Mindfulness is being embraced everywhere these days, from the Kindergarten classroom to the company retreat. What is mindfulness, exactly? Susan Smalley, Ph.D., and Diana Winston, co-authors of Fully Present, say that mindfulness is "an accepting and kind attitude toward yourself and your present moment experience." One that will change your relationship to life.
Sounds enticing, huh? Here are a few tips on how to integrate the practice of mindfulness into your home.
1. Set an intention when you wake up. Before you get out of bed, take a few deep breaths and a minute to give thanks for the day. What do you want to accomplish today beyond your to-do list? What do you want to appreciate, acknowledge, and communicate in your life?
2. Make your bed. Making your bed is a productivity-enhancing and mood-boosting habit that can promote the adoption of other healthy habits. Take three minutes (yep, I timed it) and start your day off right.
3. Do your laundry. Karen Maezen Miller, a Zen Buddhist priest and author of Hand Wash Cold: Care Instructions for an Ordinary Life, says, "A full hamper reminds us that running away from the things we would rather avoid makes our lives feel like an endless chore. Face it. Taking responsibility for your own well-being is the first step in transformation."
4. Practice mindful eating. Eat when you are hungry, not when you are tired, sad, anxious or bored. Take a minute to appreciate your food: Where did it come from? How did it make its way to you? What people might have been involved in getting the food to your plate? How will this food nourish you? (Studies show that when we practice mindful eating, we take in only what is necessary.)
5. Turn off the TV, the computer and any other stimulating devices at least two hours before bed every evening. Our brains need time to build melatonin, which is critical for deep rest. Personally, I find that this technology curfew is one of the best House Rules I have.
6. Slow down; Literally. When we race around at a frenetic pace, our minds operate at the same speed. And who can sleep at night when your head is spinning like a Nutcracker ballerina after too many Red Bulls? When you slow down your physical actions, even just the smallest bit, your shoulders relax, your jaw un-clenches, and your mind can be a bit more at ease.
7. Pause to think about your consumption. Give gratitude to all of the people behind each purchase: The person who delivered your Amazon package, the person who packed it and shipped it, the person who assembled your new book, the person who wrote it, edited it, the list goes on and on. Think also about how your consumption affects the greater world. Do you really need to order another pair of shoes from Zappos? Think of everything that this purchase means; it's not just a new pair of shoes. It's a pair of shoes that requires a box, packaging materials, time and energy to ship, time and energy to store and maintain, time and energy to pass it along once it is no longer serving you. Sometimes the greatest gift you can give yourself is deciding NOT to purchase something.
8. Take a ten minute "mind re-set" break in the middle of the day. We live in a world that is turned on at full-speed, full-blast, full time. The body craves balance and one great way to achieve it is by doing nothing for ten minutes a day. Mindfulness is sometimes called the "seat belt of mental health." The body cultivates what we practice and practice changes the breath. By practicing becoming relaxed and aware, we can actually become more so in our daily life.
Fasten your seat belts, because the holidays are here. This holiday season, consider taking a few minutes each day to cultivate a home that is more mindful, a mind that is more peaceful, and an attitude that keeps you happier at home.
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Thank you for the reminders.
So nice to see Apartment Therapy is including articles like this one. Good, simple and vital advice in this age of frenetic pace and consumption.
There are two sides to every coin. Buying that pair of shoes from Zappos contributes to the economy, allows people to have jobs and the company that makes the shoes to exist. That "time and energy" isn't wasted, as people are making a living doing it. As for the unnecessary packaging, reuse the box and materials to send Christmas gifts to far away loved ones. Yeah, I want the shoes.
This is such a beautiful post! I have recently been TRYING to set a technology curfew in my home. On the days I do, I sleep so much more soundly and feel more rested in the morning.
Great article! So needed in our society today. I'm with you!
But technology isn't the only thing that's stimulating the mind. Reading, listening to music, and having in depth conversations can also stimulate the mind.
vix, that isn't the other side of the coin, although the writer did seem to imply that mindful purchasing means buying less. If you are actually thinking about these things on the way to making your shoe purchase, you are practicing mindfulness. You've consciously considered your consumption. Your answer just happened to be you want the shoes and you are going to buy them. The problem is many of us make purchases the way we eat -- because we are stressed, bored, or sad we just buy without thinking about why. Frankly, sometimes satisfying a want *is* a need.
These are great tips.
I teach a k-2 classroom of children with emotional disabilities. I work very hard at helping them learn to be mindful. This is a life skill that will help every child be more successful in life. It is wonderful to see AT writing an article for mindfulness in the home. I plan on sending it home to my parents. I will also be adding some of the tips to my own mindful routine.
