Tossing the Bouquet Toss, and Other "Must-Have" Wedding Traditions You Can Totally Skip if You Want To

Tossing the Bouquet Toss, and Other "Must-Have" Wedding Traditions You Can Totally Skip if You Want To

Taryn Williford
Mar 28, 2016
(Image credit: Eva Tigrova/Shutterstock)

I'm a firm believer that rules are meant to be broken. So if you're feeling pressured to do things a certain way, here's your official permission to break out of the mold and decide for yourself what a wedding really looks like.

Without further ado, here's the complete list of wedding traditions you can skip if you want to:

  • Everything.

What I'm trying to get across is this: Your wedding is your wedding. Wedding traditions–they're all optional. Every single one of them. That said, there are a few western bridal customs that stand out as being the most likely to be left out of an event in 2016...

A wedding dessert bar designed by Sugar Canvas, featured on Eat Drink Pretty.
(Image credit: Kenroy Lumsden)

Wedding Cake

Say the word "wedding" and watch your dessert costs skyrocket. There's nothing wrong with serving a humble "regular" cake for dessert at your reception. Or, choose something else entirely (I served gourmet popsicles at mine).

The Bouquet Toss

Depending on your crowd, this single ladies' tradition can be really fun, or really embarrassing. Skip it if you want, and just unapologetically dance to Beyoncé some other time later in the night. (Plus: Keep your beautiful bouquet the whole night!)

The Whole Garter Thing

Not interested in holding grandma as a captive audience while your new husband hikes up your dress? Take it off the table.

A beautiful bride in a stunning orange Aurelio Costarella gown, from Green Wedding Shoes and Christine Pobke.
(Image credit: Christine Pobke)

A White Wedding Dress

Relationship history need not determine what a bride should wear on her wedding day. If you like the look of a white gown, go for it. But there's a whole rainbow of colors that will all look equally fetching for a bride.

The Wedding March

Real talk: My bridesmaids walked in to "Royals" by Lorde, and I followed down the aisle to a White Stripes song. Music is such an underappreciated way to inject a little personal style to your ceremony.

Not Seeing Each Other Before the Ceremony

You're marrying your best friend. Somebody who calms you down when things are stressful and who can make you smile no matter what's going on in the world. Why wouldn't you want that person there with you on the morning of your wedding day? Even if you split up later on to get ready, you can arrange an "first look" to meet all dolled up before you walk down the aisle. Advantages? You first glimpse of each other on your wedding day will be really intimate, and a first look also makes the photography timeline a hell of a lot easier.

Your Bridesmaids Should Have Matching Dresses

No. They don't even have to have matching genders.

What classic wedding traditions would you skip?

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