The Spring Cure: Sacred Sexy Space
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What is sexy in the bedroom? This is the perfect question for this week, and one I thought I’d dive into, diverging from my regular path, because this is my favorite chapter and my favorite room. In recommending colors for the bedroom, I usually recommend cooler colors because they promote rest. But I always get the question, what about sex? Shouldn’t the bedroom promote sex as well? Let’s discuss, but first, tweet your week.
I’ve always loved this bedroom….
How To Make Your Bedroom Sexy
Clean It Up – Before we get to color, let me get some obvious things out of the way. Sexy bedrooms are:
2. free of clutter
3. free of home offices or anything that’s reminiscent of a chore
You already know that this is what the Cure is all about, so you’ve got that covered.
Light It Softly – In addition, sexy bedrooms are well lit. We talked about this in the previous week, and what you need is at least three points of light for regular use. They should definitely be table lamps, floor lamps or sconces that throw indirect light into the room, so that the light is SOFT and not harsh.
In the bedroom, shadows are good.
Good, too, are dimmers and – definitely – a candle at bedside for when really low light is desired (a scented candle? I say it’s not necessary and can turn some guests off, but if you do it, go natural and keep it mild).
Yes Mirror! – I don’t care what people say, it may be bad for feng shui, but it’s definitely good for sex. Sara and I once bought a cheap Ikea mirror and turned it into a headboard and it was great until we broke it. 🙂
Matteo sheets are all made of crazily high end material to which they do almost nothing (or so it seems)
Better Bedding – Nice bedding, meaning comfortable bedding that expresses the fact that you are CONSCIOUS of your body and like to take care of it is GOOD. Does this mean bedding that costs more? Generally speaking, yes. I will also share with you that I recently bought new sheets (Matteo Vintage Wash Linen Bedding) for our bedroom (as part of my last Cure) which were expensive and they are not only the most comfortable sheets I’ve slept in in my own home, but they are also very sexy.
Sheets and pillows are the most tactile experience you have in bed (beside bodies) and the very smallest touch of a nice fabric speaks volumes and can create an unexpectedly strong feeling of comfort. Whether you like shiny sateen or raw linen doesn’t matter. That’s your style. Just make sure that it’s real – not synthetic – and better than your guest might expect.
I find this simple room very sexy because of the deep cool colors
Sexy Colors are Not Necessarily All Red – While warm colors (reds, oranges, yellows) are undeniably stimulating and, for this very reason, red has been closely linked with sex for eons, they are NOT great for sleeping or for making you feel relaxed. If the only goal of your bedroom is to stimulate folks, by all means employ lots of these colors, but if your goal is to be relaxing and ALSO to feel sexy, then I recommend a cooler approach.
I think the art of attracting another person is all about expressing one’s comfort with oneself and having style in doing it. A comfortable, cozy lair is a sexy retreat, whereas a bedroom that is too awake and too colorful can be a turn-off.
It’s working too hard.
For this reason, I recommend creating a bedroom that you really want to come home to (alone for starters), that employs restful colors on the cooler side of the spectrum (greens, blues, lavenders, greys, browns, neutrals – white is also cool) and then spicing it up with a few hot pillows or artwork for effect.
A bedroom should be a very personal, private space, and it should stand in contrast to the brighter, warmer other rooms in your home. It’s a retreat from the rest of the home, and that’s sexy.
What does yours look like?
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A lovely cool bedroom from Domino mag (via
Another great neutral toned bedroom that feels warm, but not too much so from Paper Flower Girl via this ATLA post
Sexy with blue and a bit of red from Haldane Martin’s home in South Africa –
Just had to drag up
This Week’s Assignment:
In the Deep Treatment you are diving headfirst into the bedroom, working to declutter and luxurify your space. I do recommend an air purifier and use them ourselves in both of our rooms. While it may seem to some like an indulgence, keep in mind that indoor air is more polluted than outdoor air and that 8 hours of breathing while asleep means you are sucking in a good deal of the room at night.
One Room Workout? Start Cleaning up! Clean up is as important as set up and it usually takes longer than you think, so start in on it now. Additionally, take a close look at your artwork this week. I always find that people do a disservice to their art by hanging it either too high or in an unflattering grouping. Fixing this can really make a room sing.