Lovely post, thank you.
Amen to number 7 (mindful comsumption). I am really trying on that front, but occasionally still find myself loading up the cart with relatively useless Target-dollar-section items. I've found that when I am able to resist and make do with what I have, it gives me lots of satisfaction. Also, the purchases that I do make (after research and careful consideration) are much more satisfying than impulse buying.
Finally, I find that Yoga really promotes a "mindful state of mind," if you know what I mean.
Lovely ideas. Especially if you have plenty of free time.
Sadly my two small children/dog/home/full-time household income-providing business are unlikely to be on board.
When someone can magic me up another few hours a day, I'm all over being 'mindful', until then, I'll do what I can when I can and be grateful I'm able.
(Wrote this during a 10-minute lunchbreak. Taken @2.25pm, because I've been too busy to do so before. Oh I'm mindful all right, mindful that whoever wrote this is blessed with a slightly easier life than mine.)
"mindfulness is "an accepting and kind attitude toward yourself" - ? No, sorry, Dr. Susan & Co, what buddism teaches us it's not towards yourself , it's towards others
I do have time, but I don't think that's the issue really. Mindfulness, as I understand it, is a Zen Buddhist concept that relates to being present with what is. If you are working or (especially) if you are tending children, to be with what you are doing is the difficult and life-enhancing practice. Really, it doesn't matter what we are doing because if we aren't there, really there, it's all the same. I know not because I am perfect, or because I have lots of time, but because I am often not present with my experience. Just like so many of the rest of us.
I agree with doing things slowly. I find that, for me, rushing tasks is counter productive.
Thanks for the article! I am a clinical psychologist and I have seen the practice of mindfulness change many lives for the better. To strive toward being present and adopting an accepting attitude toward what is; whether it is others, self, emotions, thoughts, a situation or the world as a whole, is to move toward a healthy and abundant life. So glad that AT is passing it on!
I'm still confused about the technology curfew. More often than not, I find that reading a book before bedtime is just as stimulating than watching tv, if not more so. So, if avoiding too much mental stimulation is the goal, then one is basically left to do little but meditate for two hours before bedtime. Exercising is out because you'd never get to sleep. Cooking stimulates more senses than watching tv. Cleaning is basically exercising with a purpose, so that's out. What do you do for 2 hours to avoid mental stimulation?
Definition of MINDFUL: bearing in mind : aware . Synonyms: alive, apprehensive, aware, cognizant, conscious, sensible, sentient.
Add a letter and you get MINDFULL - which is where most of us probably live! Working on getting to the first definition. mb
I'm a little hazy on the science behind it but note that it's a technology curfew, not a "doing things" curfew. The lit screens on our gadgets affect the chemistry of your brain and prevent you from falling into a restful sleep (again, scientifically minded folks, don't jump on the lay-person's description).
Thank you.
I love how every month or so Apartment Therapy gently reminds us we should be making our beds. :)
Re 2: I do my laundry only when the basket is full or overflowing because I am mindful of the environment and only run full loads to save water.
Perhaps another view in "being present" akin to mindfulness. I do feel that if we were more present there may be the opportunity to realize what would be the best for you in the moment thus developing your intuitive/wisdom side...I imagine much of the distractions would fall away ... just a guess.
Thanks for this article.
Beautifully written article with such nourishing guidelines on better living throughout the year. Thank you! Please have more pieces like this that take us away from the buy-buy-buy mindset. I know, those articles don't boost advertising dollars. I suppose I need to ration my AT reading as well.
I am for things that help my life and others to be filled with joy and peace and abundance while keeping it simple.
For me, living with mindful intention is necessary for living a peaceful and joyful life.
Thanks for the posts!
"Oh I'm mindful all right, mindful that whoever wrote this is blessed with a slightly easier life than mine."
Get over yourself. You chose to have two small children, a dog, a home, and a business. If it's too hard then change it, and spare us your pity party.
With all due respect - Madame Suggia, I'm talking to you - mindfulness isn't something you do in your spare time. You don't have any spare time; nobody does. And that's the point.
It's about paying attention - really paying attention - to what's in front of you: your two small children, your demanding job, your mountains of laundry, your unpaid bills, your dying father, your pounding head, your aching heart. All of that stuff isn't what makes you busy. It's what makes you human.
Next time you have a 10-minute break at 2:25 in the afternoon, give yourself a break and get offline and out of your chair - even if you have to go hide in the bathroom to get a moment to yourself. Baby steps.
@fc, I find reading before bedtime very relaxing but I'm choosy about what I read. It must be a relaxing book such as a quiet romance. It can't be anything upsetting or anything requiring too much thought! A nice, quiet book actually helps me sleep.
