How do we talk to our children? Do we make everything a black and white "YES" or "NO", or do we try to see the world and our relationship with them through their eyes?
The Natural Child Project article Compassionate Connection: Attachment Parenting and Nonviolent Communication, by Inbal Kashtan, describes a means of communication known as Nonviolent Communication or NVC. NVC is a way of communicating with children that focuses more on the positive, rather than the negative and places great emphasis on having both our own and their feelings and needs met.
A good example of NVC given in the article is a mother who sees a messy living room. Rather than say to her child, "This room is a mess" she says, "I see clothes, books, markers, and toys on the living room floor" thus offering her child an observation of how she sees the room, rather than passing judgment. By then further explaining to her child that she enjoys having an orderly home, she requests assistance, "Would you be willing to pick up your things and put them in their places?"
We found the entire article to be thought-provoking and interesting. What do you think? Is this giving children too much power in situations or the interaction and communication they deserve?
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