Behavior That’ll Guarantee You Won’t Get Invited Back

published Nov 17, 2016
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Have you ever had a friend stay with you, only to immediately regret it because of their behavior? Maybe they ate all your food and didn’t offer to contribute, or maybe they were much better at making messes than they were at cleaning them up.

On the other hand, have you ever wondered if maybe you’re not a good houseguest? Turns out, you’re not alone—plenty of people share your guest pet peeves (and admit to breaking some rules, too) according to a study from HomeAdvisor, which surveyed 2,000 people in the U.S. about houseguest behaviors. Here are the top 5 bad habits that get under host’s skin:

1. Staying indefinitely

Showing up without an actual departure date in mind—and expecting to be able to stay at your host’s home indefinitely without it being a problem—is certainly not polite houseguest behavior. Respondents rated this bad habit as a 4.3 out of 5 on average, with 5 being the worst.

2. Snooping through their things

You wouldn’t be pleased if you found a guest going through your things, so you definitely shouldn’t snoop around at your friends’ houses. Unsurprisingly, snooping tied with indefinite stays on the bad behavior scale at 4.3.

3. Showing up unannounced

No matter how close you are with someone, it’s not a good idea to show up at their home without asking first (unless you have express permission from them that it’s okay, but even then, you should probably still text them a heads up before you just walk in.) Respondents gave this one a 4.1 out of 5.

4. Bringing a guest without asking

Unless you have permission from your host, you definitely shouldn’t bring a guest to stay with you at someone else’s home. More guests = eating more food, using more resources, and taking up more space. Respondents rated this as a 4 out of 5.

5. Critiquing their home

This should be a given—if someone is nice enough to let you stay with them, you probably shouldn’t complain or make judgmental comments about their home. It’s just rude, so it’s no surprise respondents ranked this one a 3.9 out of 5.

Other bad behaviors to avoid:

  • Making a mess in common areas (and not cleaning it up)
  • Smoking without permission
  • Not following the host’s house rules
  • Being loud and disruptive at night
  • Bringing your pets without asking
  • Not offering to help with chores or cooking
  • Cleaning or rearranging things without asking first
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Millennials, Gen Xers and Baby Boomers admit to their worst houseguest behaviors in this study, but who really overstays their welcome?