Why Being Single During The Holidays is Actually The Best

Why Being Single During The Holidays is Actually The Best

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Brittney Morgan
Nov 25, 2016

Winter—and the holidays especially—is the season when everyone seems to be smitten and in a relationship. If you're single it can be a tough time to get through without feeling a little lonely. But on the bright side, being in a relationship—especially a new one that you're still figuring out—isn't always the easiest to navigate during the holidays either. If you're feeling down about being uncuffed (it is cuffing season, after all) during the holidays, just remember you have these perks to look forward to.

You can avoid meeting the parents

When you're in a new relationship, the holidays often mean going to meet your partner's family for the first time (or having them meet yours), which can be incredibly nerve-wracking. Meeting the parents—or introducing your partner to your parents—isn't always a bad experience like we're led to believe in movies and TV shows, but stressing over wanting to make a good first impression can take its toll either way. Even if you know you'll all likely get along well, it adds an entirely new layer of stress to season. One of the perks of being single this time of year? Not needing to worry about it at all.

You get to stay home with your family

Spending a lot of time around your family—especially with the stress of the holidays—can get a little frustrating, but if you actively enjoy spending time with your family and friends at home, it can be hard to leave them and spend half (or all) of the holidays elsewhere, like with a significant other's family. When you're single you get to choose what you do and how long you stay, so you get to soak up all the time with your family that you'd like, without worrying about disappointing anyone else.

Coordinating travel is a lot easier

Since being single means you don't necessarily have to worry about going to two places for the holidays (or at the very least, you're likely traveling by yourself), it's a lot easier to figure out your travel plans. From flights to stays (are you staying with friends or family, or in a hotel?), coordinating travel during the holidays is already a stressful and expensive experience, so doing it alone means you can do it on your terms and try to get the best deals and reservations possible.

You save money on gifts

This is pretty much a given—not having a partner also means at minimum you have one less person to buy gifts for (and more, if you also usually buy gifts for your partner's family). It's not necessarily something that should be a big deal—gift giving isn't about keeping score, it's about being thoughtful for people you care about—but it can add up. And if you're already short on cash, having fewer things to pay for is definitely a relief.

Holiday stress won't impact your relationship

The holidays are fun and full of nostalgia and togetherness, but they also tend to be quite a stressful time as well. Between shopping for gifts, preparing meals, getting ready for the new year, traveling and going to all of the parties and gatherings, it all gets super tiring and can leave you feeling spread too thin and overwhelmed. When you're with a partner, that stress can take a toll on your relationship even when you don't mean for it to happen. It can also be difficult if you're spending the holidays far away from each other, because distance can take a toll, too. Of course, if you're in a relationship and you both care about each other and consider each others' needs, you can get past that stress, but in a new dating situation, it can be a challenge. Being single during the holidays means you have a little more time to focus on self-care.

The point is—whether or not you're spending the holidays partnered up or you're on your own, there are pros and cons to every relationship situation, so don't let your dating status get you down.

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