I, too, am a bit confused about the 2 hours before bedtime. That would be nice if I HAD the two hours. I usually watch some TV in the evening (i.e. in winter), but if there is a movie, it never start prior to 9 pm and the commercial breaks stretch it till 11 if not 11:30 pm. I get up at 6:30. If I tack another 2 hours after the movie, I would not get much sleep.
Whatever. I stopped at making the bed cause I shouted out a big 'AMEN'... I have been trying to share that truth with my husband for years!
Thanks for this post!
Since reading "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle, about this exact thing, I have found my life to be a lot less heavy. It's all just about being present. Book, or no book. Recognizing the taste/texture/feel of every single little moment, in the moment. It changes everything, for the better.
I make my bed every morning. Then the kitten crawls in it and the adult cat jumps on the moving lump under the covers. No wonder I am late for work so often.
This is a wonderful post that really does make us think about things. I'm marking this to refer to and to be mindful of people place and things and of course my home.
Thank you for such a great post
I'[m shocked by the snarkiness of the posts here. Hmmmm.
Great post. I am going to work on keeping the idea of pausing to consider consumption in mind.
My SO and I switched up our morning schedule about three months ago and we now get up at the same time, whereas he used to get up last. This means I can make the bed now, and it does make such a difference. Brings a sense of calm and order to the bedroom.
Thanks- I really enjoyed the post and all of the comments and discussion it is inspiring!
When I don't have enough time, that's the moment to assess: do I need to spend the the time sitting and watching the movie or tv show, or should I read/bake/study/excercise instead? We all have limited time, but to me mindfulness is being actively aware that I control the choice in how I use my time.
I think some people missed the point here. It's not about changing your life to make it easier, as much as it is about adjusting your own attitude and focus. I work from home and have two little ones (and two dogs, and am slowly getting my master's blah blah blah) so it is really easy to get caught up in everything I have to do and overwhelm myself. For me, being mindful means taking the time to organize my thoughts and actions, and, most importantly, to be present in whatever I am doing. If I take a break to play with my daughter, I don't think about the emails piling up in my inbox. Limiting my multi-tasking allows me to be more productive with my time, and it becomes amazing how much more I get done when I truly focus on one thing at a time.
As for the technology curfew, I agree with what one previous commenter said. Research has shown that computer and TV screens provide a different, less healthy form of stimulation than reading, playing a board game etc. You don't need to sit in silence for two hours, but getting away from technology allows your brain to settle down much faster.
Madame Suggia...I don't walk in your shoes, but I would hazard a guess that lots of people who have as many, if not more, obligations and responsibilities as you do find that incorporating simple techniques, like taking a few moments during the day to just breathe, or turning off the the tv, etc. in the evening, actually helps them meet their obligations and responsibilities with more energy and focus. And in the process, it leads to realizing which daily activities and habits are ultimately stress-inducing, deceptive time-wasters that simply aren't necessary anymore, if ever. In that way Mindfulness can only lead to having MORE time. That's how you "magic" it up.
I am so glad to have read this tonight. After a not-so-great week this is a nice reminder to take a breath. Making the bed in the morning, eating well, and giving myself more than enough time to get ready for the day has really put me in a positive place. But, it's always nice to get a refresher. :)
@bejeweled. Right there with you.
Great, great post!
Excellent. More posts like this one, please!!!
I love making my bed, and doing laundry. However... I screen right up till bed time! Dammit, busted.
The opposite of a mindful life is a mindless life. I choose mindfulness! We all have to do the dishes, only some us are grateful that we have had a meal, grateful to the person who grew the food, prepared the food, the grocer who helped us get the food onto our plates, the person who gave us the recipe, the company we may have shared the meal with, so many wonderful things to be mindful of while we're at the sink! Others may spend the time washing up cursing at having to do yet another chore in their ever-busy life, but you know what? The dishes still have to get done but we do get to choose how we feel about it!
Regarding mindful eating, I would add 'Eat at set mealtimes'. For me, making dinner a priority every evening, however busy I might be with other things, helps me to focus on what is important to me. If it doesn't fit in with cooking and eating, it can wait till tomorrow!
It's easy to speak out a hundred words, but difficult to make it happen. Anyway, nice tutorial.
All this 'mindful home' hooey is just sugar coating the more blunt phrase "Pay Attention!" or "Focus!" and "If something's staring at you in the face, do it or act on it.". Two women getting paid to tell others to 'Don't Worry, Be Happy and Do Laundry'. This was around in the '70s.
Can't believe some are treating this like an awakening. Really?
