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My husband and I live in an old semi-detached in a small city. We own our half, but the other side is set up in two apartments. New residents moved in about a month ago and have started smoking - a lot — and definitely not just cigarettes. We don't smoke cigarettes and don't begrudge people that smoke, ahem, other things, we just don't want to smell it in our house. We've tried leaving a lighthearted note, explaining that strong smells come right through the walls of the house but it seems like they just don't care. I know that their apartment lease says that they are non-smoking apartments. I'd rather not involve the management company if I don't have to, but I'm also am not relishing the thought of having to have a face-to-face conversation about their habits.
Smoke No More
Dear Smoke No More,
It sounds like your neighbors aren't too concerned that you're getting a little loopy in your own home when you don't want to. I'm not sure an awkward in-person convo is going to do much more than your note. You already let them know — nicely — that their habits are bothering you and they ignored it. I see no reason you need to bend over backwards trying to help these guys out when they can't be bothered to go outside to smoke. If it continues, I'd just go ahead and alert management. You are the ones with a vested interest in keeping your building a nice place for everyone to be. They don't seem to feel the same way.
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