macy's that was on sale for half the price and 100x more comfortable.
not listening to others tell you what you SHOULD have in your home. i'd have gone broke with all the suggestions. also what others recommend may not be what you're about. it should reflect the real you, not the fantasy you, or another person's life.
I move my furniture around almost weekly! ha! My poor husband never knows where he's going to sleep or eat. :)
Resist the temptation to go the cheap route and buy MDF/particle board anything. It's better to go without and wait until you can buy something solid.
I would add, don't feel the pressure to spend money/time/effort on anything unless you are 100% - especially within the first year you are in a new home.
This is the reason we lived for 6 months with a plywood floor in the bathroom and 10 months without a bathroom sink, (bending over the tub to brush our teeth in the morning!) But a year later, we had the bathroom we wanted and everything was paid in cash :)
If we had rushed to pick out a sink I would be very unhappy now with our decision.
I also would like to add, we didn't go to TJMaxx or HomeGoods or Target for a long time after we moved in to our home. I'm glad I didn't get overly excited to fill our house with STUFF. After restraining myself that long, it became clear what I really wanted/needed, instead of running out to the store with every whim!
This is splendid advice. Your friend is lucky to have you!
Very good advice!! We bought a few expensive pieces (back when we had salaries, haha), that've traveled with us, through style changes. Stay neutral if you are going to buy big pieces (or if someone is wedding gifting you).
I totally echo the stay simple rule!
#10 In 20 years you will still own those cheap bookcases/end tables/ chairs etc. that you bought just to tide you over until you could afford something better. (Even if you have bought 'something better', by then). So be careful what you bring into your space.
i think taking second hand things when you can is great advice, you can always get something different when you find it later on. Im still yet to have a house all of my own and from living with other people ive learnt that you can just merge your individual styles, youll end up something that doesnt blend and nobody will be happy. second time round ive found finding a style you both like is most important and makes for a happier house.
If it's second hand, and it's been through a few owners, chances are, it was built to last. It can always be altered by paint, fabric or paper to suit your 'taste'. Environmental too.
@Alyssak, a huge piece of art or a wall hanging (if budget is tight, a large silk scarf or something like that) can give you that pop of colour & mood and take away that sterile feel.
The day will come when those dissing MDF/particle board will look at their fine, all wood, HEAVY furnishings as massive obstacles to an elderly, possibly infirm, individual. And I'm not talking about your grandma!
I'm living in my first 'grownup' apartment and I hate it! The walls are so blindingly white but the ceiling is really high and there's no way I'm painting that, lol. It just lacks a certain coziness. Maybe because I have three east facing windows and don't get that much light, maybe because of the horrid beige carpet the landlord put down, and maybe (probably) because of the blinding white walls. Alas, I am a law student and don't have a ton of money to go throwing around re-decorating my apartment. I would like to take a little bit of my funds and "cozy it up" but that takes time & money. I keep telling myself my *next* apartment (when I'm employed!) will be much better.
Agree with all of these. I like the idea of a more organic, less designed, approach. I would certainly live in a place for at least a year before any major remodelling.
Haha. My taste developed when I was seven :) I admired my aunt's old bohemian flat with wooden floors and old stove and very sparse, natural colored furnishing and stuff. Antique farmhouse kitchen table, simple mattress as a bed, white bed spread.. you know. I still remember how it felt to me.
But I do agree on these tips. Especially with not spending a ton of money, and trying to live with as little stuff as possible. Chances are you will move many many times and you will then appreciate having restrained from too much accumulation.
Oh and definitely try to buy good quality second hand pieces rather than IKEA or other particle board stuff you will end up replacing soon enough. Just not economical or ecological.
#10 Play the SIMS over and over and over. It'll help you learn to build a functional home and allow you to experiment with wacky design choices on a whim.
lili09 -- Fabric!! Check out the bargain bin at Walmart, or splurge on a few yards of something you really like. Turn the cut edges over, iron flat, tack up with a few thumb tacks. Or use a sheet. An easy way to add color and design to a blah space. Also mirrors to reflect that eastern light and candles (real or LED) to add sparkle at night. Don't wait. Make yourself a home. You can do it!!
this doesn't apply to only first homes - it applies to any home. Take your time, consider things that are offered to you for free, buy second hand, and use paint. Yep. all checked. And now living in at least the 20th place since leaving my parents' home.
- curtains: check value village or a thrift shop for fun fabrics: our son has curtains made out of an old Ikea duvet cover. we have curtain made out of sari fabric. Bought for pennies at value village and nicer than most curtains you can buy new.
- furniture: keep your eye on kijiji or craigslist. and keep a list of thing syour'e looking for. It'll pop up befor eyou know it. Our dining table, our side board, our family room furniture, our dressers, our bathroom cabinet... all from kijiji. and all work together.
- allow yourself ot have empty space. empty space is ok. and it lets you get ot know your house.
I agree with everyone saying be patient. I've lived in many houses, apartments, and condos, both owned and rented, but I just recently bought the first house I have owned by myself. This was the first time I was able to afford to buy new furniture and it took me months to choose it. In the past if I had a need for a piece of furniture or a piece of artwork I would want to rush out and find something, anything to serve that purpose otherwise my home didn't feel complete. Right now I really want a hutch for my dining room because I found some really nice china at a bargain. I have been scouring Craigslist for six months and have found several items that in the past I may have settled for just to fill the space, but this time I am waiting for the perfect piece. I know if I just settled for something that will work but I'm not thrilled about I will be dissatisfied.