I often marvel at how frazzled our modern lives are. We, in the first world, have an abundance of time saving gadgets like washing machines and vacuums, machines to do the manual work for us. We can pop into a grocery store and buy every bite of our food ready made, taking just minutes out of our day. All these conveniences, yet people continue to stress out.
This wonderful post reminds us that life is about the journey through it, that we should appreciate the era in which we live and enjoy every single moment of it.
To the snarky commenters, you need this post more than you think. I can't imagine going through life so angry that a simple post on AT sends one into a tizzy.
Here are my tips for a mindful home. There is no extra thinking involved. Thank you.
@Madame Suggia, I can so identify with you. I had two little kids, two dogs, a demanding, high-pressure job that supported my family and a demanding, unsupportive spouse. Looking back now that my kids are college age I wonder how I lived through the anxiety and stress of those years. They'll be over in a flash and your kids will be gone, but you won't forget the stress and you'll wonder if you could have done some things differently for yourself and your kids. I get that you don't have time for yoga class right now. I'd just say to consider, if you have 5 minutes to post on an internet forum that your life sucks, you have 5 minutes to breathe and meditate.
Thank you for this post, it is wonderful.
I think that the stimulation part comes from the content. If you were watching something on TV that caused you to go "Oh wow" or read something that was particularly soothing and encouraging to you...that would be helpful. Read to your kids cuddled up on the couch, write a letter (by hand, on paper) to a good friend, learn to knit or to crochet...light candles around the living room and listen to classical music, take a warm bath. Makes me feel better just talking about it!
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So loved this! Nice job AT!
i thought this was a wonderful post. @madame suggia, i do understand how busy life can be. i'm a 22 year old single mom working in the corporate world. i also foster dogs. oh, and live in a 700sqft apartment. however, there are plenty of times to be mindful. and as many people have said, its not a time consuming thing at all! it's an appreciation for the things you have and an acceptance for what you do not.
mindfullness mixed with "radical acceptance" has changed my life from stressful and complicated to SO enjoyable and fun.
AT you should do a follow up with a "radical acceptance" article :)
A bit of science to the rescue:
(1) I've never seen a study anywhere that demonstrates that exercising within a few hours of bedtime delays, interrupts, or in any way worsens sleep quality. Go on--search PubMed and let me know if you can find anything relevant. A recent study Flausino et al. (2012, Psychophysiology; PMID 22092095) found that recent exercise actually improved sleep quality in their test subjects (healthy young men).
(2) There is good evidence that exposure to blue-frequency (~natural) light can interfere with melatonin production and disrupt sleep (e.g., West et al., J Appl Physiol, 2011; PMID 21164152). Light disruption of sleep also induces depressive symptoms in mice independent of its effects on circadian rhythms (Nature or Science paper from the past month or two). Partial solution: Install f.lux to automatically change your monitor lighting after sunset. Also, don't use full-spectrum lights after dark. Once these things are taken care of, a technology curfew makes no sense to me.
Untested heuristics and rules of thumb can waste years and lives, and it's downright negligent to relay them to others without the proper caveats (e.g., "This works for me..." v. "I read in a comment somewhere that..." v. "I read a peer-reviewed study claiming..." v. "This seems reasonable given certain assumptions..."). Obviously, we can't research everything, but we should check on the biggies.
Ideally, AT writers would be saving us the trouble. The level of thought in the articles here really depresses me sometimes and makes me feel I'm wasting my time. I don't mean to be trollish.... I'll just mention these studies and leave.
Disclaimer: I'm a scientist, but this isn't my area of research at all.
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Well I'd like to take a mindful moment to thank you for this terrific post!
This is a great post, I think I calmed down just reading it :) If only I could get fiance to turn off the tv before bed! Everything else is feasible though, and that's my favorite type of list!!
Although the post describes possible results from practicing mindfulness, I agree with the other users who are pointing out that this article could be misleading. I think the author takes a bit too much liberty in using the title "mindfulness" to describe a list of things we should do on a daily basis. Mindfulness is a form of meditation which, if practiced regularly, will result in a separation of thoughts (which cloud your thinking and cause stress and anxiety) from action (your knee jerk reaction to your thoughts). The greater the space between the thoughts and the actions, the greater the mindfulness, and the greater the inner peace.
great post!
Here's a good article on mindfulness:
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/16/opinion/sunday/the-power-of-concentration.html?pagewanted=all
The irony for me is that "taking ten minutes out" or "setting a purpose for the day" always end up seeming like just one more thing on the to-do list.
What a refreshing article! Thank you AT!
Than you AT I needed to be reminded. I really did.
Thanks, keep up with these type of posts we all can use some help to remind us to slow down breath and be still.