This Valentine's Day, treat the man in your life to something he'll totally adore—these 45 gifts range from small and sweet to over-the-top indulgent. And to keep this from being too gender essentialist, everything on the list is something that I would be thrilled to both receive from and give to a romantic partner.
Roam Candle, Anthropologie, $20
Buy your dude a candle that smells like his favorite city; I have the SF one (bergamot, sage, cedar) and it smells amazing.
Leather Belt with Solid Brass Buckle, Best Made Co., $198
Let him (and everyone else) know he's the best with this beautiful, heirloom-quality belt emblazoned with the word Best.
Grey Sweatpants (Affordable Version), H&M, $24.99
Lingerie for men. Every dude should have at least one pair, and this price means you could potentially get a couple different shades of grey.
Grey Sweatpants (Luxury Version), MaisonCashmere, $157
Up his grey sweatpants game with these 100% cashmere, made-in-Italy beauties.
French Terry Sweatshirt, J. Crew, $69.50
Grey sweatshirts are also very important, and this sophisticated version is eminently borrowable.
Black Panther Books 1-3 by Ta-Nehisi Coates, Amazon, $33.97/all 3
The oh-so-anticipated Black Panther movie comes out the day after Valentine's Day, so maybe this will tide you—I mean him over until then. If you can swing it, definitely add World of Wakanda by Roxane Gay.
Tickets to Black Panther, your local theatre, prices vary
Up the ante with two tickets to Black Panther, and for true romance (philanthropy is hot), buy tickets for Detroit schoolkids to see the film in your dude's name, too.
Black Panther: The Album CD by Kendrick Lamar, Amazon, $12.37
Look, if you're not having a Black Panther-themed Valentine's Day, we do NOT understand each other. Get with the program.
Staub Mini Fondue Set, Food52, $89
Other than the aforementioned philanthropy, there's nothing more romantic than sharing a pot of molten chocolate (or boiling oil or melted cheese).
Sneaker Cleaning Travel Kit, J. Crew, $20
I love kits & sets and find them deliciously gifty; this one is perfect for sneakerheads on the go.
Cologne Sampler Set, Sephora, $65
This is so fun: this kit contains a dozen cologne samples (in a sassy clutch) and a certificate good for a full-size version of whichever one ends up being the winner. This is a much safer bet than choosing a scent for someone else.
Travel Toiletry Kit, J. Crew, $35
A practical and whimsical gift, complete with a compliment? So sweet, especially for dudes who travel a lot.
DIY Tonic Kit, Food52, $22
Homemade tonic is the best, and this kit is a gift and a fun activity in one!
The Perfect Shave 4 Elements of Perfect Shaving Travel Kit, Sephora, $60
This is a gift that keeps on giving: your dude gets a fantastic shave thanks to a travel-friendly kit, and you get Beauty Insider points and free samples.
Washed Linen Bathrobe, H&M, $49.99
Linen is so indulgent, and lounging about in a robe is the best.
The Cooking Gene by Michael W. Twitty, Amazon, $17.62
I think cookbooks are super-romantic (think of all the meals and cocktails you can make together!), and this one has had praise heaped upon it.
Sesame Tahini Chocolate Gift Box, Food52, $19
Because dudes love chocolate, too! At least the ones who love chocolate do. These 9 truffles are filled with tahini and sesame brittle.
Michel Cluizel Noir Infini Bar, Amazon, $12.49
Michel Cluizel does brilliant things with chocolate, and there's no one else I'd trust to make an actually delicious 99% cocoa bar.
Vosges Library of Mini Exotic Chocolate Bars, Amazon, $24.99
Vosges is known for playful, daring flavors, and the bars in this set are no exception: coconut ash and banana, bacon, guajillo and chipotle, and more.
Nineteen27 S'mores Kit, REI, $19.95
Give these with the promise of a (non-February) camping trip, or roast them romantically over a gas burner.
New Balance 998 National Parks Sneakers, J. Crew, $180
$10 from the purchase of each pair of these sneakers benefits the National Parks Foundation. They're already pricey, but if you really want to splash out, a trip to your nearest National Park would be an amazing gift.
National Parks Annual Pass, $80
Speaking of! Plan your future adventures together, or daydream about him going camping while you stay home and read in the tub.
Wristwatch, H&M, $29.99
I know almost everyone has a phone on them all the time so they don't need a watch, but! almost everyone looks super sexy wearing a watch.
Time Traveler Watch, Steven Alan, $265
If you happen to be in a long-distance relationship, this would be a very romantic, gorgeous, and practical watch.
Muscle Tonic, Unionmade, $36
Give this to your dude with the promise of a rubdown. Or, if you're the buff one in the relationship, give him the gift of allowing him to give YOU a rubdown.
St. George Gin Sampler Pack, ShopWineDirect, $29.99
St. George Distillery makes fascinating products, and this sampler pack (Terroir, Dry Rye, and Botanivore gins) is a great introduction.
Shitake Mushroom-Growing Kit, Terrain, $34
A fun, unnecessary kit with red packaging? Valentine's Day solved.
Jack Black It's The Balm Set, Sephora, $20
Make kissing even better! These balms are fantastic, and this set is a great deal: the tubes usually sell for $7.50 each.
Hand-Dyed Tenuguis, Best Made, Co. $28/each
Does your dude love looking dapper? Add to his pocket square repertoire with these gorgeous cloths made by a 200-year-old Japanese studio.
Baxter of California Shower Kit, Unionmade, $60
Four 10 oz. bottles of luxury shower products, packaged with a quilted bag . . . and perhaps a couple's shower?
3-Month 3-Cheese Subscription, Cowgirl Creamery, $225
There's nothing more romantic than looking forward to the future together, and what's better to look forward to than cheese? Cowgirl Creamery offers 3-, 6-, and 12-month subscriptions.
Fire Pit with Wooden Top, Target, $99.99
The flames of passion! A burning passion! You get the gist. This modern fire pit will provide many romantic evenings to come.
The Sushi Bazooka, Amazon, $10.19
Forget Valentine's Day reservations and stay home and make sushi together instead. A gift and date in one!
80 Acres Olive Oil Salt Scrub, Amazon, $28
This stuff smells amazing and feels even better; it's sure to please Valentines of all genders.
Score by Victoria Denault, Amazon, $10.17
Recently, Paul Scheer tweeted his journey from mocking a hockey-themed romance novel to loving a hockey-themed romance novel. Get your (hockey-themed) dude on board!
Boulevard Smokestack Series Gift Set, Binny's, $17.99
Everything Boulevard makes is amazing, and this set (4 large beers plus a chalice) is an amazing deal.
Black Bolt by Saladin Ahmed, Amazon, $12.98
Comic books always seem like a great gift because they're fun and bright and people might not splurge on them for themselves. And a new comic about Blackagar Boltagon? Such a treat. Throw in a copy of Ahmed's Abbott, too, if you can get your hands on one at your local comic shop.
Leatherman Micra, Amazon, $25.85
Full-size multitools don't work with every outfit and occupation, but everyone should carry a Micra all the time. Plus, it's so shiny! Also available in Valentine's-appropriate red.
Bitter Truth Traveler's Set, Amazon, $34.98
Full-size bottles of bitters are 10 times bigger than they need to be (you'll NEVER finish a bottle), so mini versions are totally the way to go for aspiring mixologists, even if they're not on-the-go.
Meyer Lemon Tree, Stark Bros, $15.99
Finally, I maintain that a lemon tree is the perfect Valentine's Day gift, and Stark Bros. Nursery is the best in the biz. But if you can find lemon trees sold locally, you might be able to score a larger/fuller specimen.