Make sure you measure before bringing big pieces of furniture home. I swore an empire-style antique dresser would fit up our tiny, winding staircase when we first moved in. Guess what? It didn't. Now it sits in my dining room, and is super useful as a buffet/storage. But I would have bought an old wardrobe for that space instead, because we have nowhere to put visitor's coats when they come over. And it still could have been used as dining room storage too. Oh well, I love that dresser anyhow :)
And along those lines, live in your home for a while before making big furniture decisions (if possible), or buying a bunch of stuff that you think you'll need. And don't be afraid to put up some decorations and artwork. Things can be moved around, and it'll make your home feel more like a home.
I wish that I'd lived with just the basics (sofa & ottoman, maybe a reading chair, bed and a box for a nightstand), that is lived with a whole lot of empty empty space, before I filled up the house. I wish I'd taken the time for the house to speak to me, and for my lifestyle to dictate furnishings, rather than trying to duplicate someone else's idea of the perfectly furnished space. Then I would've known how much storage space I'd need for my books or my family china (instead I ended up with pieces too small because I bought by design rather than function first).
I also wish that I hadn't bought whatever caught my eye, because that caused clutter that I'm still recovering from, if I'd taken the time to know my style I'd have collected from a curator-perspective rather than a (gasp) hoarder-because-it-matches-perspective. Now that I've gotten rid of so much stuff, that I bought or inherited, it's a real pleasure going to flea markets & antique shops looking for that last perfect thing for a space.
This list is interesting applied also to the first house you OWN, where theoretically the sky is the limit. It makes a couch mistake small in comparison to a wall mistake.
The best advice I ever got, from a zen builder whose house was a marvel: "Live in the house for a year before you change anything. Let it talk to you."
Ditch the inspiration boards and get the couch cheap off Craigslist, AMEN.
I agree with the fabric, patience, and second-hand ideas.
We only invested lots of money in two new pieces of furniture - a fantastic mattress with a 25 year warranty, and our dream couch (wide enough for both of us to lay on and long enough for my 6'4" boyfriend to stretch out on). Everything else in our house was either given to us by parents, thrifted, picked up off the curb, or high-quality pieces bought from antique stores for pretty much the same price as new particle board crap.
The only thing I'm wary about getting second-hand in NY is upholstered stuff because the boyfriend is afraid of bringing bedbugs into the house. Wood furniture we always check over intimately and clean thoroughly before bringing into the house. This also lets you know about any potential structural issues and hidden scratches before you buy.
My other piece of advice? MAKE A LIST. Think of all the stuff you need for your new digs, make a list, then take it along on shopping trips, check craigslist, and cruise thrift stores and garage sales.
@alyssak and @lili09 - how about a rug? Cozy without adding clutter.
Great advice as I still try to declutter our first home 3 days after our 6th anniversary of the closing.
The first year in our house all our money went into "invisibles" - water-saving toilet, insulation in the walls, new heat pump, etc. I would have rather bought furniture, but we reap the benefits of efficiency every day.
Good Advice. and paint is my best friend.
#5 I also agree with - however I wish I'd known to pause, plan, and PREP before rushing in with the paint roller! The boring part is the patching and sanding of the surface before launching at it with a fabulous new colour, however it is far more tedious having to go back and correct it after the painting is done.
I’ve learned the hard way – having to repaint our lounge room wall twice after rushing the prep part, and also not realising that the ceilings should be painted before the walls until I had white ceiling paint sprayed everywhere.
Lesson now learned, my place is transformed from what it was, with creamy neutrals throughout the main living spaces and vibrant feature walls in the bedrooms.
Defining your big priorities can definitely help... for me, it's been some balance of style, ecology, value for money and ultimately valuing experiences over things.
A limited budget can be a real spur to creativity and can reduce the risk (in the early days while you're figuring out your big priorities) of impulsively spending too much on something you aren't destined to love forever.
Durable Billy bookcases followed me around for years and then moved in with others who were happy to give them more life.
It also makes sense to bargain hunt for the mundane stuff. Sears warehouse outlets were great for new mattresses and appliances at low prices. Furniture surplus stores provided old solid wood office bookcases for less than IKEA prices. Once painted up, they look pretty wonderful. An antique wrought iron bedframe came from Sally Ann. I was prepared to drape a beautiful throw over a comfortable couch from IKEA's as-is room to hide the small damage that knocked the price down, if it put more money in the Nepal (or wherever) fund.
If I ever thought that someday I'd ditch all my recycled bits and pieces, I know better now. My creative kick comes from making it work.
While cast-offs can be useful, they have a way of sticking around well past the point you should get rid of them because it's easy. I think it's best to try to limit what you accept for free to things you'd actually buy. If you wouldn't buy it, don't accept it unless it's something you actually truly require for daily life but can't afford.
As for inspiration boards, while pictures of rooms and homes that I like helped me identify my taste, I actually think for planning your own space it's more useful to make a moodboard with pictures of individual objects rather than finished rooms. It makes it much clearer what elements you are actually drawn to and is more directly mapped towards things you should purchase.
Don't let people convince you to have more than you want just because that's how they live. I would rather buy one set of high-quality, high-thread-count sheets than many sets of cheap scratchy thin and worn sheets. Buy less, but buy quality. My motto has always been "I'd rather have a little of quality than a lot of junk." Less stuff, less clutter, but better quality is definitely the way to go.
I also would like to add, we didn't go to TJMaxx or HomeGoods or Target for a long time after we moved in to our home. I'm glad I didn't get overly excited to fill our house with STUFF. After restraining myself that long, it became clear what I really wanted/needed, instead of running out to the store with every whim!
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