Alice, What's the Best Way to Seat Divorced Parents at a Wedding Reception?

Alice, What's the Best Way to Seat Divorced Parents at a Wedding Reception?

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Jun 28, 2016
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Dear Alice,

My daughter's wedding seating will be assigned. The groom's folks have been divorced for 15 years. The father is bringing his long-time girlfriend. Where do we seat the MOG? It seems awkward to have them seated at the same table and he would not like it. She will be attending solo. To make matters worse, she makes racial comments and talks about every conspiracy theory out there. She's on meds but forgets to take them for weeks at a time which makes her a bit unpredictable. Any suggestions please? We really want the mother to feel welcome yet not have her offend those around her.

Unsure Mother of the Bride

Dear Unsure,

If the groom's mother is prone to offensive and inappropriate conversation, it seems unlikely she won't upset or at least annoy some wedding guests regardless of where she is seated. My advice is to have each of you — you (and your husband if you're currently together), the mother of the bride, and the father of the bride (along with his girlfriend) — host their own table at the reception, ideally equidistant to the bride and groom's table.

If you think the groom's mother is too volatile or unreliable to host a table, consider placing her at your own table and framing it to her as wanting the mothers to be together. This may be a bit of a burden on you, but could help keep potential drama to a minimum.

Good luck!


p.s. Readers — any advice for this potentially sticky situation?

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